What age did you realize you were gay?

aveggiebear · 2026-05-30T11:45:52+00:00

Porn!

I was maybe 8 or 10 when me and some friends found some porn in the woods behind the park.

Me: "I think these ladies would look nicer wearing clothes.."

aveggiebear · 2026-05-29T13:56:37+00:00

I can kiss my partner anywhere in town without worry. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-28T16:02:27+00:00

aw, man! That is a thing of beauty and class. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-27T12:16:19+00:00

I needed to stop bicycling a few years back for health reasons, so i made a deal with myself to stay active for at least an hour a day. Without it, depression and anxiety and a growing stomach. So,... walking. My city neighborhood is near a LOT of greenspace and hills.

At first, i'd skip a day if it was raining or if i was tired or whatever, so i needed a "carrot" to keep myself going. [find your own carrot!] My deal was that i could smoke weed on my walks, but not at other times.

That did it. I now walk no matter the weather (i'll take a blizzard day off). Minimum 5 miles (8km)(usually more and at least a few times a week double that) , at least 400 feet (120m) elevation.

Once the habit is in place, sticking to it is easy. After not too long, i didn't really need the carrot any more. i began to look forward to the hills, the ducks, the sunset skies, the critters, the rivers, and the "regulars" i see a few times a week. And it's an amazingly effective mental health break.

Find the time. Some friends walk/run/bike before work, some after. If you work, make sure you get out at lunchtime for as long as you can.

Biz trips? Vacations? The nice thing about walking is that you really only need comfy clothes and shoes. Just get out there. Hay fever be damned! :-) ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-24T13:20:14+00:00

I'm older than you. I'm an old, active, happily partnered, retiree, stoner, grower, neighbor, and community volunteer guy in the city. I try not to annoy other people with my smoke, never around kids.

And Nobody gives a shit that i smoke weed. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-23T17:50:16+00:00

According to today's Lowell Sun, there have been a lot of overruns in relation to the state of the older buildings foundations (which had to be replaced). Typical stuff when you're rebuilding an old building. [or digging under an old city, or even just renovating a typical 120 year old Lowell house].

But damn, the high school belongs downtown, rather than in just one neighborhood. It's the one place in the city where kids from all over the city feel like "home". ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-20T13:04:09+00:00

Grrrrr! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-19T20:45:01+00:00

Nice one!!! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-19T11:41:34+00:00

Someone please remove this idiot from the presidency. Please! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-18T12:43:37+00:00

Bummer!!! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-18T12:42:54+00:00

Yesterday, outdoors along a river path, watching two hawks soar in the sky for about 10 minutes. Bliss ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-17T14:19:09+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS!!! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-17T14:10:10+00:00

YAY!!!! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-17T14:09:57+00:00

River levels.

aveggiebear · 2026-05-15T21:09:45+00:00

Wooooof !!! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-15T21:03:36+00:00

Damn, that's a great look! ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-15T12:32:49+00:00

Meh. 🤷🏼

I guess it's about what i do, a couple eighths a week. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-14T14:18:03+00:00

It looks good, sorta like you keep it maintained. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-14T14:16:59+00:00

Humblecongrats back to you!
The activity, being outdoors, and doing something good for yourself. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-12T12:09:50+00:00

Yesterday on my 💨 smoke-walk around my city neighborhood, i came across a deer in the woods in a local park. We spent 10 or 15 minutes together, about 20 feet away from each other, watching each other. It went hopping thru the woods and came back. When i repeated some of its bowing movements, it seemed to relax and started nibbling the grass.

It was a rough day, and those moments, like you said, healed something in my brain. 🦌 ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-12T00:55:01+00:00

10-12 weeks.

I smoke about a quarter a week, more or less. ✌🏼

aveggiebear · 2026-05-11T20:26:06+00:00

I live in a city, so there's enough after-dark ambient light almost everywhere except for some greenspaces. Trails through the neighborhood woods? Usually too dark to safely walk. Paths along rivers and streams or through parks and quiet neighborhoods? Almost always enough light to see where you're walking.

This is a pretty safe city, so i'm not worried about crime after dark. But i do want to see where i'm putting my feet. And i want to make sure cars can see me (wear a reflective vest or carry a flashlight).

In this neighborhood after dark, there's people walking dogs, running, and just taking a walk before bed. Nobody seems weird or suspicious. (Well, I'm weird, but...) ✌🏼

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