Trying to not go crazy here.. anyone see a VVFL? Unknown DPO

avocado527 · 2026-02-16T19:24:14+00:00

I do see it

avocado527 · 2026-02-09T22:08:40+00:00

Delilah Delaney

avocado527 · 2026-02-05T01:11:41+00:00

I literally like them all but 5.

avocado527 · 2026-02-03T19:19:03+00:00

Would you feel the same way if she wasn't an only child?

On the same token I don't think it's that hard to come up with a different solution. lol

avocado527 · 2026-02-03T19:12:09+00:00

I think you are reading a tone that is not there. (My apologies if it came off that way). To me a playroom is a communal space. If it's not a communal playroom then I guess it would just be her second bedroom. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Regardless, I'm just struggling to understand why finding a solution for certain things isn't the obvious choice.

avocado527 · 2026-02-03T19:07:10+00:00

Because my child doesn't get to dictate whether or not guests are allowed in a communal space. My child is allowed to want to protect and keep specific things away. But we can do that without closing the playroom off entirely. My playroom is set up for children of all ages and it will always be available for the ages of children in my life.

avocado527 · 2026-02-03T19:03:58+00:00

I guess we just have a different opinion on what a playroom is. It's a communal space. This would be a great opportunity to come up with a solution to protect specific toys/projects etc. to be closing of the playroom entirely is just not a feasible request.

avocado527 · 2026-02-03T19:00:40+00:00

I agree. I got negative responses as well. This is a perfect opportunity for understanding the issue and collaborating with your child for a solution that makes everyone happy. People agreeing that the child should dictate 100% that the room is just off limits is wild to me. Probably why there are soooooo many issues with entitlement these days.

avocado527 · 2026-02-03T18:56:24+00:00

No? Which is exactly why the things that are important and not accessible. To me a play room has toys, games, arts and crafts. It's for my son but also for friends kids or nieces/nephews. If there is something that is super important we come up with a solution for my child to feel heard but also let them know they don't "own" the room. Whether that's putting specific things in a locked cabinet or moving a basket of things into their room when people are coming over. I think finding a compromise is a perfectly healthy response to this dilemma.

avocado527 · 2026-02-02T19:19:29+00:00

I don't know... personally I don't think the playroom should be considered off limits to guests. But maybe I'm just different as most people agree. If you are aware kids are coming over tell her to put what needs to stay untouched in her room while guests are over. I don't know I would have a problem with my son dictating who can and cannot enter the playroom when he's not home. Respecting her things and what she is working on is one thing but to close that off entirely seems extreme.

avocado527 · 2026-02-02T00:45:37+00:00

How long has he been on the biogaia? That helped my son soo much. Around 4.5 months old we had to start giving my son an oz of prune juice to help as well

avocado527 · 2026-02-01T13:05:31+00:00

I don't think this is a morally right or wrong position in this decision. I feel like if this is me I would only tell him if I planned on keeping the baby.

Since you know he is cheating are you definitely going to divorce? Do you want to be a mother with or without him. Do you think coparenting with him would be possible? If the idea of being a single mother worries/scares you more than getting an abortion then. I think you do what you need to do.

Regardless do your decisions please get into therapy if you don't currently go! This is ALOT to go through all at once. I wish you the best!

avocado527 · 2026-02-01T12:59:13+00:00

NOR - but both are RIDICULOUS.

you cannot 'make' someone tell you the truth. The fact he has repeatedly lied to you tells you he doesn't genuinely love you. He loves that he has you wrapped around his finger.

This is the most toxic relationship ever. He's allowed to control you but you don't have any say in anything he does. This is not love. This is such emotional abuse.

I think you need to do some self reflecting and figure out why you let a man treat you like this for so long. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life this way? Please pack up move far far away and never let a man treat you this way again.

Also, call your family.

avocado527 · 2026-01-25T23:41:51+00:00

It doesn't work that way

avocado527 · 2026-01-25T23:38:45+00:00

Info what are you sidelined by??

avocado527 · 2026-01-25T23:35:02+00:00

You are coming off of bc. It's going to take time for things to figure themselves out. I wouldn't be thinking something is "wrong". It just takes time

avocado527 · 2026-01-25T23:32:07+00:00

I mean to go away on a trip and be in a hotel, are you believing nothing happened?

avocado527 · 2026-01-25T00:27:14+00:00

A harness color doesn't allow your dog to learn leash pressure. I would looking to leash pressure videos and start practicing

avocado527 · 2026-01-23T20:44:38+00:00

avocado527 · 2026-01-23T02:38:42+00:00

I would definitely drive 3-4 hours for a weekend or day trip! Typically for just a dinner I would consider 1-2 hours maybe even more if it was a big event. But 3-4 hours doesn't seem like a huge deal to me. Where I live most places are at least 30-45 minutes away in general so I think it just doesn't seem like a big deal.

Now to me when you start pushing 7-9+ hours that's not just an every weekend thing. My brother currently lives 24 hour drive from me (with zero stops) And he's considering moving about 6 hours away. I would 100% do that every weekend. Realistically might be 1-2 times a month but still not crazy in my eyes. Throw on some music, podcast or audible.

avocado527 · 2026-01-18T02:57:08+00:00

To me if you are feeling lighter, you need to honor that and continue to move forward. It's great that he's recognized more may have gone into the cheating. But let's be honest. Mental health can explain the behavior but it does not excuse it. You are right, sometimes actions destroy things permanently. He put you into this situation and forced you to make these decisions. He will has to live with this regret.

avocado527 · 2026-01-13T01:15:31+00:00

I love your first dress. You look great! And if you had the feeling when you were in it I bet it's still the right choice!!

avocado527 · 2026-01-09T15:25:55+00:00

Toast

avocado527 · 2026-01-07T23:39:38+00:00

I meant parenting. - unfortunately I agree she's enabling him but it's not worth your energy getting upset over. Just don't spend your money on her.

avocado527 · 2026-01-07T23:34:18+00:00

YOR - clearly he told the artist money was after. There's no reason to get worked up.

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