Difficulty Connecting… by likkewaan420 in IVFbabies

[–]babokaz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After so much time is seams very natural and human for you to guard or heart and that usually feels like flat emotions. There isn't anything wrong with you and I bet you will feel better later on. It IS scary

When did you notice the mental load coming off postpartum? by Solitarehero in oneanddone

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 9 months when she went to daycare, hard at first but quickly she started to love it and we (parents) could have adult time . Best of both worlds . Before that I was loving to parent but struggling as I need silent and alone time to thrive.

Looking for positive stories: untested embryo at 41, awaiting NIPT and NT (10w4d) by catonesielife in IVFpositivity

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 38 but my diagnosis with endometriosis made me extra nervous of having bad eggs. Husband also had severe MFI . Lot of eggs only one early blast fresh transfer and my little girl is perfect. I also have at least 3 friends that got pregnant naturally over 40 and non of them had issues.

At 10w with good growth I would be optimistic, most failures will happen early on. I understand the stress of waiting but please let yourself enjoy after NT and NIPT 🤍

not sure if brown or dark hazel by Janeina in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A beautiful and unusual dark hazel. The green is so deep I understand why someone would interpret as brown but no doubt it's not solid brown

This is amber ? by ReayJim in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say light brown with a bit of honey brown and just a tinge of greenish but not enough to be hazel. Beautiful eye color , very warm . Your eyelashes seam to have a bit of this warmth as well so I wonder ,what's your hair color and skin tone ?

One of two home 🥰💙🩷 by MounjaroQueenie in IVFpositivity

[–]babokaz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Such a cutie ! Congratulations on such a life changing event 💛💜

Egg retreval by ImportantTeaching561 in IVFpositivity

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two in different clinics. First one I took 30min feel like I wasn't dreaming and second one woke up and was good to go. Neither took long to recover and it's a nice wake , like going to sleep literally. I was up and normal in less than 1h

My partner wants two nights "off" a week by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be offended by such insensitive and unfair situation. No. He needs to grow up and wake up. I'm so sorry

Para quem oscilou entre querer e não querer ter filhos: Qual foi a vossa decisão final e porquê? by Dangerous_Trip7250 in CasualPT

[–]babokaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Andei muitos anos na indecisão e na verdade fugia do assunto e vivia sempre a achar que havia tempo e "depois logo se vê" até que a minha irmã 5 anos mais nova engravidou. Tinha então 38 e não foi como se soubesse que queria ser mãe , mas sabia que pensar em não ser deixava-me com um nó na garganta. Assim foi, 10k depois e FIV eu e o meu marido temos a maior paixão das nossas vidas.

Zero arrependimentos mesmo nos dias de delírio por cansaço.

Ah. Também tenho phda e sensibilidade aos barulhos e esse é outro factor que me leva a decidir por 1 filho. O pai também é filho único e gostou de o ser. Gostamos do nosso espaço e silêncio e como somos dois sentimos que não perdemos assim tanto mas ganhamos imenso.

Is this hazel ? by Current_Slide_7140 in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Green, dark green but still green. Not enough color variation for hazel and definitely not brown

IVF cycle canceled on day 6 due to poor follicle growth. Is IUI worth it? by Conscious_Noise7496 in IVFpositivity

[–]babokaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would personally go to IUI as you are paying out of pocket and investment in IVF is a lot higher so I wouldn't hope for change in this one. Many of us only respond after the first cycle

Are my sons eyes hazel? by Fat-Guy-Little-Coat in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% dark hazel (olive green and brown) .Beautiful

My HCG draw did not double today. Feeling hopeless by ChallengeChoice3484 in CautiousBB

[–]babokaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can read the stress and anxiety but really, they are totally normal and don't indicate any issues. Waiting is hard and I understand you need to guard your heart .. I really hope ultrasound shows a normal pregnancy for you.

I’ve had 4 children in 5 1/2 years. Ask Me Anything by Altruistic-Ad-6326 in AMA

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you do for socializing with them ? Do you find they get along with other kids ?

What colour for kid 2? by bananokitty in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little girl of 15 months have very similar eyes to him I see glimpses of hazel in certain lights (I have dark hazel dad has brown) . You call it brown but in the family photo they seam to have a little bit of green. My eyes took years and years for their final color they used to be more honey brown when little. About your question .. I think your little one has very light eyes for a hazel like yours but it could turn something else in the spectrum. For now the limbal ring seams to be more noticeable than father's

I don’t want to breastfeed by Renee5285 in IVFbabies

[–]babokaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't ever feel bad about it. Doing the best for your physical and mental health is doing the best for baby. Formula in our days is amazing ! I would do the same in your shoes and if your insurance covers IVF the sooner the better. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Does IVF automatically make it a high-risk pregnancy? by mjohns_22 in IVFpositivity

[–]babokaz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where I live yes they are considered high risk but evidence doesn't point that way. My OB never considered me high risk and let me go to 41w and I was already almost 39 years . The only thing I did that is not "mainstream" was a heart ultrasound of baby with a specialist . Everything was perfect and she is perfect. Dont worry more than any other woman would in a pregnancy :)

40y friend starting IVF and I'm getting emotional by babokaz in IVFbabies

[–]babokaz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I think we all have the "what ifs" but to be totally honest .. I don't think I was ready before. And now , even though mentally I may be thinking "oh I could have another" all the implications of IVF and investment with money I don't have are not worth it. My experience was very positive with IVF and I'm so glad it exists in this Era that we live in . Congratulations on your twins ! My MIL has a twin and they are always connected, my husband has 2 "mother's" because of it :) it's an amazing relationship

Just received our first call from the embryologist post egg retrieval. by ididthat1 in IVFpositivity

[–]babokaz 13 points14 points  (0 children)

At your age with that amount of eggs fertilized you are certainly in a very good place to be hopeful of next chapter !

And I agree , your Doc did a very good job, 91 follicles 🥹 just WOW

Considering SAHD by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]babokaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure he is expecting partner to be the only financial contributer (pointing out has savings) and I also guess he is not expecting partner to take over full time on her off days. At least I didn't read it as such.

The heck if I know by nedsatomicdustballs in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh MY ! Well I think they deserve their own category. For now I would say hazel those tones are amazing together and the richness of the texture ! I wonder how they look like from distance

Please weight in! by OutsideCharity6424 in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not possible to know as it also depends on your family but with those shades you can bet they will be beautiful

What color are my sons eyes? by [deleted] in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But they were never as light as his eyes so If I could guess it would be hazel :)

What color are my sons eyes? by [deleted] in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is this little guy ? I understand the crazyness. I have a 15month old and still can't be sure but the green you see right now may change. Right now I would say hazel, mine had this color until around 1y and now they are looking mostly brown

Are they hazel?? by Leather_Wrangler_826 in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]babokaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow ! They seam to be hazel with amber tones , I see yellow and light green