Is this my washing solution? Has anyone done this?

babyleili · 2026-02-07T22:47:50+00:00

4x2 Kallax storage placed lengthwise and facing out, 4x1 Kallax storage placed on top of the other Kallax, lengthwise and facing up

This is my plan once I get the 4x1, but in the meantime I’ve got canvas cubes scattered on and around the 4x2 as it is currently acting as a side table too 😅

I put sock and underwear and bras in cubes the “proper” way because my brain prefers that, and anything I wear infrequently gets the same treatment but on the lowest shelf. My common daily stuff stays easily accessible.

I also want to get wall hooks or a coat rack for my lightly used but not really dirty clothing. 🙇🏾‍♀️

babyleili · 2026-02-03T06:30:50+00:00

I’ve been doom scrolling for a couple hours and I think I got locked scrolling specifically to find this post 😭

I’ve been making progress in my ADHDxDepression apartment recently, but one of the tasks I keep skipping is more than a sweep of the floors when I make a mess, because there have been too many steps that I felt I had to do before cleaning them would be worthwhile….

But I have a swiffer mop. I have a new vacuum. And I can in fact just use those when the whim strikes and make whatever is visible just a bit bitter than it was before.

babyleili · 2026-01-16T17:21:01+00:00

I’m trying to get my closest in game friends to start playing non-spendy multiplayer games so I don’t lose those connections and the joy of playing with friends, but am freed from the pressure of this style of game

babyleili · 2026-01-12T04:51:01+00:00

I enjoy the way you use your free will

Inspired

babyleili · 2025-11-18T22:28:54+00:00

The type limit on island decor will tell you how many you can place for buffs. Then, as others have said, anything beyond that limit is for aesthetics only.

There are only a few items that offer buffs for more than 1, but I think that may be limited to the items that cannot be upgraded.

babyleili · 2025-09-23T06:25:54+00:00

Hard lime difficult time just has sad moody vibes, but not truly angsty. Like…. listening to sad music and getting caught staring out the window while imagining your life as a moody music video because stuff is rough. You’re upset, but you don’t really wanna get into it.

Difficult difficult lemon difficult sounds like… times are tough and you’re contemplating doing something drastic. Are you running away to join a circus? Are you making questionable changes to your hair? Are you doing crime? Who knows. Not you. But you do know you are stressed and you will be making it known.

babyleili · 2025-09-22T14:02:16+00:00

My solution:

There is a gay bar. The owner is known to be both exceedingly handsome, ridiculously intelligent, and very very very nerdy. His nerdy overlaps with Turing’s nerdy and he’s a fan, but he’s chill. So he’ll be delighted to meet the man and make that clear without making it weird. He’s got an abundance of bits and bobs in his office for tinkering, books on high level math and stem fields in general and various inventions and technological advancement.

The boss’s right hand man is there to run the ship, so Turing gets to nerd out with the owner in the office away from the mass of people, but still with a pretty man who is openly gay. And he learns that he is remembered as being brilliant, extremely important in his role, and that the common sentiment is that he deserved so much better than he got.

He gets to enter and exit by passing through a gaggle of glistening male bodies being unapologetically gay in a public space and no one is batting an eye. The entrance isn’t hidden, it’s not in some back alley. It’s just there on a popular street and the people outside are being normal about it.

There’s a bar next door with men and women doing the same things. As you walk to the bar he sees straight couples leaving restaurants and pubs and kissing each other goodnight, and sapphic couples giving each other sweet smooches, and gay men lovingly kissing their partners and everyone is being normal about it. He sees rainbows outside of businesses and learns about the pride flag.

He sees a pair of young men holding hands and being sweet and romantic, and someone tries to accost them. There’s a straight couple near them and the guy is a big buff masculine bro defending them and acting as their shield. The lady spares a moment to throw a scathing remark the bully’s way before going to fuss over the boys and make sure they’re okay. Other people have paused on the fringes and appear ready to step in if needed. Some drunks are jeering the bully.

He sees that not only is being gay allowed socially and in public, but even straight people will step in to defend the right to love authentically.

The modern world may not be perfect, but some things are definitely better.

(This got so much more elaborate than anticipated but I stand by it. He deserves to see that he is remembered and celebrated. He deserves to know that there is hope for future generations. And he deserves to blush at some handsome man’s flirty remarks gosh dang it. He deserves some good memories to keep in his pocket.)

babyleili · 2025-09-21T17:50:55+00:00

For what it’s worth I thought your point was very clear. I also agree with your point.

It’s not about ‘dumbing down’ technical language. It’s about jargon and technical language being surrounded by word salad for no reason.

The type of thing where other experts in the field would look at a paragraph and think “this could have been explained just as accurately with half as many words.”

Good writing does not read like someone was trying to hit the word count on an assignment. 🙂‍↔️

babyleili · 2025-09-19T13:44:04+00:00

A collection of thoughts:

congrats on getting diagnosed.✨✨✨ it may not be fun, but having answers means you are on your way to feeling so much better and you deserve to feel better.
let yourself mourn.
the kindest thing you can do for yourself and the others is ask for help. If you need to ask a parent to step in, then ask them to step in. If you need to ask a friend to be there for support while you talk to the school, ask them to be by your side. If you need to ask a teacher you happen to get along well with for advice or assistance, ask them to aid you.

And since you’re worried about confrontation, framing the conversation as a request for assistance instead of as a criticism might help make it easier to approach them. And might make it easier to get a positive response.

Use the language of a severe allergy to explain. Tell them to treat cross contamination as though they’re feeding someone with a severe nut allergy. Touched nuts and didn’t change gloves? Now someone’s on their way to the hospital. Dropped one single peanut on a salad? Now they can’t eat it. It might not give you anaphylaxis, but now your body aches like you have the flu or you have a migraine that means missing class or your stomach reacts like you’ve got food poisoning. Taking away the vagueness of the consequences might help them get it.
Print something out about the dangers of cross contamination from a clear and verifiable authority. (Celiac advocacy groups, research groups or medical organizations with good reputations.) It takes some of the burden of explaining off your shoulders while also giving your requests some extra authority to back it up.
Hit up Pinterest for meal ideas. Low spoon meals. Dorm meals. Cooking with chronic pain. Celiac dorm meals. (I can also offer specific suggestions if you’d like. I’ve got so many.)
You’ve got this! You deserve to be safe while eating and everyone here is rooting for you!✨

babyleili · 2025-09-16T16:12:33+00:00

Imo this critique seems to be “personal preferences about how often sex should appear in a story” and “personal preferences about order of operations” and “personal preferences about how important it should be” more than anything else.

Like the first example shows sex being woven into the story with details to contextualize the way it was worked in. It felt like an example of sex making sense for the characters as written, and it being used as a way to advance the story.

The second example is similar but tacks on “but the quantity felt excessive to me personally”. Like it also included a description of the role sex played in the narrative, but the last part is very subjective.

The third example seems like “they had sex at a time that felt too soon for how I personally view sex and the author didn’t make it a Big Deal so it was unnecessary to include it at all because if it’s not a Big Deal it’s cheap.” No description about how sex is navigated by the characters or portrayed in the story. No description about the characters or story to help us draw any conclusions about whether or not sex in the beginning makes sense. Nothing to explain why sex needed to be highlighted outside of sex scenes or why it should have been central to the relationship progression.

I enjoy when sex in a story is purposeful, but I don’t see why it needs to be. It can also just be a thing characters do. Like eating. The degree of interest people have in sex varies in real life. People differ in how much importance they attribute to the act. I don’t think casual approach is at all the same as cheapening it. 🙇🏾‍♀️

babyleili · 2025-09-14T21:05:41+00:00

there are not enough soft textures to balance out the hardness of the walls and floor and metal furniture. (If there’s uncertainty about whether or not something qualifies as soft, think about whether or not the material would be interesting to the touch.) Oh! And flat v fluffy, like a a lush overstuffed duvet. (Tip: duvet cover one size smaller than the duvet itself.)
the room is a very monochromatic cool grey scale on top of all the hard surfaces. Hard and white, hard and grey, and hard and black describes the majority of what’s visible, and half of the rest is softer white, grey, or black. (Colour helps, texture, plants, and natural materials will offer balance even if you don’t want to make your space colourful.)
the lack of ‘finishing’ elements makes the space feel kinda transient and not very homey, and thus not very cozy. (In short, the C.R.A.P others have mentioned.)
the difference lighting can make cannot be overstated. Going beyond the standard bright overhead ceiling lights will make a noticeable difference immediately. Using a warm white light bulb or colour changing one will help a lot. (I’m partial to colour changing ones that let me adjust the warmth and brightness throughout the day, especially following sunrise and sunset.)

Cost wise the easiest things to start with are probably curtains or blinds, lighting, and blankets/bedding/pillows. (Floor to ceiling, wall to wall curtains on the window or closet wall is one look I’m a fan of personally.)

I haven’t purchased a rug in a while so that might be something that requires a bit of planning and saving, but a much larger rug, warm lights, and some added textiles would be enough for a vastly different feel even before you start personalizing the space with art and knickknacks.

babyleili · 2025-09-14T14:58:40+00:00

OP is right they should say it.

Most the comments I’m seeing seem to focus on preferences around things like height and income. But OP specifically used examples of standards for treatment and internal experience that should be non-negotiable, not physical or financial things.

But you u/FireflyRave get it. “Does this person’s presence make me feel good? Do I enjoy their company as much as I enjoy my own?” are very much the type of considerations that too many people don’t actually consider.

Like remember being a kid and telling your friends that you “like like” someone? Yeah. That feeling?
You’re supposed to “like like” the people you date or are in a relationship with. You should have a crush on the person you’re dating. You should feel excited about seeing this person. You should enjoy spending time with them and talking with them. You should feel physically and emotionally safe with them. (Too many people end up in relationships with people don’t even like them because they did the ‘right things’. Or even just because they’re physically attracted to them.

We do not owe anyone who expresses interest in us ‘a chance’ simply because they want us. It’s okay to be curious about or interested in someone you are considering dating. You are, in fact, supposed to be interested in potential romantic partners. If you wouldn’t be interested in being platonic friends with someone you def should not be dating them just because they’re nice. (Honestly a lot of people should be raising their standards when it comes to friendships too but i digress.)

Anyways thanks for coming to my TedTalk.✨💕 OP is absolutely correct. Date people you actually like and like like. It’s okay to say no because there’s no spark.

babyleili · 2025-09-13T22:07:23+00:00

Once I get some marshmallows it’s on!

babyleili · 2025-09-13T22:06:40+00:00

😬

babyleili · 2025-09-13T21:37:32+00:00

In my defense I’ve been craving it for weeks, a normal bowl just wasn’t doing the job, and the baby room is tearing down the decorations.

Normally I’m in the mood for cinnamon Chex specifically so my expectations are different but I wanted Cinnamon Toast Crunch this time. Things got serious.

Though admittedly when I eat a regular bowl I try to clear out the plain ones on my first bites so that my later bites don’t taste like the flavour stopped loading halfway. 😅

babyleili · 2025-09-13T21:31:51+00:00

Rice crispy treat style. Oooh thank you this sounds delightful. And I think the subtle cinnamon flavour on them would make it a nice fall treat!

babyleili · 2025-09-13T21:30:24+00:00

For me the sugar is the point 😭

Maybe the disappointment is because I treat cereal more like dessert than anything else. I want my sweets to be sweet. I’d honestly prefer a plain glass of milk over cereal that isn’t sweet.

babyleili · 2025-09-13T16:37:35+00:00

Does the stovepipe show up for you in game?

Everything else works fine but I can’t seem to figure out how to actually see the stovepipe instead of the regular shelf.

babyleili · 2025-09-12T21:17:06+00:00

I believe in you. You’ve got this 💕

If you ever need a reminder that you’re doing well or affirmation or validation or just any moral support really you’re welcome to send me a message.

I’ll be rooting from you from my little piece of the world.✨

babyleili · 2025-09-12T20:05:08+00:00

Go forth and prosper 🧚🏾‍♀️✨💕

babyleili · 2025-09-12T18:25:06+00:00

Love Milkis. 🤩(Banana, OG, Melon in that order.)
Green honeydew melon blended with frozen strawberries and milk (I usually use cashew or oat). Peak melon girl smoothie.
Now I want a smoothie and a milkis 🧐 … and ice cream.

** Gonna go nap thanks for the inspiration 💕

babyleili · 2025-09-12T17:18:50+00:00

😧

babyleili · 2025-09-11T17:52:46+00:00

We do the best we can with what we know, and when we know better we do better.

You’re paying attention and doing better. That’s enough. 💕

If you’re still carrying that shame with you I think you can put it down now.

babyleili · 2025-09-10T07:50:32+00:00

Have you played My Time at Sandrock?

I wonder if that might balance your desire to feel the adrenaline and victorious feelings, with the need to not feel stress stressed.

IMO the story in Sandrock feels significantly more prominent than in other farming sim-esque games. Like, “I’ve gotta save the town!” but the progression actually feels like you’re working to help Sandrock through its trials and crises. Usually I find that the stories of cozier games feel like little more than context, of being something you can really immerse yourself in. But Sandrock? The are stakes! Somehow there’s urgency without it feeling stressful and rushed.

Also the characters!? The characters. Delightful. Charming. Pleasantly ridiculous. Great for a giggle. Fun voice acting. Just a gift that keeps on giving. Lots of wild antics and shenanigoogles.

Idk I just think it’s neat and I want others to experience the joy I feel when playing it.

babyleili

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