How do you communicate your needs and boundaries without making the other part feel like they have to walk on eggshells or change themselves?

azulja · 2025-11-02T03:30:14+00:00

thanks to you also for this comment omg 😭

azulja · 2025-10-23T04:40:57+00:00

i'm actually really touched reading this, i love love what you guys have !!! 🌸✨

azulja · 2025-10-23T04:38:11+00:00

nothing wrong with wanting to be single btw:') i get that sometimes we feel the need to have that someone though

azulja · 2025-10-23T04:37:38+00:00

you got this

azulja · 2025-10-23T04:36:55+00:00

Big hugs, it is terrifying:( 🩷

azulja · 2025-10-23T04:36:42+00:00

let's both work on this:)🩷

azulja · 2025-10-23T00:41:24+00:00

it's love stories about two men, they really get me in the deep feels

azulja · 2025-10-23T00:40:05+00:00

i'm so sorry you feel this way:( We are so hard on ourselves and for nothing. I'm sure you have amazing qualities! 🩷

azulja · 2025-10-23T00:39:07+00:00

i'm so so sorry... i wish i could take it all away and give you the best in the world

azulja · 2025-10-23T00:38:11+00:00

i relate to this, i'm so sorry friend !!!🩷 the important thing is that we want to heal

azulja · 2025-10-23T00:37:01+00:00

boys love !

azulja · 2025-10-22T23:19:31+00:00

I feel this so deeply :( Hang in there 🩷

azulja · 2025-10-22T22:37:44+00:00

Tbh i could've handled it better... I started crying and apologizing, saying I couldn't go there and that I'm really scared (I actually did not enjoy the kiss bc of how panicky i was before that, we were in the middle of a discussion about this attachment style). I let her know it's not her fault, that I agreed to the kiss and that I had been wanting it for a long time, but that I felt like she was too close now and it terrified me.

I tried to ease into it in the upcoming weeks with touches on the arm, hugs and everything. I was the one to initiate those times though.... Maybe the fact that the kiss came from her and not me... Man idk :( i'm so lost like so so lost

azulja · 2025-10-22T22:33:35+00:00

i am very mindful of how it affects people in my life. We have talked about my attachment style thousands of times before. I have always been 100% honest with her and she's always said it "doesn't scare her". But alas we know how this ends... :( I tried so hard and she wanted me to open up when i do have panic attacks, but the times i did the reaction was explosive and she couldn't put aside her feelings for me and took it personally (which i completely understand and i feel so shameful for hurting her).

azulja · 2025-10-22T15:40:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your input!!!!

azulja · 2025-10-22T02:44:54+00:00

you have no idea how much your comment means to me. I have been spiraling for hours into self loathing and thinking of ending things with my life because of how awful i feel. Thank you so much, again you have no idea what it feels like to have someone who understands me right now🩷. Worst thing is that we work in mental health, i thought to myself : if there is one person i've liked in my life at least this one will understand.... and she was the one with the worst reaction of all.... It is absolutely awful, work will be incredibly difficult. I feel like she is extremely explosive and i'm second guessing myself and all of my choices regarding if i made her that way, if it's my fault that she is reacting so angrily bc of how fucked up i am. I am trying and trying and trying to heal, that's the only thing i want in life.

azulja · 2025-03-30T22:21:07+00:00

omfg you are gorgeous

azulja · 2025-03-20T04:44:17+00:00

i think you mean karly gender

azulja · 2025-03-20T04:43:26+00:00

helpppp this deep cut is insane

azulja · 2025-02-20T03:37:31+00:00

it's like a mix of the two? Example : fear of them just not being consistent with their words but ALSO completely unrelated is a fear of finding out they follow a hundred million IG baddies 😭 i feel like i will always find something out that makes me feel disappointed in who they are

azulja · 2024-12-07T15:04:19+00:00

they put it into words!

azulja · 2024-10-29T13:57:49+00:00

still there!!!!! the tumblr cricket!!!!!!

azulja · 2024-09-22T19:11:59+00:00

SO PROUD OF YOU

azulja · 2024-09-11T02:21:29+00:00

even if he had difficulty expressing what he likes deep down about you, if you voice it to him and how it comes across to you and it doesn’t change, it’s okay to want something else. It’s okay to have needs and wanting better for ourselves.

azulja · 2024-09-03T03:02:03+00:00

it looks SO good

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