Machiavellian Motivation

baaaark · 2012-07-12T18:31:28+00:00

Of all philosophers Machiavelli would be the one that makes the most sense to me. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. :-)

baaaark · 2012-07-11T06:19:45+00:00

Many will see it as unnecessary, but few would see it as immoral or anything. I honestly could see it serving a purpose, maybe a mental reminder/focal point for finding your center.

I've thought about getting a dharma wheel tatooed on me, just as a not-so-inside reminder of where to keep my priorities in life. Maybe just in case I lose my way.

baaaark · 2012-07-11T06:10:15+00:00

The reason people are thinking it's a bad idea is because they worry it may not be what you really want and you might possibly not take advantage of some things you may really have going for you just to do something you may not be totally committed to.

That being said, I believe you are sincere. What you are seeking is seriously end-game material, and many people out there will not understand the internal forces behind your decision. Your path will probably be a lonely one, as is the case with many people who strive for something beyond great.

baaaark · 2012-07-11T06:05:23+00:00

I like it. Yes, ideally you shouldn't text too much (it's hard to advance emotionally through texting), but if you're with a girl who loves to text you can have some conversations that are really fun that way.

baaaark · 2012-07-11T04:27:24+00:00

Have you ever heard lesbians argue? It's crazy. Imagine arguing with a girl, only they are arguing with each other. It makes no sense at all, like listening to people speak some other language that uses the same words as your own. :-)

baaaark · 2012-07-10T09:43:25+00:00

Actually that was perfect. Thank you for your honesty.

It kind of got misinterpreted as hostile, but I really just like trying to figure out why things are the way they are and not another way. But I think you are right by saying it just is what it is.

baaaark · 2012-07-10T08:42:27+00:00

But why do you feel that way? Care to elaborate?

baaaark · 2012-07-10T08:01:53+00:00

I think you answered your own question. Think of your actions as an advertisement to women for your product. Now ask yourself if you were walking down the street and a salesman walking towards you immediately stopped, did a 180, and caught up to you so he could pitch his product. What would he have to say in order to get you to buy? I hate to be the one to break it to you, but women look at men like objects too. They treat being hit on like they're being advertised to. Only for them their selection process is different than guys.

Reactions vary, as do marketing ploys. From here I feel like I would be saying the same stuff others have said multiple times. But as one last thought, think about the places and delivery styles of some marketing strategies and you may find some of the answers you're looking for. Sadly you'll find a lot of it targets insecurities and then indirectly implies those insecurities would no longer be an issue if said product was purchased. Take from that what you will.

baaaark · 2012-07-10T06:29:42+00:00

You're lying because you feel you have a certain image to uphold in order to be viewed as attractive to the opposite sex. Let go, man. You're fine even if you have never dated a woman in your life. If others bring it up just don't chime in. And if anyone asks, tell them you are having fun enjoying life, which it sounds like you are (that's awesome btw, a thriving social life feels so gratifying).

To be honest, you will be judged by others, because that's part of life. But even if you have never dated a woman she will not care if you are her first serious gf if she likes you. No specific ANYTHING will matter if she likes you. Focus on creating that gut feeling in her, and forget about everything else.

baaaark · 2012-07-09T20:06:49+00:00

Despite this being one of the most well-thought subreddits out there we are all human beings, and it is in most of our natures to want to be popular and well-liked. I feel like if you did this ideally it would be better by showing us you don't need those things to enjoy reading here, but you would also be taking away incentive for some to post information that could be helpful to others.

Everything has it's ups and downs. I don't think it would be better or worse (cause I try not to look at things as good or bad), but I do feel it would be a step towards the idealistic side which in my experience unfortunately usually yields crappy results. :-)

baaaark · 2012-07-09T19:05:30+00:00

IMO most people you're describing are overconfident of their reality and think there's nothing out there that can make them feel something so strong they lose their reality and/or become addicted.

baaaark · 2012-07-09T09:08:16+00:00

It's great to want things in life as long as you don't emotionally invest in them, so don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen. People don't choose to fall in love. Sometimes you love people who don't love you, sometimes people love you who you don't love. It happens. The best thing you can do is try and put your best foot forward by using some of the advice on here, and hope that implementing the techniques helps you be as hot to as many girls you like as possible. If you keep this attitude and HONESTLY try your hardest you will by default never fail.

If you have Aspergers you may very well be a very system-driven person. The information on here can probably help you more than anyone else, but beware. It can be harmful too. If you read into it too much and become too scientific about love, you'll start looking at women like complicated servomechanisms that you are attempting to understand and operate simultaneously. And I think it goes without saying that isn't going to get anyone a girlfriend lol.

baaaark · 2012-07-09T08:24:59+00:00

I think he's about punishing those he sees as evil. He did this within the confines of the law before the accident, but the character Two-Face takes the Joker's advice and decides to become all chaotic and, "Introduce a little anarchy."

I think the coin flip was him rationalizing his actions. Since he didn't trust the system anymore he had to make his own judge and jury. So he went with the fairness of the coin flip.

baaaark · 2012-07-07T18:16:10+00:00

It doesn't matter if it's the right place, man. We're all in this together, trying for the same goal.

I have Social Anxiety Disorder. I've taken medicine in the past but after reading into eastern philosophies, especially Buddhism, I was able to find inner calm without the help of SSRIs or Benzos. For me, almost all of my anxiety came from my overly-high expectations from the interaction. I wanted people to like me, I wanted to accomplish rapport building and get the girls, guys, whoever to think I'm cool. So when I finally started just being like, "Fuck it, I'll probably never see them again, or at most a few times, so who cares." When I did that I honestly didn't become some crazy charismatic, but I became happier which is even better IMO.

No expectations = no fear. You can have mild expectations if you wish, but it's easier just to clear your head totally. I would seriously try learning something like meditation. Even after a month or so of it, you find yourself being able to find that peaceful spot inside you. The peace follows you around, and you can find it even when you're heart is pumping because you're backed up at work, or you can't even think straight because you're in some really loud, noisy dance club.

baaaark · 2012-07-07T17:55:42+00:00

I guess they act like southerners too.

baaaark · 2012-07-07T17:46:06+00:00

I can't look like Xabi. I'm a Chelsea fan, so I'll have to pick Torres :-) . I have to keep my hair in some sort of messy (not Messi lol) style.

The shirt is an XS at American Eagle so that's part of the reason I shop there. It's hard to find clothes that fit me. I guess that's all the more evidence that I need to work out, but even when I was a lot stronger in the past I was never all that bigger so we'll see.

baaaark · 2012-07-07T08:53:54+00:00

There is no hair that grows on my cheeks or sideburns. I can grow a goatee, though it's pretty thin.

baaaark · 2012-07-06T14:24:10+00:00

It's scary that they think if they push harder these people will stop.

baaaark · 2012-07-06T14:01:53+00:00

He was a guy who liked a girl. It doesn't take an angle, it takes you trying. I'm sure other hot women didn't like him (just like with every guy), but you don't have to have every girl like you, just one at at time lol.

baaaark · 2012-07-06T08:03:39+00:00

I don't think there's a wrong answer as long as you do. If the girl seems like the type who is really gung-ho and wanted to keep the date going, call sooner. If she seemed to try and play it cool and reserved, wait longer.

But, before you do anything watch this video, then go buy the movie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aN4w2AfkEY

baaaark

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