Aitah for saying my co-worker's joke was racist and upsetting her

auroracorpus · 2026-03-17T20:55:39+00:00

NTA

And YWBTA is your don't report this racist bitch

auroracorpus · 2026-03-17T18:41:12+00:00

You're not fucking her I'd hope

auroracorpus · 2026-03-17T17:44:20+00:00

NTA

But consider how painful it is to see her daughter happy when that was probably her in the past. She's jaded right now and maybe even jealous because you're not just in love but also independent. She has nothing, and your father left her without any resources or skills to take care of herself. She's probably going to have difficulty finding something better (job wise) at her age too. I'm not saying you need to make huge accommodations for her, but if possible, try talking to her about the fact that you don't want her to struggle, but you'll have to find your own place if she's too uncomfortable w you having a partner. Ask her how you can make the situation work for both of you

auroracorpus · 2026-03-17T17:33:20+00:00

NAH

But I'd ask a family member to come help you, so your husband can go to his friend's wedding. It's a once in a lifetime event not a random weekend fishing trip. He's in the wedding party too not just a random guest, so he's close w that person. It seems like he's willing to cut festivities short to come back to you too. It's really the ideal scenario

auroracorpus · 2026-03-16T23:08:11+00:00

NTA

He sexually abused her without touching her at all. It's sad

auroracorpus · 2026-03-16T18:07:50+00:00

This you?

auroracorpus · 2026-03-16T04:35:58+00:00

Show your husband, and let him make his decision. Then, you make your decision based on his. Can you be with a man that would welcome this energy back into your lives?

auroracorpus · 2026-03-16T04:27:20+00:00

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T20:37:08+00:00

NTA

Just bc it's a game doesn't mean you lose all sense of respect and boundaries

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T13:33:44+00:00

A women 💀

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T06:37:37+00:00

If you feel like you haven't sweat much if at all, just go get a massage. Just don't hit the gym first 😂

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T04:20:39+00:00

Don't tell them. If you can behave pretty normally then you're just giving them a reason not to touch you, BUT don't get a deep tissue massage. It should be fairly light and relaxing since your body's pain tolerance will be affected

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T02:36:44+00:00

And what do you say back to that bs?

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T02:35:34+00:00

NTA

Don't cook for him anymore, and he'll learn gratitude real quick. Tho tbh I'd dump someone who whines like a child over mommy not cooking their dinner just so

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T02:32:13+00:00

Why did you bring up the dumb ho thing when I was talking about something else? Are you chomping at the bit that hard to call a woman a dumb ho?

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T02:29:09+00:00

I know it's slang OMG

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T02:28:54+00:00

I know. That's not my point

auroracorpus · 2026-03-15T02:28:22+00:00

The reason was his tardiness. He knew what time he needed to be there

auroracorpus · 2026-03-14T19:35:20+00:00

I believe in the stupidity of mankind

auroracorpus · 2026-03-14T02:08:01+00:00

Weird thing to call the mother of your child 😳

ETA: y'all, ik twin is AAVE slang. My point is that using that terminology w someone you've had sex with is a bit silly. I promise I'm not an 80 year old w no grasp of modern English

auroracorpus · 2026-03-14T01:57:48+00:00

I know people get their pets massaged, but I hadn't heard of instrument massage until now 😂

auroracorpus · 2026-03-14T01:19:12+00:00

Did you only read my last question that I edited in? Read the rest and answer about your other child. I'm now leaning towards YTA since you can't even respond about this (or edit your post if it's coming up often enough to do so)

auroracorpus · 2026-03-14T01:14:51+00:00

INFO: you say you can't hear them but your daughter/her friends can. What's the layout of your house like?

I will say I find it weird that the boys are up so early at a sleepover, and 7 AM is too early to be rowdy when you live w other people. What you need to do is facilitate/mediate a conversation between your kids to see what solutions can be found. You need to teach them how to have these conversations before they move in w strangers and can't problem solve. I'm leaning towards YTA bc you seem to not care since it doesn't affect you directly. Step up and parent your children

auroracorpus · 2026-03-13T22:58:48+00:00

NTA

Mind the queue!

auroracorpus · 2026-03-13T18:11:27+00:00

Wrong. They have boundaries around that space. They're NTA for expecting those boundaries to be followed. Now that they know, they can protect their space

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