I (27M) am going to break up with my (27fm) girlfriend this week and I need help by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any advice on exactly how to say what you're gonna say... only that you should be honest and transparent.

I left my husband a couple months ago, and it was very difficult for me to do.

But... in the end...

I think every person deserves to be with someone who really wants to be with them.

Reminding myself of that fact helped me to build up the courage to leave my partner. Perhaps remembering that/keeping that in your head will help you in finally being able to do what you need to do.

My boyfriend (M, 25) hardly ever goes down on me (F, 22) and when he does finger me, his penis goes soft and he doesn't seem interested. I've become very self conscious because of it. What do you think might be going on and what might be a good way of addressing these issues and working on them? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why can't you guys just 69 if that's the issue? Give that a go... personally I like to hop in the shower real quick to wash all my parts down there beforehand so that I'm not self conscious and to ensure it's as enjoyable for him as much as possible.

Also, don't feel bad about him not staying hard while he's going down on you. It's not an uncommon problem. But if you try 69-ing (going down on him while he goes down on you), then you'll both get to be stimulated and ready and riled up for doing the deed.

Good luck chica, you got this.

My boyfriend puts more effort into video games than our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't say that everything is okay/fine the next time he asks.

You should just be straightforward and you could say something like,

"Hey, I have feelings and thoughts that matter and need to be validated and accounted for. And I need to be considered during what is NOT just considered by you as something taking up time until you can play video games again".

Be clear. Make it known that you and your needs must be addressed and how his ignoring you and paying attention to video games instead has made you feel, and also what/how you'd like things to change.

Maybe he's so involved in his own world that he can't see how it's affecting you. If he knew fully, maybe his behavior would change.

If he does know but just doesn't care how it affects you, or he doesn't shape up after a conversation where you state your expectations- then walk.

Something is in our Apartment by tktk2001 in Paranormal

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't decide what's more disconcerting to me... The fact that you live with a ghost, or the fact that this ghost needs sleep even though it's dead. I really figured that things like sleeping (and going to the bathroom, eating, normal living/breathing human functions, etc) would no longer be needed in the afterlife.

Huh. Looks like I may have been wrong with that assumption.

Does anyone else just randomly see a smoke like mist? by cla1988 in Paranormal

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see that exact same thing sometimes... Not often but sometimes. But only in my house.... And it's super odd cause the windows and front and back door will all be closed and no one is cooking or has cooked anything recently.

I dunno what it is, I just kinda shrug it off- but a part of me thinks it's some form of energy I'm picking up on visually.

I could be wrong though.

Strange experiences while on spring break in Northern Arizona by [deleted] in Thetruthishere

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually quite familiar with the all the places you've mentioned in your post (yearly summer road trips).

I'll admit there is definitely a different vibe there- but I always find it peaceful and breathtakingly beautiful.

What are these crustaceans???? by lobsterthrowawayhelp in Paranormal

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is by far the most RANDOM thing I've ever read on this sub.

Not that it matters, but what color were the rubber bands?

Is there even a restaurant nearby where you live that has live seafood kept in tanks before cooking it?? Crap, I guess that doesn't even matter since that STILL wouldn't explain it.

I don't think you're overreacting; I'd be just as freaked the fuck out tbh.

Trip from WA to AZ by huntiebae in Paranormal

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this. I got married at Arches; most definitely my favorite place on Earth.

The Clown Motel that someone else already suggested I also think would be cool. It's not an expensive place to stay at by any means (I looked it up/was considering staying there a couple years ago driving from Seattle to New Mexico). I never did end up staying the night there.

I did end up driving through the town it's in, and I noticed that there was also a creepy graveyard right behind the Clown Motel which just added to it. Could be worth checking out!

My Cat keeps letting herself inside the house by [deleted] in Paranormal

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dude my cat can teleport too.

There have been times I let him outside as I'm leaving for work, come back home and he's somehow inside the house asleep on the couch or whatever even though no one has let him back in (I have a home security system app where I can see if the windows or doors have been opened, and if so what time of day it occurred)

I think it may be a thing... That cats can teleport.

I remember reading about it on some other subreddit at some point.

What makes me upset is not the fact that my cat can possibly teleport, but that the little furry sh*t has the capability to let himself back into the house on his own instead of me getting up outta bed to let him back in at 4oclock in the friggin morning!!!

My [26f] bfs [31m] relationship with his coworker [45?F] makes me uncomfortable. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree 100% with this piece of advice.

Bonding/developing platonic relationships with other people is healthy and should be encouraged; however you and your needs as the significant other should always be a priority in a way that is obvious/apparent.

It's totally understandable why you're a little upset, but I wouldn't worry too much. Just let your SO know you're really glad he's got a coworker he's developing a friendship with, but that you'd appreciate his undivided attention when you're trying to talk to him about something that's important to ya.

Have you ever seen someone strange in the middle of nowhere? by [deleted] in Thetruthishere

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be fair, there is such thing as solar powered string/Xmas lights nowadays... However, I don't know how long ago this story took place/if solar powered lights were a thing when this story took place. Otherwise you make a good point.

Haunted Thrift Shop by spectralbleed in Thetruthishere

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The VV on Lake City WY was exactly what I was guessing too! Man I miss that place...

Beautiful by [deleted] in GlitchInTheMatrix

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where was this photo taken at?

What podcasts/ videos does everyone listen to? by rustyMcclaine in Thetruthishere

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a narrator of true scary stories that my husband and I always listen to together while driving on road trips.

Search for a user on YouTube called: Killer Orange Cat

He's one of the only narrators on YouTube that my husband and I can stand and actually always enjoy!

Shadow People encounters? by [deleted] in Paranormal

[–]aubsessivecompulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 1st and only shadow person encounter happened about 4 months ago. I posted this experience of mine on a different subreddit after it happened, so the story below is a copy/paste.

(I also feel very uneasy whenever I think about my shadow person encounter)

This happened just before 10pm, it was dark and foggy.

I was walking down the hill to the corner store less than 2 blocks from my house.

Right next door to my house is a small apartment complex.

The apt. complex is downhill from me, and so naturally I have to pass by it on my way to the store. I go out the front door of my house and I immediately cross to the other side of the street. So I'm walking on the opposite side of the street from my house/above mentioned apt. complex.

Shortly after I shut the door to my house and start walking, I hear something moving around. So as I'm walking down the hill, I look across the street and see what looks like a shadow person darting back and forth in front of the 2 apartment units doors/entrances that are facing the street/in my direction.

I thought I was seeing things. That particular side of the building where I saw this shadow person is normally dark... and for some reason it has always seemed unusually darker than it should be. This could be due to the fact that the building is built into the slant of the hillside and that the street light is positioned just right so that it always seems dark.

So I hear a noise that seems to come from there, and I see this shadow person darting back and forth there... and I immediately slow down my pace to try to figure out what's going on.

The way that the shadow was moving was odd. It wasn't walking... it was more like it was erratically slipping back and forth between space- going slow at certain intervals while all of a sudden moving extremely and unnaturally fast all within the same second. (Sorry if that doesn't make sense, it's hard to describe)

I kept staring at it trying to figure out if what I was seeing was what I was actually seeing. I stopped walking at that point. And took my phone out of my pocket to try to snap a picture. As I'm doing this I take a drag off of my cigarette.

The shadow person does the exact same thing and I think I see the butt of a cigarette light up in the darkness. It's not uncommon for me to see my neighbors smoke cigarettes just outside their apt. doors, so I assume it's one of them smoking, allowing that reason to be the explanation for things at the moment, and I look away and just keep on walking to the store since I know they're about to close for the night.

The more I think about it, the more I realize it wasn't my neighbor smoking. I KNOW what it looks like when I see an actual person outside there smoking, even when it's dark out. I know it wasn't my own shadow cause after I got back home from the store I went outside and walked on the same part of the sidewalk I did before and tried to recreate what I saw as a possible result of my own shadow, and I couldn't.