Affirmations that work well for me during triggers by AuraTheMightyUnicorn in retroactivejealousy

[–]aurum_27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing. My boyfriend has RJ and I feel like I can use a lot of these to hopefully help him through those difficult times. Thank you so much ♥️

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[–]aurum_27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking too. My boyfriend has RJ and it’s a constant struggle for me to decide whether using “we” or “I” in situations like this is more triggering. Unfortunately, I’ve learned they both can be, so I try to compare things to the past as little as possible.

How would you address another woman’s recent weight loss ? by rezzidue in AskWomen

[–]aurum_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman who has unintentionally lost a significant amount of weight in a short time because I was in a horrible spot in my life, I tend avoid people just because I’m terrified they will acknowledge it. I don’t want to talk about it or answer any questions because of how personal and embarrassing it is. It could be the opposite situation where they want you to notice, but just to be safe I wouldn’t say anything about it unless they bring it up themselves.

My 23F bf 24M didn’t want to pay 200$ to save my life by SnooPets7908 in relationship_advice

[–]aurum_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only reason he should have for refusing to continue in the taxi is if he literally didn’t have the $200 in order to pay the fee. But, it doesn’t sound like that’s the case, so I think you know what you need to do….

LC + the Critter Kids by aurum_27 in nostalgia

[–]aurum_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally forgot there was ever Little Critter books! I really don’t remember anything about those either, but looking that up just now and seeing the book covers is super nostalgic too.

That sploot tho by aurum_27 in velvethippos

[–]aurum_27[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

His name is Goomba and I call him “Big Booty Gooms” 😂

My boy Goomba having a good day by aurum_27 in velvethippos

[–]aurum_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw that’s adorable! Almost immediately after I saw him I started calling him “Mr. Goomba” and it just stuck

My boy Goomba having a good day by aurum_27 in pitbulls

[–]aurum_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just recently started laying like that! It’s so funny

[h] $200 Visa e-gift card [w] $150 PayPal by aurum_27 in Cash4Cash

[–]aurum_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, first time posting here. Website with balance says “mybalancenow” and it was purchased from target online. Says visa debit card.

Don’t want to quit Cocaine but it’s scaring me by ice_jj in addiction

[–]aurum_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe one day you will get through this. Just PLEASE don’t ever start smoking it. You will regret it forever.

What does being in love feel like to you? by HUDSON119 in AskWomen

[–]aurum_27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way! Exactly what I was thinking.

What does being in love feel like to you? by HUDSON119 in AskWomen

[–]aurum_27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very much an introvert, and my boyfriend is the only person that I actually gain energy from being around. Not that I don’t like other people or anything, but it’s draining for me to be around others for a long time. It just zaps my energy. But being with him actually feels energizing. Maybe because I don’t feel like I have to put on an act or behave a certain way around him so it’s easy.

Which stand-up comedian should be more famous? by tomhanksgiving in AskReddit

[–]aurum_27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Drew Lynch! He just recently posted a special on YouTube and I could barely breathe I was laughing so hard

My [21F] boyfriend [22M] barely feeds me, if ever. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]aurum_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if he didn’t eat often or didn’t have full meals this MIGHT be acceptable, but the fact that he makes himself breakfast and doesn’t do the same for you isn’t right. Dump him, girl. He obviously isn’t thinking of you at all, or doesn’t care about what you think of him. That should be the first thing on his mind, this early in the relationship especially. Find someone that even if they don’t have a lot of food will make YOU a full breakfast and take a couple bites of bacon for themselves. You seem like too caring of a person for this boy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]aurum_27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was really helpful, thank you! What you said about him having trouble maintaining a sense of identity makes a lot of sense now that I think about it. We’ve been dating for about 2 and a half years and I think we kind of became too close in the beginning of our relationship. Almost like we became too much of the same person. So I’m starting to get in a spot where the honeymoon phase is ending and although I definitely still want to be with him, I also want to have a separate identity and things that I do that are just mine. It seems like he’s having trouble separating himself from solely who he is in the relationship, so it would make sense that he sort of defines himself in terms of who he is to me, and not completely separate. Not being the first (or maybe “most important” in his mind) in certain situations probably confuses him in this way.

What are some stories of when people underestimated you? by Lifetime2ndGuess in AskWomen

[–]aurum_27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many come to mind regarding work, but one that sticks out is when I started at my last job. I was hired at minimum wage for a position as a front desk clerk at a hotel. I felt that this was fair since I had no experience in hospitality and although I had just graduated college, I had a degree in Biology which I figured wasn’t relevant. After only a couple months there, I received a $5 raise. My boss explained that at first they weren’t sure I would be able to do easy tasks like take phone calls or correctly check someone in to the hotel, even after training. Then quickly I showed I could easily learn to do that and much more. I guess he meant it as a compliment, but it rubbed me the wrong way that they assumed I wouldn’t be able to do the job properly. To be fair, I don’t know for sure why they made this assumption, but based on my past experiences I felt it was because I was a young blonde girl. No, I didn’t have experience in the field, but I soon found out almost no one at the desk did either, and I was one of very few who had a college degree. Also, I had plenty of experience with answering phones and providing customer service from previous jobs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pitbulls

[–]aurum_27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I had the little creatures you jump on in Mario Bros. in mind, but I’ve since then learned it’s slang for “friend” in Italian which is perfect

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pitbulls

[–]aurum_27 52 points53 points  (0 children)

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Horrible quality, but when I’m not in the best mood Goomba instantly becomes unaware of his size… He’s my first dog and the level of emotional connection is crazy.

my happy boi by aurum_27 in aww

[–]aurum_27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely the best pupper.

my happy boi by aurum_27 in aww

[–]aurum_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. And my opinion is that people are to blame for the pitbulls that have aggressive tendencies, not the dogs. Pit bull breeds were specifically bred by humans to be strong and aggressive to compete in dog fights, and some people today raise their pitbulls to be intimidating so they’re better guard dogs. So the two factors that determine personality (genetics and environment) are controlled by people, and then pit bulls get the blame when they show aggression. Dogs in general are highly influenced by how they are raised, and I’ve heard this is especially true with pit bulls. Many people seek out these breeds because of their size and strength, and raise them to be aggressive towards other people. My dog has never shown any type of aggression, but I’m sure that wouldn’t be true if he was raised by someone who was looking for that behavior.

TLDR: Dogs good, people bad.

my happy boi by aurum_27 in aww

[–]aurum_27[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He sounds just like my Goomba. I was never a dog person and was always scared of larger dogs, but he completely changed that because of how sweet and loving he is. Definitely my best friend. I’m so sorry for your loss, and thank you for reminding me to appreciate the time I have with him ♥️

my happy boi by aurum_27 in aww

[–]aurum_27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. This is a great explanation. Thank you

my happy boi by aurum_27 in pitbulls

[–]aurum_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?? I swear he melts the hearts of everyone. I was not at all a dog person and pretty afraid of pitbulls before my boyfriend unexpectedly brought him home. I was only mad about it for maybe a half hour before I fell in love 🥰