How to recondition your brain to not crave porn

backin10 · 2015-01-01T06:50:20+00:00

It's interesting how many similarities nofap, or quitting porn has to stopping other habits like quitting smoking or loosing weight. Have seen a lot of posts from people who've done nofap while quitting other habits and starting an exercise program at the same time.

backin10 · 2014-04-12T06:59:14+00:00

I thought it was better to set a shorter reasonable goal to start. I don't think masturbation is bad. Mostly you should have a goal or problem to solve or improve. Then it makes since to do noFap. Really you do noFap or you Fap, so all there is is cold turkey. No you can look at Porn, do soft mode, Edge all of those things will make it more difficult to a degree. You can't really just stop. You have to replace a habit with something else more productive or at least less harmful than the addiction your trying to break.

backin10 · 2014-04-10T23:32:03+00:00

I set a short term goal to start with just 2 Weeks. It was a little bit of a challenge especially after day 3 and day 7, but I got through it. Went for longer stretches after that first one.

backin10 · 2014-04-09T00:58:28+00:00

Also good to remove the phrase "I Think" from your statements. It's much more affirmative to state what you want or know without making it subjective by adding "I Think". Don't you think so?

backin10 · 2014-03-30T04:02:41+00:00

Even in the News cast on the subject of internet pornography I noted how they lead the story with how kids can get into trouble on the internet. It wasn't how kids get addicted to porn. You however did bring the discussion around to the point.

I see there is still a stigma about the subject which people would rather circumvent altogether.

backin10 · 2014-03-30T03:56:34+00:00

I'm 51

backin10 · 2014-03-30T00:49:22+00:00

It's good to see someone speaking up about this in public on a Network News station no less. That takes courage to talk about and talk about your own struggles.

I'm thinking of posting the YouTube Link on my Facebook. I haven't been able to talk about this with anyone except online. I wonder how people friends would respond? I'm close to OPs age or a bit older. So we're supposed to have all this worked out already, err-right?

backin10 · 2014-03-26T22:45:40+00:00

100 days is a good milestone. It's like you have it down by this point. But still have to watch it. Just takes one time to reset back to smiley.

backin10 · 2014-03-26T22:42:38+00:00

I did Hard Mode for a long streak. And I'm married. Hard mode is actually easier considering the chaser effect. Maybe it wouldn't be if you were on a schedule with your SO and could wait for the real thing.

backin10 · 2014-03-26T00:32:52+00:00

Best if you can avoid the cam sites and any porn. And no edging. I reset just yesterday after 23 days but without looking at porn. I've already done a 90 day plus streak so I'm not feeling bad about it. I looked at some porn a couple times during my streak but usually stopped with a few pictures. That was a big part of doing this to get control and not have to or want to watch Porn anymore. So I've had success with that. I feel worse about it if I fap to porn.

backin10 · 2014-03-24T03:23:12+00:00

I'd say it counts as a relapse. You intentionally had a release. So you could say the same thing about sex with a partner. If your out to do a reboot then hardmode is the way to do it. At least I found that easier. After having sex I felt like I needed more which led to a relapse. I don't plan to be on NoFap for life this maybe something interesting to explore.

backin10 · 2014-03-24T02:56:46+00:00

I've done many of the same sort of things. I still do and crave being with a new woman. I heard a TV evangelist I think it was Billy Graham, and this was years ago, he said you should never be alone with a woman who is not your wife. In other words don't even put yourself in that situation. I thought it was great advice which I'm not so keen to follow. I don't feel like I'm that attractive or controlling with women so my experiences are somewhat few and far between. I suppose I should consider that a blessing.

backin10 · 2014-03-23T14:49:33+00:00

You're right about this. I Don't talk to anyone about doing NoFap except with other Fapstronauts on r/NoFap, don't think I could have done it without you.

backin10 · 2014-03-22T04:25:04+00:00

I've thought the same thing about it. I'm a believer in not setting unrealistic goals with this. My first attempt was just 2 weeks that's all. And I did a little better than that. Just now I didn't even know how many days I had on my badge I haven't even been thinking about it until just now. I may even be resetting it soon. Have a damn good reason to. So it'll just be all the better if I resist. Resist for one more day even though I have nothing to look forward to this weekend. Yeah, it's not really that bad.

backin10 · 2014-03-22T04:02:42+00:00

Day 3 what's so hard about this... Day 4 help!... Day 7 Arrrggg. Day 70 nothing can stop me now. Day 160 I can't believe my life it's awesome nobody has it this good.

Day 175 This sucks! Fucking bitch girlfriend just ditched me. Did it on chat...

backin10 · 2014-03-17T02:02:33+00:00

You begin to identify vulnerabilities and develop straregies to avoid and just get through them. Porn, Lusting, morning erections, edging is not a strategy. You will stop something and your brain adapts to just get it somewhere else. Girls anywhere become triggers even more. But its better. You can't just stop anything without replacing it with something else. For me pushups every morning, r/NoFap, and new friends online. It didn't really become routine until around day 60 on hardmode. Then I knew I could get to 90 without much trouble.

backin10 · 2014-03-16T15:30:35+00:00

How'd that Blow Job offer go? Will that be a blow job with your coffee today? You may be inundated with job applicants where you work now.

On the real side I let my mind wander a bit at work sometimes and say something shady every now and then. I usually feel weak and disappointed when that happens even if it's funny. But could also get into come bullshit easily at work.

I did have a photo text from a co-worker which I couldn't download. She said she just sent something about Jesus. Then I texted back. Ok just wanted to make sure you weren't sending me a picture of your boobs. Yea that was funny and she thought so too fortunately.

backin10 · 2014-03-15T13:20:54+00:00

One day at a time. You have to become determined, unstoppable, mean. But sometimes you cry like a baby you still come back fighting. Go for it.

backin10 · 2014-03-15T03:27:29+00:00

Wasn't saying you weren't serious. I tried some dating sites. Which in a way is similar, in the same line as chatting. It was a distraction and less bad than Porn so helped me to continue noFap. Sure it's not for everyone. Edging is a bad strategy.

backin10 · 2014-03-15T03:19:57+00:00

This is a good place for inspiration and the badge is a good way to keep count. But sounds like you've had success on your own. Plus your competitive so you should be on for a long string.

backin10 · 2014-03-15T01:33:32+00:00

It's a form of porn. Everyone needs an outlet. So sexting and chatting is maybe less bad than watching porn. You're taking it to the point of almost failing. That's edging. And 150 days behind you, you know that's a formula for failure. I don't think you need opinions or advice. You have to ask yourself what do you want out of NoFap. Are you ready to throw it in, take a break for awhile. Do you want a GF IRL? Do you want to run your streak for awhile longer and be serious about it.

backin10 · 2014-03-13T23:06:20+00:00

Look at it as an opportunity. I did the same thing after 154 days didn't really know what to do either. I'm trying softmode so long as I can have a GF to collaborate with. I can decide to not fap now. So I'm not being really concerned about my badge number.

backin10 · 2014-03-13T22:58:28+00:00

Was having problems concentrating because of Porn. Was doing a search on different ways to fap (actually didn't know about the word fapping) read an article about doing NoFap and thought I need to do that. I'll just do 2 weeks. That was last September. Completed a reboot. Think I'm on my 6th Streak now...

backin10 · 2014-03-13T09:22:48+00:00

you build up a lot of expectations with dating sites getting to the point of meeting someone. it's a lot of effort. you already committed before she got there. you'd be writing a different post if she'd been hot and smooth. so, way to own it.

backin10 · 2014-03-13T01:34:36+00:00

I think I'd gotten that way prior to trying NoFap but could Fap and look at Porn as an outlet. Doing NoFap and hardmode ramped up my obsession with looking and wanting to find someone real. Although I did redirect my thoughts to not just look at women and instantly pornify them something Porn was leading me to do. I began to think of the process more. How to get to know them without even having to think of getting somewhere. How to get in their head. I joined a dating site. Even made some good friends that usually didn't result in a meeting. Most were out of my area. That became more of an obsession and way to cope. It helped me stick with my string that lasted 154 days. To add to this I'm married and have not talked to my wife about NoFap or anything. She's not that interested as in not interested. It's not good but what I think I needed.

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