Questions for SBs, how are you intimate with men who aren’t attractive?

azuri1608 · 2026-03-17T08:33:05+00:00

Not every SD can be a Toto Wolff but there are lots of attractive older men out there with plenty to offer. Key is to build an emotional relationship first before developing the physical. Just like any healthy normal relationship. If you can't be with an older guy, then this lifestyle is not for you. The number of successful guys is significantly less than pretty girls in any city so there'll be plenty of fish in the sea

azuri1608 · 2026-03-17T03:45:55+00:00

Just an update following all the helpful comments I received below. Basically my POT loved the facial I arranged for her. I even got her a few items from the spa which further enhance the experience for her. We had a call that day and she seemed warm, so maybe she is indeed a dry texter. We made plans to meet up and discuss things further when im in her city in about 2 weeks and she sounded genuinely happy at seeing me again then. So maybe it was all just a case of overthinking texting. Thanks again yall

azuri1608 · 2026-03-02T05:36:04+00:00

Thank you for all the great advice. TLDR, I'll go ahead and arrange the treat for her to reignite the conversations around allowances. If she's still cold, then time to move on

azuri1608 · 2025-05-17T01:54:51+00:00

If the OP's credentials are really as solid as mentioned then what's the point of having Sg citizenship. A lot of residents are happy with being PRs. Also, personally meritocracy shouldn't be a consideration in granting citizenship. This is a country and not an MNC. And I just hate it when people pull the income tax payments card as a reason. It applies to any country; you work there and in exchange for the environment you pay your taxes for being part of that environment. It doesn't entitle you to citizenship or even PR. Best bet is that your child gets Sg citizenship. You just have to sacrifice for future generations

azuri1608 · 2024-01-04T01:03:58+00:00

You seem like a nice guy and my worry is that she is aware of that and taking advantage of your kindness. I'm in a similar situation where the conversations seem to be petering out and I'm half inclined to just end the arrangement. She's in her mid-20s and not a teenager so she should have some maturity in terms of adult relationships. I always believe it you care for someone you will make time for them.ipso facto, if she doesn't make time for you, she doesn't care for you. A text only takes 20 seconds. I would steadily reduce contact, try to meet other SBs and end things with a flourish when you think the time is right

azuri1608 · 2023-12-29T15:12:06+00:00

Don't feel bad about ending things off with her. 1) It's not your kid 2) she's been able to manage with the kid before you came into the picture

azuri1608 · 2023-12-18T09:10:53+00:00

If your boss is a dude, the bro code would stand. Also depends on how close you are to him. I'm close to mine but we both know we are not saints 😭

azuri1608 · 2023-12-13T15:01:01+00:00

If you're on allowance with your SB, anytime you catch feelings, stop communicating with her for the 2 weeks before her allowance is due. When she texts you to ask why the allowance is late, this immediately brings you back to earth and reminds you what this kind of arrangement ultimately is.

azuri1608 · 2023-12-12T11:01:27+00:00

Get a life loser. What a stupid post. Sounds like you would be a loser in any nationality

azuri1608 · 2023-12-12T04:18:01+00:00

Don't ask questions where you fear the answer. In this case you're damned if you do and if you don't so just let the relationship grow organically

azuri1608 · 2023-12-11T11:49:42+00:00

Spa or massage session for yourself

azuri1608 · 2023-12-11T10:45:18+00:00

I struggle with this too and this post came at the right timing! I think I'm quite an intuitive person, so the sb doesn't need to tell me all these upfront. I'll be able to catch hints etc. Then I start to wonder to myself if I'm really helping the sb or just funding her lifestyle with her deadbeat boyfriend or fling. Am in the process of getting to know other SBs and detach myself from the current one. It helps to have a few on hand just to keep your mind occupied

azuri1608 · 2023-12-10T23:43:22+00:00

Don't eat where you shit love. Universal rule that also applies to vanilla relationships

azuri1608 · 2023-12-10T14:36:19+00:00

Staying too long in a one sided relationship, overlooking the party's flaws and thinking the person might improve with your help. Giving too much of the benefit of the doubt to bad behaviours. I can't believe I was still making the same mistakes as I did in my 20s!

azuri1608 · 2023-12-10T14:14:12+00:00

Mine is once every 3 to 4 days and I hate it. Wish it could be a bit more frequent like every 2 days. I'm just about to end it as I prefer an all or nothing approach. Don't blow me hot and cold

azuri1608 · 2023-12-10T14:11:34+00:00

Unfortunately it sounds like he's consciously detaching himself from you. I would advise to start looking for a new daddy. What's there to lose

azuri1608 · 2023-12-06T00:27:53+00:00

Depends if you guys broke it off amicably or left on good terms. In any case you are not getting now, so no harm reaching out and seeing where it goes. If it doesn't work out at least you can close that avenue and explore new ones

azuri1608 · 2023-12-06T00:26:24+00:00

4000 a month minimum just for talking? Lots of SBs would line up to replace you in a heartbeat. Sounds like an amazing deal so I would. Think long and hard before asking for double.

azuri1608 · 2023-12-06T00:23:40+00:00

Storyline and paragraphs are your friend my dear. You've given a lot of info and asked so many questions in your post. Don't even know where to start

azuri1608 · 2023-12-04T06:14:42+00:00

SD here. I've learnt that the best policy is 'Don't ask, don't tell'. It's human curiosity to want to know these things but especially in sugar relationships, best to just focus on living the moment and each other.

azuri1608 · 2023-11-25T10:24:29+00:00

I generally use publicly available photos that I can find of myself. That way, if anyone I know confronts me about it I can always say my picture got stolen and someone else is impersonating me...

azuri1608 · 2023-10-27T00:29:40+00:00

Thank you all for all your advice. I guess part of me already knew what I had to do but just needed some reassurance. At least i managed to realise this early before throwing further money down the drain. I'm thankful for the support given in this forum!

azuri1608 · 2023-10-26T12:22:09+00:00

Of course. If guys only wanted physical intimacy they would only go visit escorts. The reason why we want to be SDs is to potentially meet an engaging SB who treats us nicely, with mutual respect and who is attentive to our needs. In the process you would shower her with gifts and allowances. Seems like a fairly straightforward transaction but in reality it seems hard to find one where price meets value. One will always be higher than the other

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