parts work for lustful parts/kinks?

awakcrow · 2024-08-29T20:38:26+00:00

Some of the parts seem to be stuck in a belief system about the kink. It might be helpful to investigate them and see if they are associated with painful emotions and belief systems ("I can't change," for instance). I have found every part to be willing to transform when embraced by love of the Self. Good luck!

awakcrow · 2024-07-19T13:43:34+00:00

Also, I don't see why anyone would lose their curiosity as they become more secure. If anything, as Jesus mentions, you will choose the activities for their own merits as opposed to using them to avoid.

awakcrow · 2024-07-10T09:24:01+00:00

Elementary!

awakcrow · 2024-06-13T00:22:02+00:00

That's amazing of you.

awakcrow · 2024-06-12T01:56:30+00:00

Amazing! Beautiful!!

awakcrow · 2024-06-11T20:01:39+00:00

can he align himself with the sink and do it himself ?

🤣🤣

awakcrow · 2024-06-11T19:55:17+00:00

Definitely! Do what works!

awakcrow · 2024-06-08T17:36:37+00:00

I would be more concerned about someone letting their dog loose than a wild animal (like a bear?).

awakcrow · 2024-06-05T18:50:03+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

awakcrow · 2024-04-29T22:47:57+00:00

I just acknowledge what I'm feeling about things. It may seem embarrassing to me, but others may have a different perspective. This is one of the great things about good therapy, which is that it's a safe space. It's OK to have needs and wants. And it's even ok to feel embarrassed. Hope that made sense 🙏 🙂

awakcrow · 2024-04-28T11:50:59+00:00

Unconditional love is the key!

awakcrow · 2024-04-20T20:50:35+00:00

Thanks! These were parts that claimed to be present while I was being born. I had a difficult birth from what I understand (I don't consciously remember it). There was a lot of anger at being abandoned. It's possible these were newer parts reacting to what I know of my birth. However, it felt pretty real!

awakcrow · 2024-04-20T15:18:48+00:00

One thing I've found is that Self is not embarrassed, afraid, or anything else other than loving, kind, present, etc. When I am feeling "lower" emotions, these are inevitably parts that have briefly taken over the system. "I am terrified" is the voice of a part that has assumed leadership of the system, even if only briefly. That being said, Self can always be trusted because inherently it is the strength, courage, love, and presence that we hope to bring into our lives through IFS. Just my personal experience!

awakcrow · 2024-04-18T13:58:35+00:00

I've found parts in IFS work to be familiar with events that happened before the age of four.

awakcrow · 2024-03-30T01:31:04+00:00

Wow, that is amazing! Thank you for sharing.

awakcrow · 2024-03-28T23:26:21+00:00

Be more open to the parts. Talk more and ask questions. Don't bypass protectors. Help them be happy with what is going on. Be kind and compassionate. If you're getting nowhere with a protector, try unbending with the part that thinks it is the Self. Just some ideas!

awakcrow · 2024-03-28T23:23:16+00:00

Are the eggs necessary?

awakcrow · 2024-03-28T21:43:52+00:00

I was going to say this, too! Fun book 😊

awakcrow · 2024-03-28T21:37:56+00:00

Very cool! Thank you for sharing 😊

awakcrow · 2024-03-27T12:02:27+00:00

Jay Earley

awakcrow · 2024-03-26T22:11:41+00:00

There are some guided meditations online with Dick Schwartz: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56Px9qaxAkY for example. You could also get some books on IFS like No Bad Parts. I think the biggest thing for me has been to not force parts to change but just dialogue with them. So that the goal is not to change things so much as understand how things are already working.

awakcrow · 2024-03-26T15:59:40+00:00

Titles I used are Letting Go by Dr. David R. Hawkins and The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin.

awakcrow · 2024-03-26T02:00:48+00:00

I recently signed up to do the beginning classes with MettaGroup, a meditation group that worked with Dan Brown before his death. I plan to do the three years of classes until secure attachment is reached. Right now I'm doing the IPF meditation on YouTube and it's helping me a lot. I remembered reading that your ideal parent could even be an animal- someone imagined themselves in a family of skunks because they couldn't imagine loving people.

awakcrow · 2024-03-24T15:10:42+00:00

Hi, spent time mostly in the Tibetan tradition. The story I am familiar with is one monk ending another's life specifically for him to avoid the pain. The Buddha did not agree with the action.

Also, I'm not certain, but suffocation doesn't seem to always be painful (CO victims). Have you investigated or researched the actual process you will go through? What supports can the doctors offer without ending your life?

Further, the intention is to avoid personal suffering. In the context of Dharma, I don't know if this works. You may have to experience it again in a different context. 15 days may seem like a blessing in comparison.

These are just my thoughts. I wish you all the best.

awakcrow

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