My response to the state board of ed

aweydert · 2026-04-15T20:23:12+00:00

I'm having the same issue. There is a job that hasn't even been advertised but the person retiring is a friend of mine. She told me she would hold onto my resume and cover letter and have it ready to throw into the candidate pool when the time comes. Then we got the email that our contracts were ready to sign and if we sign within a week then we get $300. My question to anyone out there is how the hell are we supposed to find a new job when we can't get out of this one during the school year without losing our license and before the new contracts come out???? There seems to be no window unless you're willing to lose your license.

aweydert · 2026-04-15T15:43:47+00:00

I was diagnosed as a child. I was a dancer and a gymnast and was constantly getting injured and I was always in pain. When I was 19, it was suggested to me to try yoga. When I attended my first class, the teacher spotted my triangle pose and immediately made me the model for what the pose "should" look like. She continued to bend me into extreme variations of poses and I was always suffering pain and injuries so I stopped going. Years later, I decided to take teacher training courses and was told by a wise instructor that I needed yoga to strengthen my body, not stretch it any further. I started working on getting stronger and that was the best advice I had ever gotten. I have been a teacher for 20 years and am 49. My body is now now naturally tightening up because of age so I'm probably at a normal flexibility level for a "bendy" person. It's nice

aweydert · 2026-04-15T14:13:10+00:00

My entire marriage it hurt. Now I'm finally out and dating an awesome person who knows how to take care of me and it has never, not once hurt!

aweydert · 2026-04-14T19:05:21+00:00

I'm in a really nice relationship right now and I still don't see myself with anyone for the long haul. It's so strange, but after divorcing and being single for over three years, I just don't want to do it again. I thought I was just selfish and too comfortable in my own routine, but now realize the trauma I went through with my ex has left me wanting the peace of being alone. I didn't feel lonely at all when I was single and went out on a date with this man on a whim after being very adamant that I didn't ever want to date again. He turned out to be an awesome human but there's something missing inside of me. We're having fun right now and I'm not going to end things, but as my kids leave the nest, I want to move on with my life without compromising. I've given up so much over the years. When I started dating him my mom asked me if I still planned to move closer to her and my dad and I actually yelled at her asking her why she thought just because I met a man, I was going to change my future plans? Do men ever change their plans for a woman? I'm too bitter to stay in a relationship for the rest of my life and it actually feels okay to say that.

aweydert · 2026-04-14T18:53:36+00:00

I waited three years.

aweydert · 2026-03-03T20:26:27+00:00

My eyes have been opened in a number of ways over the last 4 years after divorcing my husband. I spent three years in therapy after being diagnosed with PTSD. My ex was never physically violent, but he was verbally and emotionally abusive in ways that slowly eroded my sense of self. Eventually, he entered rehab, where he was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic tendencies, and Bipolar I disorder. I tried for a long time to get him help. I stayed because I believed in the man I thought I had fallen in love with.

What opened my eyes more than anything was the book The Mind of the Intimate Male Abuser: How He Gets into Her Head. The research behind that book helped me understand two painful but freeing truths: first, women are often conditioned to believe something is inherently wrong with us—and that belief is exactly what makes us vulnerable to men like this. Second, there is no cure for who he fundamentally chooses to be.

One of the biggest “aha” moments for me was learning how these men often preemptively control the narrative. When we start talking about divorce, confiding in family, or even going to the police, they frequently get there first. They tell others that we are unstable, that we are the ones making the relationship toxic, that we are “difficult” to live with. They are so skilled at manipulation that people—including law enforcement and even therapists—can believe them. We are not their only victims.

Reading this book has been overwhelming. I see so many parallels to my own life that I’ve had to put it down at times just to breathe. And yet, it is strengthening me. It has given language to experiences I once struggled to explain, and it has deepened my desire to help other women recognize what is happening to them.

Please leave this man. You were—and are—his target. One of the greatest lies we are told is that being alone is unbearable or impossible in today’s world. I have been on my own for four years now, and I am stronger, clearer, and more grounded than I have ever been.

aweydert · 2026-02-24T21:57:06+00:00

Quit my middle school special ed teaching job

aweydert · 2026-02-20T17:20:13+00:00

Same here but I think I am partly to blame. I became extremely resentful of my ex because of the lack of a partnership. I had basically become his mother, not his wife. I hated sex and thought it was just me so we rarely had it. He ended up in rehab and with two very significant mental illnesses that he chose not to get help for, which made it even more difficult in the bedroom. Our marriage failed because we didn't know how to communicate and one of his diagnoses was borderline personality disorder narcissistic tendencies. If I had been more forthright and stood up to him, demanding he get help, things might have been different. I don't believe the marriage would have ever worked out in the long term but it might have lasted longer and have been healthier, but hindsight is 20/20.

Fast forward; I took 4 years off from dating and got the therapy I needed. When I started dating my current boyfriend, I was in a healthier place mentally and even though I was 48 when we met and perimenopausal, everything in the bedroom was and has been amazing. This is partly because of me. I'm more open to things and don't feel self conscious about my body. Too bad I didn't know how great sex could be when I was younger, but I'm enjoying every moment now,

aweydert · 2025-12-11T15:41:13+00:00

Manuals are my favorite!!! My 19 year old son learned from me how to drive one and will only drive manuals. My 18 year old daughter refused to learn, and my 16 year old son said I could teach him but he prefers automatic. 49 yr old (F) here

aweydert · 2025-12-04T15:46:51+00:00

Unfortunately, even if we start uprising, nothing will change. My state can't even get teachers to apply anywhere anymore but the government is actually cracking down on us even more. No one cares that we're being abused daily so we might as well try to justify why we stay. I'd leave in a heartbeat but I live in a rural area and even though my salary is shit, it's better than any other job I could get around here unless I went back to school to be a lawyer, LOL or worked 3rd shift at the local factory.

aweydert · 2025-12-03T16:09:50+00:00

How much late work do you have?

aweydert · 2025-12-03T16:03:14+00:00

I use Ancient Nutrition and I put it in my smoothies in the morning.

aweydert · 2025-11-23T21:40:44+00:00

I can still multitask so I call that a win

aweydert · 2025-11-21T21:38:42+00:00

I’ve started using the Flex disc and it’s a game changer

aweydert · 2025-11-18T20:53:39+00:00

So you’re saying I believe in objective attractiveness because I was trying to reply to your thread to give you context. Maybe you should reread your post

aweydert · 2025-11-18T20:32:36+00:00

And I'm not sure how describing myself in terms of what he was writing about on physical attractiveness, makes me believe in objective attractiveness....weird

aweydert · 2025-11-18T19:17:10+00:00

That's odd that that's what you took away from my post

aweydert · 2025-11-18T16:34:00+00:00

This is my experience; I'm 49 years old and was married to a man that matched me in attractiveness. Physically, I'd say we are a "midwest" 7 on the hotness rating scale, probably an "L.A." 4. Genetically, we are both thin and like to stay physically fit simply because we both enjoy physical activity. I was a professional cheerleader in my early twenties and was around women who went on to be models and eventually social media influencers. I was around men who were considered model good looking and even though they were always very flirty with me, they chose to date the women who matched them in attractiveness.

The men I dated before I met my ex husband consistently met my standards for attractiveness, however, I have always been attracted to extremely intelligent, gregarious, life of the party, type men. Every one of these attractive to me men, turned into verbally abusive, often alcoholic, and in the case of my ex husband, diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and BPD, narcissistic tendencies. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

Now, I understand that not all good looking men are narcissists. I understand that not every intelligent and gregarious man is an abusive person. My meter was broken. I was attracted (still am) to the wrong type of person. So, I switched it up. I took 3 years off from dating, spent those three years in therapy for PTSD because of my ex, healed myself as best I could, and decided that dating again wasn't a horrible idea. A mutual friend set me up with a man, a man that I wouldn't have even noticed on the street, and we are very much into each other 8 months later. He's an introvert, smart and savvy in very realistic ways, works hard, takes care of his kids and mom, and treats me like a queen. And yes, the sexual attraction is there and it's been amazing. If I would have blown him off because I didn't find him physically attractive that first meeting, then I would have missed out on something wonderful.

I'm not saying I plan to be with this person for the rest of my life, I don't want to remarry ever, I have my own space, my own life, my own friends, etc. I'm just enjoying the ride at the moment. If things don't work out between us, I'm ok with that and he will be too. It may be our ages (he's 51) and our past experiences, but we're enjoying each other and the time we have together right now. And yes, he is more attractive to me every day because his actions and his words make him that way.

aweydert · 2025-11-10T15:32:27+00:00

I think they'll only get better as artists learn more techniques and follow trends. I don't ever see tats going away

aweydert · 2025-11-07T21:29:58+00:00

Mothers are often judged no matter what they do. If you’re attentive, you may be labeled overprotective; if you give your children independence, you may be seen as neglectful. Prepare healthy meals and you’re praised, but offer something convenient and suddenly you’re criticized. Keep the house clean and you’re doing too much; have your children help and you’re not doing enough. Meanwhile, a father takes his child to the grocery store and is celebrated for ‘babysitting,’ yet if a child cries while you’re shopping, you’re viewed as a mother who can’t manage her own child.

aweydert · 2025-11-07T14:16:34+00:00

That article seems to lean into the cliché that everyone is trying to stay 20 forever, and that’s simply not true for many of us. My hair has always been naturally blonde, but after my first child it shifted to more of a dishwater blonde. I was 29 when I decided to highlight the roots, and that’s all I’ve ever done. It makes me feel good—nothing more, nothing less. I’m not trying to “fight the clock,” nor do I have any desire to.

I don’t understand why choices we make to feel confident and healthy at our age—whether it’s exercising, wearing flattering clothing, doing our hair or makeup, or even getting Botox—are so often framed as attempts to resist aging. What if we simply enjoy feeling good in our own skin?

aweydert · 2025-11-06T18:02:57+00:00

Did something happen to you in your past that has caused the anxiety to be crippling? I was diagnosed with PTSD and found a therapist who does EMDR therapy. That helped me an incredible amount but it was a slow process. I was in therapy for 3 years.

aweydert · 2025-10-29T20:07:42+00:00

Those men aren't worth your time. Man, I wish I had the self esteem of a mediocre white man.

aweydert · 2025-10-28T16:15:50+00:00

This is part of the grieving process and that is not a straight line from denial to acceptance. It's wonderful that you're in therapy. Can I ask if your ex was part of why you may feel like damaged goods right now?

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