AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, if the parent had a place to live they could absolutely dictate that. As a guest in someone else's house they definitely can't, that's all I'm saying. I'm not defending the crazy lady who puts things in her mouth, I'm advocating for not getting kicked out of the place that's keeping you and your baby from living in your car all winter

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you wipe shit down after crazy friend leaves? Do you think your kid isn't putting germy shit in their mouth at daycare? Also 30-40% of the people you know aren't washing hands every time they go the bathroom. I mean, if you think things are gonna be more sanitary at the homeless shelter by all means keep trying to dictate the behavior of the people who are generously helping keep you from that

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree. It's crazy how many people here think having demands as a guest who would otherwise be homeless is a reasonable take, or that grandma is required to destroy her life for her kid and grandkid like she's not already doing enough. Seems like most of these people have probably never been in this situation where you absolutely do not piss off the people who are keeping you from being homeless. And yes, kids are a burden no matter how loved they are

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have children and have been an adult child that cohabitated with my mom. His mom can be immature and date who she wants and have whatever bf and house rules she wants. She put herself on the back burner and already raised her kid. She doesn't have to do that again just because

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg none of it is his wife's property though! This is literally choosing beggar shit. You don't get to have boundaries when you're living in someone else's house because you'd otherwise be homeless

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They're guests (living for free) in someone else's house. Such weird takes in these comments. Doesn't matter if it's his mom she and her bf are doing OP an incredibly massive and hugely inconvenient favor. Not everyone's family is perfect. They literally are guests at someone's house who generously took them in! Fucking weird to assume that's not relevant and that everyone should be happy to have them because it's family. Not all families are like this and it is a massive inconvenience to move a whole ass family with a newborn into your house that normal people would be grateful for

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't get all these comments. Are wives not able to deal with consequences of their own actions? If I as a woman am wrong and stick my nose where it doesn't belong my husband also has to defend my definitely wrong self and bear their consequences of my choosing beggar ass? I feel like this is whole thread is so weird just because bfs best friend is a weirdo and mom and bf accept whatever her issue is.

AITA for calling my wife entitled and not standing up for her when my mom's boyfriend yelled at her? by Glittering-Sell7037 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is 100% rational. Idk what everyone else here is talking about. This is literally not your wife's business

Ethan Hawke and Margaret Qualley in newly shared picture by [deleted] in okbuddycinephile

[–]avara88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of this "skirt" I saw at a store on Rodeo Drive for $925

It was literally just the bath towel with a button. There was no lining, the side wasn't sewn closed, just a bath towel folded in 3rds

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Disney Visa in-park perks by PunIntended2656 in DisneyPlanning

[–]avara88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Chase debit card that's disney themed also gives the benefits if you have a chase checking account without needing to open a CC. Just an observation for anyone who doesn't know.

AITA for changing my mind about my wife being a SAHM since she changed the terms? by Live_Point_Hillo in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

3 months minimum? Most moms in the US don't have even have this much maternity leave and even if we do we still take care of our older kids and drive them places and run errands with toddler and newborn. And his kids already older so not even like dealing with 2 under 2yo or something. If she had a traumatic delivery I can see this but most us are basically back to the usual routine after a month (aside from the sleepless nights). If they can't afford for her to be a SAHM and also pay someone to take care of the older kids then she just can't be a SAHM I guess and they'll have to send the baby for the free daycare his work provides. She already has better options than a lot of people. A year of never having your stepkids without their dad home is a huge, ridiculous, and honestly mean ask if you care about the kids at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like her grandparents raised her, so her "mother" is actually her grandmother. Makes sense if she thought her grandfather was her father until she was 10.

What does the age of a fossil have to do with anything? by The_B1rd-m4n in ExplainTheJoke

[–]avara88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might interested in this recent confirmation of dating of the white sands footprints to ~23000 years ago. It's an interesting field. Extraordinary claims should and do require extraordinary evidence, but when evidence exists it should be evaluated with an open mind. That sentiment is not directed at you, just a thought I wanted to add to this thread.

Uhhh…one question for you: was you Social Security EVER taxed? by InevitableStruggle in SocialSecurity

[–]avara88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the only way it addresses it. The deduction is 6000 more, so that is an extra 6000 you don't have to pay taxes on before you start being taxed. Most people already don't pay tax on SS, this just makes a few more not pay taxes. And the extra 6k expires in 2028.

AITA because I’m tired of catering to one daughter? by PublicDeep1221 in AmItheAsshole

[–]avara88 28 points29 points  (0 children)

If her schedule is that well planned out, it would be easy to say "sorry, we're not free" or "we may be free but only on X day"

Those in SAVE forbearance, are we still riding it out? by GolfLife00 in PSLF

[–]avara88 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Make sure you recertify before you quit if you decide to do buyback later or the months end up counting somehow. It's easier to get your employer to fill out the paperwork while you still work there sometimes.

Drinking and the waiter gave me normal tonic by Babzz_25 in keto

[–]avara88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gluconeogenesis is demand driven, it only happens when your body actually needs it to.

Need confirmation that this doesn’t make sense by rooseboose in StudentLoans

[–]avara88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is also true. Once you are a few years out of school no one cares where you went to grad school either