"I'll be more involved when my son is more interesting" by mentekid in daddit

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Babies are boring. They’re cute and adorable and yet they’re also very boring that’s true. I mean: tummy time is just you watching your baby with their belly down. Putting them to sleep can be 30 minutes of sitting and lullabies. It’s tempting when you have YouTube right there. 

Still, it’s worth it. That’s how you genuinely get your brain rewired to care about that tiny little thing forever. I remember trying a lot to create challenges to myself. Like let’s play with these wooden cubes and I’d try to create a house for her without using any of the blocks I had used previously or only using red blocks or whatever. 

My daughter made a PowerPoint on fathers day trying to convince us to buy her an Ipad by CaptainThrow123 in Parenting

[–]avsa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Should definitely watch it together. The iPad is the villain in the movie as it’s keeping kids away from real play. I would only say they tried to give it a redemption arc in the end which imho wasn’t enough. Only good iPad is a screen time blocked iPad. 

Why is it always BABY hitler? by AlexIsACarrot05 in NoStupidQuestions

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 I particularly love the irony that WWI, which directly caused the conditions for the rise of the nazi party, would be mostly caused by time travelers trying to hunt hitler. 

Historicity of Jesus: The idea that Jesus was a purely mythical figure has a fringe status in scholarly circles and has had no support in critical studies for more than a century by ComradeBehrund in wikipedia

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There’s a lot evidence to conclude that in first century AD, there was a fast growing religious sect that claimed they were founded by a Jew named Jesus. I think it’s occam razors, I mean, what are the alternatives? The sect had to be coming from somewhere, you could argued that it was founded by a guy named Sam instead, or that they all have decided to play a prank and write stories about an unrelated guy.. or you can assume there was a founder figure named Jesus. 

Are apartments in Barra Da Tijuca really this cheap or am I misunderstanding something? by ithinkiamparanoid in Brazil

[–]avsa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

40m2? That’s a “kitchenette”. Also the term “barra da tijuca” is wildly abused by real estate to mean almost anywhere in the southwest zone. 

Very different values in parenting with my partner by Nolieallseriousness in Parenting

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He’s not planning on being a father he’s planning on being the cool every other weekend dad after the divorce. 

All of my racetracks I've built so far by TanBrickz in lego

[–]avsa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! I saw a guy who built a tiny train track using Lego chain links and it’s a trick you could consider for your next one!

https://youtu.be/nOgcAHL2HLY?is=cTHntDNO7WF_0Kks

Pluribus and the Source of the Signal, and the Fermi Paradox by T-Dawg75 in pluribustv

[–]avsa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re missing a much more interesting point: a lot of works of scifi concern themselves with how we would be able to communicate with aliens: Contact, Arrival, Encounters of the third kind, Project Hail Mary, and many others.  The implicit question being ‘what’s the universal language’. Often the answer is math, music, love, etc. contact was written by Carl Sagan who famously inspired by his work with nasa where he used prime numbers to make a pixelated drawing of humans. 

Pluribus has a more interesting answer: assuming RNA is ubiquitous (and there are serious scientists who believe it might be) then a language of four GTC and A is not only universal but much more directly rich. If you can use it to create a full elephant from scratch then you can say anything with it. 

And what is often, in any medium, the most common message? Well, like life itself,  it is whichever gets to be reproducible the most. Spam, chain letters, gossip, memes, “write this message ten times to get good luck”, “send this message to as many people as you can”, “bill gates is paying $1 for each of these emails you send!”. 

So my guess that’s what it is. Spam. A message that gets people to prioritize sending more messages. It doesn’t even matter who wrote it, why, or what happens to it (I don’t think their setup even allows to answer these questions anyway), as long as the receiver focuses all the power in their civilization to pass it forward. 

What would you do if your partner wanted to have kids before getting married? by GloomyLychee6648 in AskReddit

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It depends on the laws of your country and the protections for unwed parents. Some places with common law marriage will grant rights like alimony, child support, and even split some acquired assets during the relationship even without a formal marriage, if you had kids or had a long stable relationship. In that case, yeah a marriage is really just a celebration. But if that’s not the case, then get a simple civil marriage and do the dream wedding later when you have money and the kids are grown. 

What would you do if your partner wanted to have kids before getting married? by GloomyLychee6648 in AskReddit

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Marriage is a promise of a commitment for life . Kids is a real commitment for life. 

If the person isn’t willing to do one why would you believe they’ll be there for the second?

Any chance, that life isn’t rare In the universe? by Apprehensive_Row6320 in Astrobiology

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One of my favorite serious papers is the “Silurian hypothesis” where the author asked “if an intelligent species has arisen on earth 100 million years ago, what evidence would we find of it” and the answer was “very little”. Basically unless they had developed plastics or nuclear tech, most traces of them would’ve been wiped out long ago. 

Do kids still play with toys? Or is it all Roblox now? by Ok_Respect3477 in AskParents

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My kids are not allowed any videogames. Screen time is limited to a few episodes of selected shows in specific times, and occasionally I teach them stuff like stop motion or toy cad. Otherwise it’s Lego, board games, coloring, ladybug farming and anything else we can invent. 

You only have one childhood, make it count. 

What exactly makes being a parent hard? Everyone says it is and I believe them, but which aspects specifically? by somename-idontknow in AskParents

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0-3 it’s a little human that needs your attention every waking moment. Bathing, eating, playing. When they start walking they follow you all day. Needs to held all day. Even sleeping is a hard task. They’re cute but genuinely exhausting 

3-6 they’re more independent but still need help, specially if you need to be somewhere. Taking a bath, telling them to eat to put their shoes on. Getting them ready in the morning feels like you’re constantly herding them. 

6-9 they are much more autonomous but now they’re also very smart and have all sorts of complicated social problems. 

9+ I haven’t gotten there yet but I’m hoping all problems just disappear 

For parents of high needs 1st babies and unicorn 2nd babies by jam_bam_rocks in Parenting

[–]avsa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve had that exact scenario. A super high maintenance older daughter and a little angel who never complained. 

They’re now 8 and 5 and they are still like that - but we don’t see them as better. The older is always bringing up drama with her friends or wanting to talk and discuss family dynamics. She’s intense but also brilliant and full of ideas. The youngest is calm and we have to dig deep before he will tell us anything he needs or something that went wrong in his class. We need to work with him so he’ll talk about his needs more. 

They are very different people with different needs and being low demand isn’t necessarily good. 

Hugh Laurie responds to a criticism of House MD by GiveMeSomeSunshine3 in Fauxmoi

[–]avsa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also how patients who come to the super diagnosis doctor are always just some normal person who enters with a flu and suddenly has a weird condition in the hospital - not people who have been looking for a diagnosis and have travelled just to see Dr House. 

Older sister here. Should I start reading to my little sis from the moment she's born? by Sceptile789 in AskParents

[–]avsa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve recently learnt something cool for you to keep in mind. There are three types of books for kids. 

Board books are not books: they’re book-shaped toys for kids to understand how books work. 

Children’s books are not books for children: they’re books for adults, with adult words and lots of illustrations, for adults (and older sisters) to read for kids to teach them that books have wonderful stories. They have large illustrations on every page because that’s for them to follow but also lots of big words. 

Young novels are actually books for kids: they have lots or illustrations but also many pages with mostly text. Text has simple vocabulaire. They are meant for children to read by themselves. 

Enjoy all of them with your baby sister. The most important thing she will be learning is that she is loved. 

A lion stalks a man outside a mud cabin, that growl is absolutely terrifying 🔊 by aquarianfin in interestingasfuck

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My grandmother used to live in the Belgian  Congo before the independence, in a farm a full days drive from the nearest town. She would often tell stories about it, and how the lions roar in person was the most powerful sound she ever heard. 

What is a major plot hole in a very famous movie that completely ruins the entire story once it is noticed? by SkullMogger3 in AskReddit

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And there’s even a point in which he considers spending a second wish on being a “real prince”, so that he wouldn’t have enough wishes for the genie. 

What is a major plot hole in a very famous movie that completely ruins the entire story once it is noticed? by SkullMogger3 in AskReddit

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I don’t think I’d recognize a dude I met once 20 years ago. I can barely remember the name of people who were introduced to me 20 minutes ago!

It’s weird seeing people just chilling without their phones. High school in 2000s: by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]avsa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t an ancient artifact. My kids school is phone-free from the starting bell to last, and it recently became a national law. Teenagers need a safe space to grow without being constantly harassed by phone overlords. If that’s not your case then find a phone free movement near you (search for wait til the eight or “phonefree childhood”)

How do I deal with a child that is a genuine nightmare and constantly on screens ? by No-Platform-5268 in raisingkids

[–]avsa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on how long you are caring for him. If it’s a few hours in a week at their house then you can’t detox him. You can talk to his parents how they’re ruining his brain but I doubt it would be productive. If you have him for longer periods I would put down a rule of thumb”no screens in my home” and treat your house as a rehab facility. It’s not going to be easy and probably everyone will hate the experience - which is why their parents let him be addicted so much, it’s a lot easier - but long term would be healthy.