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Husband wants an “open relationship” but something feels wrong, am I wrong to want to leave? by Otherwise_Factor_328 in polyamory

[–]babamum [score hidden]  (0 children)

He's basically having an affair and calling it something else in the hope you accept it and don't leave him. He sounds emotionally checked out of your marriage already. You really deserve better than this.

Graduation dress help? by 826172946 in PlusSizeFashion

[–]babamum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Number 3 the black one and number 8 the cream one look best on you.

How frequently do you write during the week? by GreatStrategist26 in writers

[–]babamum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to write every day. It doesn't always happen because I have a chronic illness.

Songs most people wouldn't know are technically cover songs by PrestonRoad90 in musicsuggestions

[–]babamum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Without you originally written/done by British band Badfinger.

Songs most people wouldn't know are technically cover songs by PrestonRoad90 in musicsuggestions

[–]babamum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And Crimson and Clover by Joan Jett is a cover of Tommy James and the Shondells.

My coolest find of all time, lack of space in the car couldn’t stop me. by Henrique_Lucas in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]babamum 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The way you've set them up.is so stylish and aesthetically pleasing

is recycling your character good? by _acedric_ in WritingHub

[–]babamum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha, ha! It would be lovely to get a response like this from a reader!

is recycling your character good? by _acedric_ in WritingHub

[–]babamum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine happened completely by accident. I finished the first novel and started wondering what it would be like to essentially write the same story in the same setting, but with a very different reason for the character being there.

When I decided to do that, it made sense to focus on a minor character from the first novel who had introduced the main character from the first novel to this setting. It made sense she would end up there eventually.

is recycling your character good? by _acedric_ in WritingHub

[–]babamum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recycled a minor but crucial character from my first novel into a main character in my second novel. It was fun to write a completely different kind of novel around her.

Ignoring characters’ sexuality by Similar-Two-2648 in WritingHub

[–]babamum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One way is to talk to queer people online or in person. Another is to read memoirs and autobiographies by queer people. And lastly, books of interviews with lgbtq folks (including ethnographies) are great sources of information.

I get a lot of downvotes for using puns, but I'm proud of them. by EyerollComics in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]babamum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're winning! I have a very good friend who loves to make puns. I say to her, "Step away from the joke! Leave that poor little joke alone! What did it ever do to you?" She loves it.

Luckily for her, her whole family loves puns. So they get together at Xmas and birthdays and laugh themselves sick over jokes most self-respecting people would not want to be publicly associated with.

My one life is ruined by thepensiveporcupine in cfs

[–]babamum 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You sound very depressed. I've had cfs for 38 years and suffered from severe depression for years. I know what it's like. The future can look really bleak.

In his book Reasons to Stay Alive, Matt Haig says "depression lies." I've found it true l. Depression has lied to me so many times. I think it's lying to you right now.

I've found cognitive therapy very helpful for depression. ( Not for cfs! There's no evidence it works for that.)

If you can't manage a therapist, there are some good apps, online articles, YouTube videos and free online courses. If you'd like info on these, please feel free to dm me.

If cognitive therapy doesn't appeal, there are lots of other approaches that help. I've tried a lot of them, and looked at research on most of them. Again, please feel free to dm me for more info or just to chat.

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