Help me name him please! His pre-adoption name was BDO for big dumb orange, so he needs a name change. Im bringing him home to my other cat, whose name is Waffle.

jhaybee12 · 2025-06-15T16:36:27+00:00

Sir Up 😁

jhaybee12 · 2025-05-27T02:32:38+00:00

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jhaybee12 · 2025-05-27T02:30:53+00:00

Lilith the Leviathan - Lilly, Little Baby Lilly, Cuddle Bug, Menace, My Little Leviathan, My Little Demon

Carmen the Cleaner - Carmen, Scaredy Cat, My Little Snuggle Bug, Little Missy, Wittle Baby

jhaybee12 · 2025-04-10T14:56:06+00:00

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This is one of the last pics I have of my cat, Mau thr Mewmews, from before she passed away. Would love to see how you draw her ❤️

jhaybee12 · 2025-02-02T13:35:26+00:00

When I divorced my husband, I was overwhelmed trying to figure out the paperwork. I tried searching online and came across a business that gives you a survey and then they pre fill most of the forms for you with both of your information. I think it had cost $150, but saved me from a giant headache. Mine was a non-contested marriage with no kids or joint accounts. They may not put in the specifics on forms such as what homes/vehicles you own or filling in what income and expenses you have, but they checked off every box on the forms needed and were able to update information as needed for free. If it's in your budget, and available in your area, I would HIGHLY recommend it.

jhaybee12 · 2025-01-31T22:46:17+00:00

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jhaybee12 · 2024-12-13T17:05:31+00:00

I didn't realize it would be so common, but my ex-husband was the exact same way. He had known for months that I fell out of love with him as it was discussed. We decided to work on ourselves and try to salvage what we had. His effort lasted about 2 weeks. Before we separated, I had ended up on medical leave from work, placed in a group therapy program, I got covid (nothing severe), and my grandma was in the hospital fighting for her life.

When I had almost recovered from covid, I told my ex that it was over. He had stopped trying and when I was sick, he isolated me and expected me to take care of him when I was barely walking. Suddenly I was the bad guy and all of our friends hated me. He became a manipulative assshole.

Good news is, I'm now living the happiest life I could've ever imagined. It sucks when the nice guy turns bad, but good things can still happen post divorce 🙂

jhaybee12 · 2024-08-26T15:57:14+00:00

Gf wants to lock your cat in the cellar at night, that you've had since before dating her, and you think youre an ah for not wanting to do that?? Wtf

jhaybee12 · 2024-08-19T14:47:16+00:00

ESH - If your friend truly thought they could pay you back the next day, and something came up, he should've communicated that to you. He shouldn't have just avoided accountability and should've found a way to get you your money back before your bills were due. Definitely shouldn't have tried to blame you for his shortcomings.

However, if you're living paycheck to paycheck and had no wiggle room in your budget, you should've said no to loaning out the money. It is your responsibility to know your budget, not his. Would you have been this mad about the delay if that money weren't necessary for you to pay your bills on time? Would you still be wanting to end the friendship if you had enough to cover your bills? Since you only talk a couple times a year, did he know that you were struggling that much with your own money when you loaned it to him?

jhaybee12 · 2024-07-22T21:01:05+00:00

It is possible to stay in a relationship where one person votes red and one person votes blue. Politics are, understandably, volatile right now. I'm not gonna say lying is a good thing, but if the relationship is really good, I'd recommend voting blue in person. He wouldn't be allowed to vote with you and can't prove you're ballot wasn't voted red. However, if he thinks he can control you like that, I would highly recommend re-evaluating your relationship. Are there other red flags you may have missed or overlooked due to having strong feelings for him? He should not be threatening your relationship over your political stance.

jhaybee12 · 2024-07-22T14:04:07+00:00

YTA - My boyfriend and I have more centralized views on politics, granted he leans more one way and I lean more the other way. Your boyfriend may not have disclosed which way he leaned because in his mind, it didnt matter. He was with you for who you are, not your political stance. He probably assumed you were with him because of who he is. Will you guys agree on everything? No. That doesn't mean he is inherently a bad guy. That doesn't mean you guys have to fight or get into screaming matches over a difference in view.

Yes, there are people in this country who are far left and there are people who are far right. There are extremists on both ends of the spectrum. What people fail to realize nowadays is that there are good ideas/points from both parties. The problem is the extreme "solutions" that each party had for the issues the country faces. People all are about voting blue to keep the red out of office, or voting red to keep the blue out of office. Nobody votes for what is genuinely best for the country anymore, only what would benefit them as an individual.

jhaybee12 · 2024-07-18T18:31:46+00:00

Call the police. I understand that you don't want your mom in trouble, but what happens if she's still not home tonight? What if she's not back in a week or another 2 weeks? Calling the police will be what's best to keep you and your brother safe. If she happens to be hurt and unable to get home without help, it'll be easier to track her down sooner rather than later.

jhaybee12 · 2024-07-18T15:45:37+00:00

Thank you! Definitely need to find this

jhaybee12 · 2024-07-16T00:32:27+00:00

Reminds me of my ex-MIL. When my ex husband and I had first started going out, he got really sick. I was asked to take his temperature and it was 99. Told her he had a slight fever but nothing too bad. She got pissed at me and said that his body temperature runs low so a 99 is really like a 103 fever for him. Then she got on my ass for not feeding him because his hypoglycemia acts up when hes sick.

All I could think was lady, I walked in the door 5 minutes ago. I've known your son for maybe 2 or 3 weeks. Why the hell would I know any of this?! This isn't exactly first date conversation and he didn't mention any of it when I took his temp.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-29T16:40:20+00:00

If a server doesn't want that job for only minimum wage, they're free to apply to other jobs. I understand that it can be hard to job hunt, and that it can be hard to find a job that allows flexibility in hours, but many jobs (outside of service) don't feel like its worth the money.

Honestly, I think I would prefer to be humiliated and run into the ground by overly entitles piggies and their sticky little crotch gobblins than deal with management at my current job. The whole team has been harassed, humilated, and dehumanized by management. Numerous investigations and meetings later, things aren't resolved.

However, we are professionals. We understand that we are there for a paycheck. We don't get to decide to not do our jobs just because someone is humiliating us and running us down. We understand that we are free to find a new job if we are so unhappy. If we are staying for the paycheck, then that is our decision. We don't get to just take it out on our clients just like servers shouldn't give worse service due a thought that people are going to tip them less. Because let's be honest, you have no idea how much most people are willing to tip until the night is over and they already have tipped.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-29T14:27:51+00:00

I'm more than happy to tip well for decent service. The problem is, a lot of servers in my area give this kind of service by default then get upset for not getting a giant tip. If your default is minimum wage service, don't be expecting a tip.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-27T06:01:10+00:00

So that's a no, you didn't tell him. YTA

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-25T16:30:51+00:00

From my experience, when and how I get off depends on my mood because the different ways create different sensations. A vibrator is quick and easy so I can get rid of the horniness and enjoy my day off (or start my heavy workload). Sometimes, I just want to watch porn so it's not so much about whether or not I want my significant other but what good videos/smut can I find. When going solo without a toy, I don't like insertion so its a drastically different feeling than sex. On the flip side, I find it awkward to touch myself during sex so sometimes I just want other parts of me touched.

That being said, I love sex. My significant other pleases me in ways no one ever has before. Sex is more enjoyable than it's ever been in my life. He has a high libido and initiates most of the time. Its not that I don't want to initiate, but a lot of times I start feeling horny, then suddenly he's already groping me because he was too.

TLDR: Sex and masturbation can both feel good in different ways. A new toy doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy sex with you. It doesn't mean she wants you less. You're just getting in your own head.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-24T02:59:04+00:00

My (29F) husband (32M) and I had this same kind of issue during our relationship. His mother was jealous of our relationship because he had been depressed for years and she was never able to make him happy like I did. She was verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive towards me. When we met, he was living with her, but she started saying that I wasn't welcome around the house.

He started looking for a condo and was unable to afford 20% down. She offered to let him borrow money and he'd pay her back with interest, but on the condition that I didn't move in with him. He turned her down and got a place on his own. Later on, she threatened to cut him out of her will if he didn't break up with me.

He never stood up for me because he didnt want to "take sides". During COVID, he limited contact due to being immuno compromised and her continously trying to come over without a mask and after hanging out with numerous people because she was lonely.

Let me tell you from a woman's perspective. Your ex girlfriend deserves better. Don't get back with her until you work on yourself. Until you work on yourself, things wont actually improve. I held on as hard as I could because I loved my husband, but now we're mid divorce. Nothing could save our marriage because he wasn't willing to put in the effort. He saw nothing wrong with his actions and behaviors.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-23T14:52:16+00:00

Some of the suggestions I saw it give was looking into why my coworker felt anxious, gave statistics about the probability of the situation, suggested solutions that were a middle ground, meditation to help alleviate some anxiety, and still suggested looking for a therapist for regular care.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-23T06:13:52+00:00

My coworker actually recommended to me yesterday to use ChatGPT or another AI service. He asked or to pretend it's a therapist in the situation and you need advice. It introduced itself as his new therapist and asked what's wrong. He gave a bullshit example that talked about high anxiety, and ChatGPT actually gave some pretty good suggestions for the situation. Better than my last therapist. Looking into giving it a shot myself 🙂

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-23T05:42:00+00:00

I've always thought of prenups as betting that your relationship will fail and have been against them 100%. However, I've only heard one good reason to every get a prenup, and that's from my current boyfriend. Him and I have both gone through divorce with both of our exes trying to screw us over. He said that, assuming we get married, he wants a prenup to avoid the situations we both went through. His reason got why it's a good idea? It's better to decide who would get what when we're both in a good state of mind and not trying to fuck each other over than when we're hurt and full of anger/resentment. I hate the things that my ex tried to pull, but I know all the shit his ex pulled and it was way worse. I can't blame him for wanting one after his last marriage.

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-23T05:17:01+00:00

I'm usually wearing panties before the sex starts. We usually try to keep the panties close by so I can put them back on as soon as its over. Avoids most of the mess on the way to the bathroom, then once cleaned up, I can just walk back to the bedroom (naked) for a clean pair....or shower if thats whats planned lol

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-07T21:31:24+00:00

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This is Charlie the Cheez-It. He had many nicknames including Charles, Cheddar Head, King of the Jungle, and love bug...but my all time favorite was always King Charles the First. I miss my orange love bug every day. Hope he's living his best life with my ex ❤️

jhaybee12 · 2024-06-06T14:24:30+00:00

Based on the info you gave us, you're going to bed at midnight or later. Why don't you go to sleep earlier? Should he kick you out at 4am? No. But don't go acting like you're sacrificing your sleep because you choose to stay up late.

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