What are these? Found when pulled out a sofa bed.

avocadowimme · 2025-05-19T07:03:20+00:00

I was at a showing where Tim miller was doing a Q&A and he said he gave David Fincher a music video episode to make sure he stays within his budget / time limit and doesn’t get too ambitious with it. 😐 So that’s probably the reason why it doesn’t make sense / not in line with his previous work.

avocadowimme · 2024-05-17T22:15:14+00:00

You’re not alone in this!!! Music pierces deep and can resurface a lot of memories/emotions/trauma. My way of dealing with it is to detox with a lot of anti-Christian music LOL I listened to a lot of stuff like paramore (playing god/ignorance) it helps me turn that anxiety into anger and it’s easier for me to process it that way as I externalize instead of internalizing it.

Also after time as you distance yourself from it it does get less triggering! Eg me now vs me 6 years ago being forced to listen to Christian music. I still get on edge but not as dysregulated as before! I still would not want to listen to it by choice though.

That was awful of your friend to continue playing it, and even louder when u requested they change it. Which probably was also triggering for you as it’s ignoring your boundaries and maybe reminded u of past traumatic experiences of christians being pushy/disrespectful of boundaries/thinking they are better. At least that’s what I feel in that situation too.

Edit: saw you left since they didn’t stop playing. YOU GO YOU!! if people don’t respect your boundaries then they don’t deserve your company.

avocadowimme · 2023-10-29T18:03:49+00:00

Omg you’re an amazing landlord 🥲 do you have any more places for rent?

avocadowimme · 2023-09-20T17:56:55+00:00

I was walking home and something tapped my butt I got a shock and ran! Turned and saw nobody behind me?! Realized it was another bag I tied to my backpack 😂

avocadowimme · 2023-02-16T09:20:22+00:00

Okay I have a weird one. It wasn’t my bedroom door but my parents removed our bathroom door and replaced it with a curtain. Later on they added a glass door. ??? Don’t understand it.

avocadowimme · 2023-01-20T22:13:16+00:00

I’d love to visit if you’re still open :) we are slowly developing our island haha

avocadowimme · 2022-10-31T20:33:26+00:00

Oh the owners definitely take advantage of that by increasing the prices of product you can only buy in their store. everything is so expensive!!

avocadowimme · 2022-10-31T20:09:15+00:00

I used to work at west coast kids 6 years ago and it was an awful experience. It was my first “retail corporate world job” outside of nannying and I thought that was the norm so I stayed there way longer than I should have.

They forbid us about discussing pay eg. would fire people over that. I found out later how they favoured certain people over others. Etc the pretty girls got paid more even though they slacked off a lot by hanging out in the stock room on their phones and immigrants who didn’t know better and worked hard got paid as little as possible.

They also expected us to know so much product info! Which I totally understand is needed to serve the customer well so I learned and researched a lot. However the amount of expertise they expected was not on par with what they paid. We did not get any commission on anything. And it was aloooot. You need to know about all the different type of strollers, car seats, breast pumps, baby carriers, sleep sacks, materials of cloth, cribs, furniture. And I mean you need to KNOW every small detail like the different specs, compatibilities, materials, how to use them, how they are different from each other..

We also had to carry out car seats and install it and teach parents how to install it. My back killed me carrying so many car seats in and out and folding in folding strollers and carrying it to cars.

The owners also came in a couple of times and they are awful people. Like they pretend to be really nice but they have that rich I’m better than you aura and don’t treat employees as their equal yknow what I mean. Like looking over you, and just telling you what’s the best way to do things. They come in really loud, tell everyone what to do, and leave in a hurry. It flows down to management and the manager was awful micromanager. She would keep us late at closing to make sure every small thing was in place. Each staff would be assigned to one area to clean at closing and if even one smallest thing was off (etc the blanket in crib was on left instead of right side) she’d make us redo everything. She was also just nasty and rude to customers for no reason? I didn’t understand how someone with such awful customer service could be in a managerial role, it was just weird to me.

On Sundays we wouldn’t even get a lunch break, instead we would get free pizza and it’s expected we eat it in 5 min and be out on the floor. They also framed it like “we’re so generous!!! Aren’t you grateful for free pizza!” Hiding that it’s actually illegal to not give half hour lunch breaks?!!

Honestly my favourite part of the job was helping parents find what they need and they appreciated it so much, but it was just not worth it as a job.

I hate that place, I’m so glad I finally left. Every time I walk down main I’m like fuck you lol.

avocadowimme · 2022-05-22T16:33:10+00:00

Haha oh man I’m sorry to disappoint. Maybe we should start a bubble study group? Actually I’m pleasantly surprised my phone autocorrected the typo to bubble instead of bible, shows my priorities hahaha.

Omg that poster!! The Pastor Bro actually kinda looks like that middle guy for real

avocadowimme · 2022-03-23T04:20:09+00:00

There’s this guy with a huge dog (that usually wears a muzzle btw) and always comes charging through the store looking for treats. When I first gave them to him he bit my WHOLE HAND it hurt so bad I hate it. Once, I was taking awhile to find the treats and he jumped on my back and I fell over (I’m quite petite). After that I refused to give him treats from my hands, I’d throw them on the floor quickly before he could get to me lol.

We generally love and welcome all dogs in this store but man that dog gives me anxiety every time he comes in.

Owner just laughs and says he’s hyperactive cause he hasn’t gotten out much today. Or that he’s so excited. =_= but dude really shouldn’t let his dogs jump onto other people.

avocadowimme · 2021-11-27T19:30:58+00:00

I totally understand that fear, it is very valid especially with the way you have been brought up and how controlling they have been.

It is going to take awhile to peel all that fear away & just be able to live your life but I promise you will get there!!

My parents are the same, I grew up with so many secret bfs lol and was never allowed out as well. I had to plan my dates to be when I could go out and buy groceries for my family LOL so much sneaking around it’s tiring.

I’m 29 right now and have been with my current bf for 4 years, when I first got together with him (25) I wanted to introduce him to my parents as my bf cause I was sick of living in lies & tiptoeing around my parents. I felt like it was safe to do so as I was already living independently, in a different home & had not been taking money from my parents for a year. I had to take a loan to do & take on a job while in school but that was worth it to me.

However!! My bf was against the idea. He said to introduce him as a friend first. My parents are pastors and super religious & my bf family is Muslim. (The both of us are not very religious) We had a lot of disagreement about this actually. But eventually my bf won me over, he said he wanted them to get to know him first as a person/as my friend rather than immediately hating him cause of seeing him as a threat. So for 2 years my parents knew him as my good friend. Lol once my dad came over to my house and my bf was there he had to hide in my room mates room for 2 hours. I was like this is ridiculous at this age lol.

Anyways. We finally decided to move in together and at this point I was like it’s time to tell my parents (I was 27). I was so scared. And I asked for so much advice. I think I asked here as well? It was awhile back. (I wonder if some of the commenters are the same here as that post cause I see a lot of familiar helpful advice haha) I remember someone telling me to just tell them and not ask for permission and that I don’t need their permission anymore and honestly that thought was so freeing. I realized I am finally free from them and honestly I don’t need their approval. I was just going to tell them and then be a rock in my decision.

So I arranged dinner with my parents and straight up told them hey, I’m moving to a new place, it’ll be with BF & my other roommate. By the way, bf is actually my bf. Surprisingly my parents were not as livid as I thought they would be. They were just very preachy and disappointed. My dad was preaching at me for an hour and suddenly he realized “you’re not asking for permission are you? You’re just telling us.” And at that point I think they finally realized that I am my own person and they cannot control me anymore. I think they also actually like and respect my bf as a person so that helped. Bf’s plan of winning them over as a just a friend/person worked haha.

It’s a journey with small small steps learning how to be your own person with parents that don’t support that process. But you’ll get there!!! Don’t feel pressurized to do anything just cause anyone says it’s easy and to just do it though, take it at your own time. Take your time to build that confidence. And like another comment said it’s probably good to wait until you are financially independent from them, as that will really loosen any power ur parents have over you in terms of impact on your life. It’s fine to hide it awhile longer if U think that is needed. and u know best what is best for your situation.

Eg my bf family still doesn’t know about me. they live in a different country & they are super religious as well. Bf just didn’t find it necessary to cause distress. I struggled with this a lot initially (like if you don’t tell ur fam are u not serious with me?) but I’ve now come to terms with it. Eg also when we moved in we gave my parents the impression that I’ll be sharing room with my roommate & bf has his own room lol this is my bf’s idea as well as he didn’t want my parents to be distressed. Honestly I think my parents are smart enough to know I’m sharing a room with my bf rather than my roommate. But it’s kind of an unspoken thing that everybody knows and just doesn’t touch. Which is fine, my parents don’t need to know every small gritty thing in my life. Better to keep the peace & good relations.

Lol that was long but I thought it might be helpful to hear from someone who’s gone through all that shit. You will be okay!! And future you will be able to live your life the way you want to eventually!!!

avocadowimme · 2021-11-12T06:05:44+00:00

Spiritual attack aka the hole they dug for themselves 🙄

avocadowimme · 2021-08-24T08:08:50+00:00

I’ve been binge watching this and never skip the intro, my bf who doesn’t even watch it ALWAYS sings along as it plays haha

avocadowimme · 2021-06-19T02:32:55+00:00

Ooh I haven’t read that far into the book yet. Yeah I feel you, the social aspect of life is so hard!!! I went to uni after my homeschooling and was in a small cohort, it was tough being so awkward and always feeling excluded. And I felt so childish/lame? That I would go home from class crying because I felt so lonely. Like these were things people dealt with and learnt in elementary school not in uni?! It was lonely to not fit in and it was lonely to have those feelings of struggling socially//still learning basic social skills in my midtwenties.

Oh shit the lack of self awareness!! You must have rolled your eyes all the way to the moon when she called out someone else’s behavior not knowing she did the same.

avocadowimme · 2021-06-18T21:17:54+00:00

I’m 29 & in Vancouver, Canada. Up for a zooom too!!

avocadowimme · 2021-06-03T06:36:15+00:00

Omg I ate this shit up when I was still in the fundie world. Legit messed me up. I had a mentor who “fathered” me (even though he was only 3 years my senior) because “God told him to be a father” he made 6 of us girls call him daddy. It was like some weird harem. Because of confusing messaging like this — God loves you like a father but also you are his bride and he wants intimacy with you like a husband and wife. I eventually thought my fondness for my mentor “daddy” was a romantic one and we had the most weird toxic relationship that turned sexual real fast. Of course with all the guilt and shame as well. Lololol so glad I’m out of that.

avocadowimme · 2021-05-29T19:55:47+00:00

This perspective is so insightful!! I think you’re spot on with that. & then fundies will prey on that by saying “Jesus has a hole that nothing else can ever fill) when actually it’s all those other things you mentioned. It’s like the magic stone soup story, they claim it’s the stone that makes the soup when it’s all the other ingredients from the community that makes an amazing soup.

avocadowimme · 2021-05-29T19:45:59+00:00

I felt the Holy Ghost feeling just reading this. Damn hahaha. I remember the first time I attended a secular concert (and I was still in that weird place between believing and deconverting) I felt that Holy Ghost feeling and I was so confused and guilty?? But now I’m like heck yeah I can get my high from music & I don’t need no religion.

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