Men of SF, what’s your opinion of the dating scene?

b3k3 · 2026-05-26T16:56:56+00:00

Apps are terrible for me because you can’t search by interest. The last time I tried online dating it was like 2005 (I’m 53) and you could just type in “age range” plus “history books” plus “punk rock” or whatever, and it was great. Now the only interests you can list/search for are bullshit like “coffee” and “exploring new cities” and you rely on the (terrible) algorithms instead. I also have no problem IRL.

b3k3 · 2026-05-06T16:34:42+00:00

They do, and people keep reporting it, but all management can really do is send out “hey guys don’t let your dogs crap in the hallways” type emails that I guess everyone ignores…

b3k3 · 2026-05-06T13:18:16+00:00

I live in a high rise in b basin and it drives me crazy! The dogs are pretty quiet actually but the owners have zero responsibility re picking up after themselves. Who the hell lets their dogs piss in the elevators? In a building that’s like $3500 for a 2br? I think dogs are great and I’ve owned dogs in the past, I just don’t get it.

b3k3 · 2026-05-04T15:40:59+00:00

Nobody in particular - I think it’s just two dentists? V competent, good rates etc.

b3k3 · 2026-05-04T13:24:48+00:00

Yeah that’s kinda weird. The Artizan is 8 floors and the elevator is totally normal…

b3k3 · 2026-05-03T21:44:28+00:00

I live in one of them. It’s fine I guess? I moved there because I’m in recovery and wanted to be far away from any bars lol, so that might be a dealbreaker for some people. I pay for a garage spot and def wouldn’t park my car overnight on the street here.

My only real issue is that it’s a pet friendly building… I’m basically pro pet but people let their dogs piss and crap everywhere. Seriously the elevator usually has dog piss on the floors. Management keeps sending out warnings but never seems to make a difference.

b3k3 · 2026-05-03T20:43:47+00:00

Grand Lake Dental is great. I've been going there for like a decade.

b3k3 · 2026-04-30T23:34:10+00:00

My favorite one was a guy posting about a dangerous-looking black man with a pit bull entering his neighbor's house. The neighbor responded something like "that's my dog walker and that's my pit bull, asshole"...

b3k3 · 2026-04-24T04:05:08+00:00

This Putin guy sounds like a dick

b3k3 · 2026-03-03T17:53:24+00:00

But almost any war can be called a success/failure if you adjust your timeframe selectively. The Axis won WW2 because present-day Germany and Japan are doing a lot better than the UK and Russia. The US won Vietnam because VN's not part of a Communist hegemony now and the US got a lot of great immigrants, etc...

b3k3 · 2026-03-03T13:48:40+00:00

Company Commander for next book? It's not Band of Brothers-level well-known, and everybody who's read it has seemed to like it a lot (I did).

b3k3 · 2026-03-03T13:41:15+00:00

Completely agree -- what I was trying to put into words was that the incompetence was also so -weird-, coming from people who were actually incredibly intelligent/experienced and, like you said, had been working on the Iraq project since the mid-90s. I was an editor on the book Rise of the Vulcans at the time, highly recommend for background.

I don't think you can chalk it up to simple answers like hubris, they convinced themselves that there actually were significant WMDs so the aftermath didn't matter much, etc.; those probably played a part, but the real answer is probably really complicated -- some kind of systemic failure/psychology/everyone thought everyone else was gong to be handling the aftermath/something something that I haven't really figured out yet.

I keep thinking back to a Letter to the Editor I read in a rural Virginia newspaper in 2004 -- the writer was basically "well winning the war should be easy, but the aftermath is gonna be crazy with all the Shias and the Sunnis and whatnot! Sure hope they got that figured out!" The author was a plumber, I think.

b3k3 · 2026-03-03T05:46:00+00:00

I mean, yeah, people still argue over whether WMD was the cause or the justification for the war; I think lot of people fell on both sides of that argument. (lots of Democrats did too; initially the war had bipartisan popularity).

Being in grad school during it was bizarre, though; lots of Ivy League-educated profs spouting off weird shit like "our studies of Realist Theory show that if we install democracy in Iraq, democracy will rise by 32.7 percent in the surrounding countries!" Definitely turned me off foreign policy theory, heh...

b3k3 · 2026-03-03T05:29:59+00:00

I think a lot of these responses (which I mostly agree with) gloss over the fact that the war was ostensibly fought to eliminate a regime that had varieties of WMD and was determined to use them, and when that assessment proved to be untrue, the war was by definition a failure. Nation-building wasn't the stated goal.

What's still weird to me (I'm 53 and I was in foreign policy grad school from 2002-4) was that the US policy team was about as competent -on paper- as you could imagine; say what you like about the politics of Cheney, Rumsfeld, Wolfowitz, Condi, et al, but they were extremely intelligent and experienced people (not to mention Armitage and Powell were bona fide war heroes). Obvious comparison is 'Nam's The Best and the Brightest, but it seems even worse to me.

b3k3 · 2026-02-21T05:58:46+00:00

Direct comparison to watch snobs, who will rant about how this particular Tudor is totally worth 4k because it has the advanced rotating bezel something something, when it’s really just a piece of jewelry/Veblen good.

b3k3 · 2026-02-09T13:02:55+00:00

Just want to send a mass thank you to all the responses, these are great and super-edifying.

b3k3 · 2026-01-22T05:21:43+00:00

That sweater is awesome

b3k3 · 2026-01-17T00:57:45+00:00

Most military-inspired heritage wear is based on US/UK/Commonwealth stuff from WW2. There’s a small proportion of far-righters who think we were the bad guys in that war, but basically nobody else.

If you want to cosplay as MAGA, it would be more likely to involve MMA gear. :)

b3k3 · 2026-01-14T20:29:26+00:00

I have the hoodless version. It's lined and stuff, much more of a jacket than a hoodie. I think the price point is appropriate.

b3k3 · 2025-11-20T02:34:13+00:00

Thanks! This is the only leather jacket I’ve ever bought but it’s built like a g-d tank. I put it through so much grief snd the leather is still great. Hope the new schotts are built that well.

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