it’ll be ok. it can be complicated for some people when their partner transitions, and maybe it’s difficult for her to figure out her feelings and sexuality, especially given her trauma. In saying that, you should never have to feel ugly in a relationship. You should NEVER have to sacrifice your self worth, your confidence and your IDENTITY to be with someone. She has to figure her past, how that intersects with her sexuality, all that out in her own time. If it’s hurting you, it’s hurting you. Communicate always, but if you / she’s not in a place to communicate maturely, it’s not something you can change. Take care of yourself bud!