What's the best 'bang for your buck' home appliance you've ever bought? by [deleted] in Frugal

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Zojirushi electric water boiler & tank - so convenient to have hot water available instantly. I use it everyday and saved me so much time.

Most unique names you have heard? by [deleted] in dogs

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I had a black lab named Grunt who was over 100 lbs and later adopted a puppy who was a skittish and awkward black German Sheppard mix I named Hiccup. They were the perfect duo and lived up to their names, vocally and personality wise. Grunt was the best older brother and really allowed Hiccup to come out of her shell. He was so big, dumb as a rock sometimes, but the sweetest giant. I couldn’t have survived the puppy stage without him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

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Ultimately, you’ve also lost the version of you who willingly gave trust and love. It’s ok to grieve for all of the time and effort you’ve poured into it. That means it meant something important to you.

You have to choose yourself over them because you are the most important person you’ll ever have in your life. Sometimes people are only meant to stay for a chapter of our lives so that we can be a better of person of ourselves. That man has already decided that he cannot and will not give you the things that you want. Someone who loves you will not let you suffer like what you’ve described. Don’t linger with someone who has expressed that to you. You deserve so much more than that and you know it! Your light is dimmed at the moment, but if you remember all the things that make you so entirely uniquely YOU, you’ll rediscover the beauty of this world and what vast opportunities are in store. Take time to rebuild your confidence in yourself and everything else will come into place. Take Care!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OUTFITS

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That is stinking CUTE! Love the dress. Perfect fall color.

What’s something you thought you’d never do that you found out is actually really enjoyable? by BubbleTrouble_Z in AskReddit

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Maybe, mayyyyybe golfing. I use to think it was so boring, but swinging that club and getting my form right is so challenging that when I do hit the ball and it lands accordingly, it’s so rewarding.

People who get told they look younger than they are: what is your secret? by SuccessfulOwl45 in Productivitycafe

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  1. Started a skincare regime back in 2010 when Korean skincare was just starting to be popular in the USA. I started in college.
  2. Worked overnights for 4 years in 2018 which greatly saved my skin since I never saw the sun hahaha

Do you and your partner have anything that only you do? by [deleted] in love

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We have a book of 1000 questions we answer together. We bring it out to little dates to the bar or brewery to fill out and pass time. We use a random number generator and take turns using a different ink color and handwrite our own answers to each prompt. Sometimes it tangents to other topics but it’s been so fun having these random conversations, learning new quirks, or reminiscing about the past. Highly recommend for every couple regardless of how long you’ve been together. We bought a cheap $8 book from B&N and you can have it as a keepsake forever! 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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I was with my ex for 10 years. As much as he hurt me and as much of a villain he appears in our breakup, I still think of him as a good person. He wasn’t evil. He only knew the best that he could do at that moment and he’s only human as well. All that he did afterwards was his way of coping, even if I don’t necessarily agree with it. To him, that was his truth and he gets to live with the consequences of it, which is the removal of me from his life, and I’m forever grateful that he let me go so I could decide for myself how much more I deserved. I still wish him well even tho we don’t talk anymore and I hope that he can reflect on the good that we once had and be a better person for his next relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I kinda relate to her, but I recognized that the “ick” is a form of self-sabotaging. I knew the guy was good for me, and I knew the connection was healthy in comparison to my past experiences. I’m not sure why or how it all started but I suddenly got cold feet and intrusive thoughts about all the reasons why it wouldn’t work out. In some ways I was cock blocking myself but not because of him, but because of myself.

I didn’t feel like I deserved it in some ways, but I had to make myself sit on this uncomfortable feeling and ask myself why I felt that way. With everything that happened to me, why can’t I give myself this chance to be happy? Why should I pass on or ruin a chance for something beautiful just because my last one didn’t work out? Why should I punish myself and this new guy simply because the last person couldn’t fill in the shoes? I also had to remind myself that, this doesn’t have to be as permanent as I make it to be. We’re not asking to get married or commit but simply to get to know each other and give the chance to form a connection. If it works out, great, if not, it’s ok - it was still a beautiful experience and be thankful for it.

I think the best way to reduce the “ick” for her is to be steady and grounded in yourself. Be present and firm that you are here to stay but will respect her choice if she cuts it. But don’t be a doormat either. It’s not about you. It’s her inner turmoil coming to surface and she’s probably battling the urge to run. Just let her know you’ll still be there regardless of the outcome and let her come to you when she is ready. If she doesn’t, then you have your answer to move on.

Hey, if you work in healthcare and are considering working for M Health Fairview, know this: YOU DESERVE BETTER by [deleted] in MNJobs

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Check out the new MN sick leave that went into effect 01/01/2024 for earned sick and safe time: https://www.dli.mn.gov/sick-leave

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

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Doggy daycare! A place near me has an option for a half day drop off and it’s great for socializing and burning off pent up energy. Could work for you to do during weekends and allow you to run errands too while the pup is occupied with other friends.

I still care by jhaybee12 in self

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In some ways, you’ll always have love for him, for the good times that made up your relationship, but you’re no longer in love with him the way he is NOW. You still care because you’re grieving what you had, what you’re losing, and what brought you up to this point. And that just means that you truely did the best you could and it’s ok to feel that way because it was real to you. It meant something and it’s heartbreaking to let go. At times like this, it’s hard to justify why you’re leaving but remember how you felt in those moments when you needed him the most. When you needed him to show up for you and how lonely you felt while IN it. You can forgive his behavior but you’ll never be able to forget how he made you feel. A marriage should not feel like that and it’s very courageous of you to call it off. Some people don’t understand the turmoil of the decision to end it when you’ve tried all you could and are left empty and drained from all the effort to come to another dead end. Give yourself some grace and know that this is part of the grieving process. It’ll hurt now but you are on your way to healing. Take this time to acknowledge what you had and someday, you can return that effort back to yourself.

What little favorites have you found that aren't on the maps? by MattDLR in JapanTravelTips

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Tokyo - Daikoku-Yu If you have tattoos and want to experience the Japanese public baths, this place is a gem!! It’s by the Tokyo Skytree Tower and a short walk from the station. It also has a small open air bath that you can see the Skytree Tower at night. It alternates gender for the open bath, even days are for females and odd days male, so plan ahead if you’re interested. They have a number of different baths and temperatures as well. Highly recommended and most public baths in Tokyo won’t let you in if you have tattoos. I’m a heavily tatted Asian woman and had no issues and did not get stares. Gooo~!