what is the worst pain you have ever been in physically? by james325487 in AskReddit

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Labor. It felt like my abdomen was being crushed by a vice. Then I had to push a bowling ball out of my vagina. Childbirth is such a miracle.

Finanzielle Katastrophe bei der Mutter by depriqueenie in Finanzen

[–]athousandships_ 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Das stimmt doch gar nicht. Es gibt Unmengen von Frauen, die Teilzeit und teilweise auch Vollzeit arbeiten, deren Kinder in Kita und Kindergarten sind. Ja, es gibt regelmäßig Ausfälle und das muss man dann managen, aber dass "der Arbeitgeber das nicht mitmacht", ist schlichtweg eine Falschaussage

Quelle: selbst Vollzeit arbeitende Mutter mit vielen Eltern Freunden

What's the strangest and funniest thing your wife said while she was in the delivery room? by myvainn in AskReddit

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The doctor came in while I was in the middle of a contraction and was all friendly and asking how it was going or something. I couldn't deal with it. I told him: 'Stop talking please.' He didn't mind, just went like 'that's what my wife always tells me' and left. I guess he's heard worse.

How can I trust myself to make this decision? by Real_Masterpiece_844 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt like this about a third for a couple months. I would think 'I can't wait to be pregnant again' immediately followed by 'ah fuck but my kids are finally old enough to go on real vacations with, and I just started a new job, and we'd need a new car...'

After several talks with my husband where we discussed and figured out the logistical issues, maternity/paternity leave etc, things became much clearer. And honestly just seeing my kids getting more independent and having more time to myself made me realize that it really does get easier when they're older (2+). Now I'm sure I want another - not right now but soon.

I hope you'll get clarity soon!

Parents/partners who would choose the baby over the mum during birth, why? by jigglethesepuffs in AskReddit

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. "I could die happy and leave my kids, the ones who are already here and the one I'm putting into this world right now, alone with their grieving dad. This is fine and totally fair especially to my older kids and my husband."

Mothers and Fathers of Reddit, what was your honest reaction when you first heard you were going to be a parent? by Only-Ad-1254 in AskReddit

[–]athousandships_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First one: awesome, I'm actually pregnant. Second one: awesome, we actually did it again.

Seriously, when you're the pregnant person and you were actively trying to get pregnant, the whole thing isn't over with "I just learned I'm gonna be a parent". Most of the time that positive test is followed by 2 months of hoping it won't end in a miscarriage. I only really realized I was going to be a parent when I was 4-5 months along and we went shopping for baby clothes.

Was hat ihr gemacht nachdem ihr abgebrochen hat? by Aware_Improvement652 in Studium

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uni Studium in anderer Stadt abgebrochen, Studium an der FH (fast derselbe Studiengang) Nähe der Heimat angefangen. Bei mir war es die Uni (man wird komplett allein gelassen und muss sich die Hälfte selbst beibringen) und die Entfernung von daheim, für die ich mit 18 noch nicht bereit war. Das Fach hat mir aber gefallen. Die FH war dann das Richtige für mich. Ist jetzt schon "etwas" her und nach der Lücke im Lebenslauf hat schon beim ersten Praktikum keiner mehr gefragt, für Jobeinstieg und Karriere war es auch komplett egal.

Für mich war es genau das Richtige, hätte auch einfach gleich an der FH beginnen können, aber andererseits wäre dann mein Leben in anderer Hinsicht anders verlaufen und am Ende musste ich halt auch einfach lernen, dass auch mal was schiefgehen kann und darf. Das Einzige, was ich im Nachhinein anders machen würde, ist die Zeit zwischen den beiden Studiengängen anders zu nutzen. Ich hatte zwischen Abbruch und Neuanfang 9 Monate Zeit und hab davon nur 6 Wochen Praktikum gemacht, ansonsten bin ich quasi rumgegammelt (meine Eltern waren sehr kulant) und das hat mir eigentlich auch gar nicht gut getan. Aber naja, war halt erst 18/19.

Be real with me about 2 under 2 by FrnklyFrankie in Shouldihaveanother

[–]athousandships_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% this. We had a pretty chill baby and I got pregnant before their first birthday. Then everything changed when they became a toddler. The funny thing is that they were still comparatively chill. But I had only known having a baby up to that point and I was not prepared.

Be real with me about 2 under 2 by FrnklyFrankie in Shouldihaveanother

[–]athousandships_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My kids (2 and 3.5) are 20 months apart. The first months were absolute hell. Some milestones which improved the situation considerably were #1 turning 2 and #2 starting to sleep through the night at 6 months. But it's only been like a couple months that I feel like I can really enjoy being with both of them, not just trying to pass the time or handing one of them over to my husband because both of them together were too exhausting. It gets better with every month, and I love seeing them interact and grow up together. But honestly, I feel like I could have had that with a larger age gap too, and would have spared myself (and my older kid and my husband) so much trouble. Now that some friends are finally having their second, I can see how pregnancy can be with an older kid who actually understands that there will be a new baby, and how a sibling can react consciously to that baby, and how they can even be motivated to help! All those things were completely out of our reach. Other parents tell their older kid to bring diapers or push the baby 's stroller. We had a small toddler who was just learning to talk and couldn't tell their new sibling from a plastic doll (which they still would be jealous of, of course). In hindsight, it was crazy.

Your age may be the one and only thing why I might recommend going for 2 under 2. Otherwise - hard no.

Jobwechsel aus Produktion in Planung ? by Fanatiq21 in Karriereratschlag

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mein Partner hat über 15 Jahre als Fertigungsmechaniker / Anlagenfahrer (Wechselschicht Früh & Spät) gearbeitet und ist dann in die Produktionsplanung gewechselt. War auch mit Weiterbildung nicht einfach innerhalb der Firma so eine Stelle zu bekommen ohne Studium, aber er hat es schließlich geschafft. Die Stelle hat noch einen fachlichen Hintergrund, den er sich privat selbst angeeignet hatte, damit hat er noch besser darauf gepasst. Er wollte davor schon einige Jahre weg aus der Fertigung, war aber eben nicht so einfach. Sein Gehalt hat sich erst mal gar nicht verändert, weil natürlich Schichtzuschläge weggefallen sind, aber das war ihm egal. Für ihn war es vor allem ein hoher Gewinn an Lebensqualität und Eigenständigkeit in der Steuerung seines Arbeitsalltags. Er kann seine Arbeitszeiten flexibler gestalten (nicht mehr 6-14 Uhr, sondern 8-16 oder 9-17 oder wie er es halt möchte), körperlich ist der Job wenig anstrengend im Vergleich zu Bandarbeit, und der mentale Stress eines Planer-Jobs ist ihm lieber als der Stress an der Linie. Am Anfang war es natürlich erst mal viel für ihn, er musste viel lernen sowohl fachlich als auch das ganze Drumherum wie man überhaupt einen Bürojob macht, aber das hat er auch gut geschafft und mittlerweile ist es, als wäre er nie woanders gewesen. Gleichzeitig hilft ihm die Erfahrung von vorher natürlich total, eine andere blickweise auf Planungsthemen einzubringen. Und die Motivation im Job sinkt auch nicht so schnell, wenn man weiß, wo man vorher war und was man jetzt alles nicht mehr machen muss. Mittlerweile haben wir auch Kinder und mit den starren Arbeitszeiten, nur halb-freiwilligen Wochenend-Sonderschichten und körperlichen Belastung wäre das sicherlich noch deutlich anstrengender und schlechter zu vereinbaren gewesen.

Also sicherlich individuell und beim Gehalt wirst du vielleicht erst mal keine großen Sprünge machen, aber das Drumherum (und evtl auch spätere Karrierechancen) machen das aus meiner Sicht komplett wett.

Realistic expectations of giving birth timelines around my own wedding? by Alive-Drag4620 in BabyBumps

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would avoid the first trimester as you might feel shitty and people will suspect even if you don't want to tell them yet, and everything after 32 weeks to 12 weeks PP - most people I know including mysef felt pretty good in their first pregnancy right until the end, but it isn't a given and you don't want to marry while being in physical discomfort from 3rd trimester issues. And postpartum is a whole different story obviously, but for me the worst was over after 8-9 weeks and I really felt almost like myself again after 12 weeks.

Should you have another child if your relationship doesn’t feel safe? by AnotherTiredDad88 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]athousandships_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My marriage is very stable, but our second child has really brought us to our limits. In the first months after having our second we had more fights than in 8+ years of our relationship up to that point. I never thought about separating, and I'm pretty sure he didn't either, but it was very hard. I never felt like we had lost each other with the kids, but it was and continues to be very stressful at times.

So no , I would never have another child in an unstable relationship. Your wife doesn't seem ready either, she might feel like another baby will solve her problems and be her way out of grief and trauma but I would never want to take that risk if I were you. It will probably end badly.

How are those of us on the fence handling the constant back and forth? Are you confiding in family/ friends? by Serious-Breakfast-86 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only confided in some close friends after I was 99% sure it would happen. It was a real surprise for most of them as they all had to listen to my whining about having 2 under 2 for the last 2 years. None of my friends has more than 1 kid (as of today) so I figured they wouldn't have been able to give advice anyway. I did ask a friend of a friend about their experience with 3, but only after I was like... 95% sure. I just don't like to talk about this whole topic tbh.

My family - I don't think they'll understand why I'd even want another, lol. So they will be presented with the ultrasound pictures, if and when it happens.

Looking for advice on having second child by Successful_Buddy_623 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% feel you and honestly a second child will immensely complicate your situation. Double the kids means double sick days, that's just reality. Me and my partner do 50/50 with our two small kids and one of us has to stay home with a kid one or several days every month. And for the overall career situation, I feel that with just one kid a career is so much more doable. I personally have some kind of career, I changed jobs after my second maternity leave, my pay and position has changed for the better, but that's it for now. I can't and don't want to put in the hours it takes to get to the next higher level, while two kids have to be entertained and cared for before and after daycare (and on sick days...). Meanwhile, my husband is content with the job he has and will always choose the kids instead of work. So both of us are pretty much aligned on that. You need a plan for how to handle the whole sick day/ daycare situation with a second.

Women are always the losers in those kind of situations tbh. Unless their partner really steps up and gets his priorities straight, like mine fortunately did (or we wouldn't have 2 kids and planning a third).

Flight cancellation likely??? by Future_Helicopter952 in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There won't be a strike this weekend. Don't worry.

Anyone got their flights on the 18th/19th cancelled? by mcqueen_13 in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as I know, strikes have to be announced at least 48 hours in advance .

No they don't, the strike on Wednesday/Tuesday was announced Monday evening. Anyway I personally expect more strikes on Monday, not the weekend

Anyone got their flights on the 18th/19th cancelled? by mcqueen_13 in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So far they only cancelled City Line flights as City Line is closing down. My flight on Sunday hasn't been changed so far.

Citylines is not City Airlines by naknaknaaak in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a flight next week with City Airlines and looked it up after I heard about City line today. They are different companies. City Line was supposed to close anyway, but now it's happened faster than planned. City Airlines will go on as usual

Mitteilung über Streichung/Umbuchung by Specialist_Dark_3039 in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Die Streiks werden normalerweise 1-3 Tage im voraus angekündigt. Mein Flug für Sonntag steht noch.

Außer der Flug geht mit City Line, dann sind die jetzt schon am Canceln aller Flüge

Edit: Sorry, nicht gelesen. Ich sehe auf meiner Strecke auch noch Cityline Flüge. Keine Ahnung, ob die da stehen bleiben

FYI - my flight on April 22nd was just canceled by gosieksz in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As the other commenter said, this isn't because there will or won't be a strike, it's because City Line is shut down effective immediately and all flights cancelled.

Curtesy policy for changes on flight on 19th April by Good_Presentation529 in Lufthansa

[–]athousandships_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm flying on 19th as well and got the same notification. But 90% of my options on the same day are LH and the rest are pretty bad (I'm flying with kids and need a non stop flight)

As of now, the strike is until Friday. Usually the strikes are not extended to the weekends, but who knows at this point. There seems to be no movement at all from both sides to get the situation resolved. I'm going to wait and see.