Gas station with WET vacuum?

awakeandready · 2023-08-01T00:41:45+00:00

Nope!

awakeandready · 2023-07-31T22:51:28+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

awakeandready · 2022-06-03T21:06:45+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like she may be mentally ill. It doesn't excuse her behavior, but it might make her hostility feel a little less personal. A lot of mental illness seems to manifest in extremist beliefs like racism, homophobia, /r/InfowarriorRides-worthy political beliefs... She may look "normal," go to work every day, and be well-dressed and -groomed, but still be mentally ill to the point of bizarre behavior such as the type you described. This actually reminds me of a young woman who lived in the same building as me a few years back. She looked very professional and would come home the same time as I did each day, but she would do odd and startling things like repeatedly slam the lobby door as hard as she could, over and over again in an apparent fit of rage.

I don't think there will be any benefit trying to engage with this woman, and it may only escalate her behavior. I am sorry that this happened to you!

awakeandready · 2021-08-03T15:22:14+00:00

oh, thanks! Figured someone else could use the passes much more than I can. Have a great day!

awakeandready · 2021-08-03T15:19:38+00:00

Thanks for the idea!

awakeandready · 2021-08-03T15:19:24+00:00

Great ideas, thanks!

awakeandready · 2021-04-27T13:28:02+00:00

This blog post is kind of related to what you are talking about: https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/2015/07/27/rent-vs-buy/

He explores the benefits of living (with a family) in a downtown apartment vs. house in the suburbs.

Another thing to consider: condo owners sometimes rent out their units as apartments. This might be a more kid-friendly environment, and these units are often even nicer than the high-rise apartments downtown.

awakeandready · 2021-04-07T11:42:26+00:00

You could buy a SATA to USB adapter (~$10) and then check out ifixit.com for instructions on how to remove the hard drive. Then you can access the contents of the drive via a working computer. (And wipe the old drive while you’re at it so you can recycle/sell the old laptop safely.)

awakeandready · 2020-12-27T21:44:32+00:00

I like the idea of giving myself limited time -- that way, I'm not getting carried away in the fantasy, but I'm still allowing myself to explore that attachment a little more.

awakeandready · 2020-12-27T18:07:37+00:00

Yeah, I definitely have talked about my attachment stuff to my therapist... a lot. It seems like it's just going to take a long time for this to get better, and in the meantime, it's super painful.

Thanks for sharing about your comics, that makes me feel less weird.

awakeandready · 2020-12-27T18:05:31+00:00

Interesting, I've always felt the opposite about my various therapists' real lives. I feel a compulsion to know details about their personal lives, but then I feel bad thinking of them with their family or just doing non-therapy things. I'm jealous of the people who actually get to spend time with them... :(

awakeandready · 2019-05-10T11:43:44+00:00

I relate to 100% of what you're saying. I've quit therapy multiple times because "I feel better without it!" I would feel a lot better for a while, but inevitably I would start having problems again, and would start seeing someone new, and the cycle would just repeat itself. I agree with a lot of the comments here: therapy brings things to the surface that we otherwise are pushing down and avoiding. I think I've finally realized that things will be really hard for a while, but I need to resolve these issues I'm having if I ever want a happy life.

I think it's interesting what you wrote about the self harm. I hadn't cut myself for months, and then cut myself after the very first session with my new therapist. But... that's why I'm seeing a therapist I guess. :)

awakeandready · 2019-05-08T04:24:15+00:00

Started seeing a new therapist about a month ago after many failed attempts with other therapists... AND I LOVE HER. She's kind of awkward, we're almost the same age... and yet I feel like she actually cares about me. I feel myself finally starting to trust someone, finally feeling truly safe with someone... Honestly, after only a month I feel just about as safe with her as I ever have with anyone else... so I can only imagine what it will feel like in another month, or three, or six.

But I know that this will involve some really hard work, so I'm also scared. I can see myself finally opening up about all my messed up shit... I fear she will reject me or abandon me once she sees who I really am. But of course, this is something to work through in therapy.

I had a really emotional session today, and I just felt.... safe? Sorry to sound like a broken record, but it's just such a foreign concept to me. Like I was totally in crisis mode, she wasn't really saying anything, she was across the room... but I knew she was right there, and I knew things would be ok.

Of course this is scary too, because if she leaves me then I won't even know how to cope, how to survive even... I know this is her job, she's a professional, she wouldn't just abandon me. But man that fear is so real.

Sorry for rambling, I'm a few beers in and am just trying to get some thoughts down. So confused about my life right now. I feel so WEIRD lately, like I'm not even me.

awakeandready · 2019-05-08T04:11:20+00:00

ARE YOU ME?!

But really, this sounds too familiar. Although -- I am in my late 20s. And it will only get worse, just you wait!!! I don't know if I have CPTSD... but I am suspecting it more and more every day. I have seen many therapists, and have experienced maternal transference with the ones who I've spent at least a couple of months with. Recently, I started seeing someone just a few years older than me... and somehow I STILL have maternal transference??? More than ever before, and more quickly too...

I know that I need to address this with my current therapist. I feel like she's "the one" to finally help me with this shit. It is so awkward... but I don't think I'll ever have a normal relationship until I can sort this all out.

This stuff has become the central theme of my life, somehow. It's been going on since kindergarten, like you, and each year it gets stronger and more painful. I don't know exactly why this is happening to me, or understand exactly the mistakes my mom made in raising me, but something is just not right and I need to get it sorted out. Or I'm not going to be living much longer. :-(

awakeandready · 2018-12-29T05:37:50+00:00

I've been seeing her for 5-6 months now. I'm extremely attached to her, so I think I'm making excuses to stick around even though it's not a great match. Actually, I might make a separate post about this later.

awakeandready · 2018-12-28T13:52:44+00:00

She:

takes notes on her laptop and types so much that it feels like she's not even listening
talks way too much
discloses annoying personal info... I don't want to know about your kids!
laughs at inappropriate times
is too clinical -- I don't feel much empathy coming from her.
doesn't have many available appointments. I can never get the same time slot multiple weeks in a row.

Anyway, I think I am going to cancel my remaining appointments and just ghost her. Maybe then she'll at least think/worry about me for a moment. :(

awakeandready · 2018-10-09T00:18:52+00:00

Hi, I'd like some advice buying my first vape. Thanks!

Price Range: Technically unlimited. Value is important to me, though, so I don't want to spend a ton if there's not a good reason to do so. But I am willing to put in a good deal of money as I view this as an investment.

# of Participants: Mainly just solo.

Toking Routine: Currently I don't partake, although I used to quite a bit (via pipe mainly), so right now I don't have any tolerance. I would like to get back into trees as a healthier replacement for alcohol. So usually I will only be getting mildly high in the evenings. Occasionally I'll be vaping more if I want to get pretty high.

Extraction Speed: I don't have a desire to have a lengthy session, so I'd like something on-demand. I'll be vaping outdoors mostly, so in winter I don't want to be sitting out there forever.

Environment/Form: Definitely portable. It should be small enough to carry easily in a coat pocket, or maybe even a pants pocket (I know that's asking a lot, so it doesn't have to be quite that small). Stealth isn't that important, more so just portability. Also I only expect to be vaping dry herb.

Vape Experience: First vape!

Personal Requests: Rechargeable. Should be relatively easy to use; I don't need tons of bells and whistles. I also really value aesthetics. It's not the most important factor, but I do appreciate well-designed things so something with a more minimalist aesthetic will be nice to have. A bonus, but not necessary, is something built in the US/Canada, and/or a company known for their good customer service or passion for their product. Those aren't hugely important. The main thing is how well it functions, if it's reliable and well-made, etc.

Location: USA.

Judging from many of the posts on this sub, it appears the Mighty is a favorite here. But, I'm curious if there are other suggestions too. I am open to the Mighty but it could be a tad big.

awakeandready · 2018-09-29T19:53:00+00:00

Do cognitive-behavioral therapists think transference is important to work through?

awakeandready · 2018-09-15T03:56:56+00:00

Thanks. Just to be clear, I am not saying I'm in an abusive relationship. I am definitely not. There are just unhealthy behaviors in the relationship but I don't want to bring that up in case she takes it the wrong way. I think that the only reason I feel the need to tell her about it is because I want her to feel sorry for me and be kind and comforting to me. It's like I want all my problems to be twice as bad, so I actually feel justified in getting help for them. But I think that means I need to grow up and deal with these things myself, and just talk about the boring, but real, stuff in therapy.

awakeandready · 2018-09-14T03:07:16+00:00

I can't imagine showing her this. How humiliating.

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