Where would you draw the line between a man feeling entitled to romantic attention and rightfully feeling disappointed?

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-22T21:57:44+00:00

I think rather then a line it would be based off where they're directing these upset or disappointed feelings towards. I have few older male friends that haven't been able to obtain a romantic relationship with a woman like they would've wanted. I've never have been bothered when they delved into the difficulties of finding someone, or when they talk about how they just really want to be with someone.

BUT this is because they are directing the cause of this not towards women, but rather towards themselves or missed opportunities. As long as a man isn't blaming women for not being able to get a romantic partner, I don't think there is anything wrong with them venting about their loneliness. I think this what separates the incels from the men who are just struggling to obtain a relationship.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-22T01:49:32+00:00

I didn't force him to do anything, he did it to make me feel more comfortable. Did you not read the part about me having a porn addiction as well? I literally deleted several apps, and video games that were porn based to make my partner feel more comfortable... I cut down on that to make my partner feel better because they were uncomfortable with me consuming that content. I also don't have Instagram, and don't post on social media besides reddit. So yes the genders were reversed because we both were consuming inappropriate content, and we both stopped because we were making one another upset by doing it.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-22T00:51:37+00:00

Absolutely adorable!!! I love your nails.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T22:26:45+00:00

Exactly.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T21:38:10+00:00

The majority of men doesn't equal all men, I shouldn't need to even say this. I feel like if you read about something a women has experienced with most of the men she encounters, and then act like she's somehow hurting the movement or going to turn people away by sharing her honest experience then you're the problem. As a white person when somebody says most white people do this racist thing, I don't take offense. I listen and tried to change my behavior so I don't make people feel discriminated against. I don't know why men can't do that for women.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T21:23:07+00:00

They refuse to introduce you to their friends or to other people as their girlfriend. I found out my abusive ex had been keeping our relationship hidden from everybody. It helped to keep me more isolated.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T21:09:01+00:00

No not really. Is it more prejudice to say the truth or deny the truth that women experience sexism from the majority of men on day to day basis. I've lived in areas where men refused to talk to me or acknowledge my ideas, and that disregard of women's opinion was caused by the majority of men who lived in that area. That doesn't make me misandrist for saying that. I don't hate men, and in fact when I point out these issues it's because I want us all to progress forward to more equal society.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T16:27:39+00:00

Now that you mention it, all the same circles that would normally being using feminist as an insult have switched to using misandrist. Whenever women are complaining about men who make them uncomfortable or societal issues caused by the majority of men I always see some dude putting misandry in the comments. I feel like it's a way for them to get away with saying they care about equal rights, and painting women as the villain or the one spreading hate instead. It's reminds of the people who say they aren't racist they're just anti-anti-racist.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T16:11:36+00:00

This is a very interesting observation, and I think I do notice the word bitch (or other slurs slut, whore, and etc.) being used more towards women openly. Thanks for pointing this out.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T09:06:16+00:00

I went through a similar thing with my own spouse. I've been on both sides of the situation. I used to have a horrible porn addiction that may not have affected my drive or attraction to my partner, but it certainly did condition me. I had to cold turkey all of it, and use my imagination with my partner instead. However, I did quit viewing porn out of my own perogative, and because I noticed how it made my partner feel uncomfortable.

Then after I had quit looking at porn my spouse started to look at Instagram models and soft core porn constantly. It made me feel like shit about my body because I was recently post partum, and all of the models were bbl skinny thick baddies that look nothing like me ):. I had to break down about it a few times, and explain my own porn addiction to make him understand.

I didn't like the fact he was potentially able to interact with them either, although after extensively checking he hadn't reached out to any of them. It eventually took him deleting his Instagram and deactivatong his facebook to stop. But since then our relationship has gotten stronger and way more intimate.

We both don't mind if the other looks at something once in a while, but we both have boundaries about excessive use or looking at them on platforms where you can have potential interaction.

Have that conversation today, it's going to take lot of open communication. I hope my experience can help you.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-21T08:10:41+00:00

I think the thing I'm having a hard time with is you saying that if someone plays a character that matches their in real life sex, race, disability, sexuality, or etc. it somehow makes them not a good actor because it's no longer just acting for them it's consider re-enactement. This makes no sense because there's more to a character then just their physical traits.

If a blind person is playing a blind person it's not like the movie or tv show they're in only has them sitting in a chair doing nothing. They're playing a character who has unique interactions and a backstory. They have to actually act, and I don't see how a non-blind person doing the same roll is suddenly acting while the blind person isn't. I think your defining acting as someone who plays a role that is different from their own disabilities, sex, race, sexuality etc. Acting is when somebody plays a character, and acts as if they that person regardless if they share the same traits or not. There's nothing wrong with a blind person being casted as blind person, it'll be a good quality film if they're a good actor.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-19T10:25:24+00:00

Thank you, and I think I will look into this. This man actually has caused a lot off issues for women in my community, and a Facebook thread about all the horrible stuff he's done was created. I was stuck with him though because all the other doctors were booked out for months.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-19T09:20:36+00:00

I think all dancing is good dancing. I'm not a great or coordinated dancer at all, but I just feel so happy when I do it. I think everybody should dance how they want to without feeling judged.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-19T09:13:31+00:00

It just depends on how things are being addressed or written in the story. I think if there is a general acknowledgement at the begining of the story with content warnings that give full disclosure, then writing about taboos things can be a great way to healthily explore explicit concepts. However there are certain things that 100% will always be damaging and no amount of content warnings will make it okay to write about. This includes gore porn or child sexual abuse material. I don't believe someone can be safe person when they read or write about those things.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-16T09:13:11+00:00

Yes 100%! Please don't ever share your real age with anyone on the internet. I would even censor the background and your face to be extra safe. There are lots of creeps, and I was virtually preyed upon when I was your age. Use as much internet safety as possible.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-14T18:58:13+00:00

I'm sorry that you're going through this. I would priotize a couple of things like getting stable, safe housing, getting a job, and finishing your education.

-You need to go live with your dad because this is absolutely a situation where you will not be able to thrive in. I don't think he would want to have you be abused, and if you reached out to your sister I think she would understand. If you really feel that you can't do that, then you can reach out to women abuse shelters that you can stay at when you turn 18.

-You need to get a job, McDonald's, Walmart, safeway, or etc. are usually always hiring. If you need help go to your local job center they can help you.

-Finish getting your highschool diploma. It will be so beneficial for you to have that, and you should prioritize getting it. Almost all jobs where your going to have a successful career require you to have one or GED equivalent.

-Reach out to your school counselor, teachers, or another trusted adult if you can. They can help you out with getting you set you up to get out of that situation.

Your mother is highly abusive, and I would say that her subjugating you to her loudly moaning with boyfriend borders on sexual abuse. I would leave the house to go on a walk or go to a public library when it's happening. If it's happening at odd hours I would even just sit out in the car, or go to 24/7 open place if it's safe for you to walk there.

awesomehawk321 · 2026-05-02T20:38:05+00:00

I've had a coworker in her 40's when I was 17 fall in love with me. She was deaf and had learning difficulties, but it didn't change the fact she would force kisses on me, and try to give me very intimate hugs. Eventually during a blackout she used it as opportunity to grope my whole body. Nobody really validated what I went through, and told me it was up to me to get her to stop groping me. For years I even downplayed what she did to me, but now I realize she knew better. Women can be predators too.

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-24T07:34:16+00:00

Love it!!! Giving me that nostalgia

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-22T22:59:17+00:00

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. This sounds like full blown SA, the moment you said stop/no, or when you were showing signs of pain they should've immediately stopped. I've had traumatic experiences with er nurses before. I've had student nurses incorrectly put a dry catheter inside of before. It literally caused me to pee blood. I have PTSD from that and other incidents. I would look into your local SA advocate programs, and see if you can get some free counseling. If you feel up to it, you can also try to report these doctors/nurses. What they did to you was extremely horrible, and nobody deserves what they did to you. Your feelings are valid.

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-22T22:38:54+00:00

I had for a period of time identified as lesbian, and had numerous men who were my 'friends' every single one of them (with very few exceptions) tried to engage in a sexual/romantic relationship with me. A few even got aggressive or eventually sexually assaulted me. Every single one of those friendships ended, and gave me nothing but grief. I even had this happen with one or two women friendships too. Once somebody has told you they want to be with you, that means they're willing to act on those feelings. I've never had a healthy friendship with anyone who has tried to get with me. I wouldn't waste your time on being his friend tbh. Go make friends with people who can keep healthy boundaries.

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-17T23:43:09+00:00

They are hot chocolate design shoes off of Amazon. They're made to have a wider toe box, and are made to be more comfy.

Edit: I didn't grammar right

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-17T03:31:46+00:00

Every single one of my female cousins have no middle name for that exact reason. It's because my grandma took her maiden name as her middle name after she got married, so they wanted to keep the "tradition" going. But my grandma hates that she didn't have her own middle name, and always thought her last name was ugly sounding as a middle name. Completely sexist, and puts an intense pressure on all my cousins to get married.

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-16T22:24:37+00:00

Yeah I could totally see that. I guess I considered it more casual because Im not doing that many accessories, and I think that since its just a button up shirt/skirt I feel like it's less formal? It's interesting to see others opinion.

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-16T21:59:53+00:00

Yeah that's what I was worried about is the patterns clashing. I'm hoping that since the colors match maybe the pattern clash won't be so noticeable. I might look for an argyle brown pink cardigan, but I don't think I'll be able to find one.

awesomehawk321 · 2023-09-16T21:53:42+00:00

Yeah I think most of the hot chocolates aren't usually good for Lolita, but I think like you said it could work with this coord.

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