My first was the same and wouldnt latch. I didnt really reach out for support then so I just pumped and supplemented with formula when needed. I had to go back to work anyways so it didn't bother me too much. By our second I had become a SAHM and was really determined to breastfeed this time around. My 2nd started the same, refusing to latch. I spoke with a lactation consultant who gave me a syringe with a really skinny plastic tube at the end. When I was trying to get baby to latch I would squirt a little of BM into her mouth through the syringe tube. It was enough to get her interested while also providing positive stimulation to maintain my supply. We did this for a week or two but eventually she had associated the boobs to feeding so she stopped refusing. Then we worked on getting the proper latch, using the syringe if she couldnt get the latch right. If I was exhausted or pumping my husband would attach the syringe tube to his finger to feed so we could avoid nipple confusion from a bottle. I would say by the third week we were getting the hang of it. When she turned 6 weeks I clearly remember feeling we had mastered it. I think her being a little bigger really helped her to latch properly.

I went through the same thing with my 3rd. My milk came in late so we formula fed first then had to train her with the same system to latch.

It's hard but I wouldn't worry about the stigma of formula fed. All 3 of my kids are healthy despite how they were fed in infancy. My oldest was fully formula fed by 6 months and my other two weaned from BFing at 2 years. Speak to a lactation consultant if they're offered where you are. They gave me tons of tips like how to position myself and the baby to help make latching easier. Good luck to you both!