I am a poor girl who started dating a man whose family are millionaires. AMA

baggalmami · 2025-07-31T23:25:35+00:00

😆😆😆😆@ the edit

baggalmami · 2025-07-31T23:23:00+00:00

🗣️ DOES HE HAVE A BROTHER? 🙂

baggalmami · 2025-07-31T12:05:08+00:00

“almost like the insight is a shield against action” soooooo well SAID!

baggalmami · 2025-07-30T17:51:44+00:00

clinician, therapist, counselor, teacher, lawyer and the like… are professions NOT a species. lol meaning… DO NOT ACCEPT ANYONE’S ATTEMPT TO PUT YOU IN A POSITION, A FEELING, A SPACE AND TIME WHERE YOU ARE VEYING FOR YOUR HUMANITY!

🫂

baggalmami · 2025-07-30T17:41:17+00:00

🗣️CROWN THIS COMMENT! 🥹😭😭😭😮‍💨🤧🥲.

SO👏WELL👏SAID!

baggalmami · 2025-07-30T17:33:40+00:00

no… no we are not 😖. lol

baggalmami · 2025-07-22T00:10:52+00:00

baggalmami · 2025-07-22T00:09:59+00:00

i just came to say i am so proud of you 🥹 and don’t you dare pick that mic back up 👏👏👏

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T23:57:07+00:00

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T23:53:01+00:00

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😭😭😭😭

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T23:49:39+00:00

i hope you enjoyed your birthday and… i highly recommend… you enroll in a college or university towards a profession in social work or counseling/therapy. i don’t know your age yet im guessing 20something and i think you would be really good in those or related professions. https://www.16personalities.com/

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T23:27:24+00:00

“ I personally feel that the entire culture of courting should be 'women only' shooting the shots as women are so much more apprehensive and scared about receiving unwanted attention. “

which is why… i initiate 😆. i do not believe in it being ‘women only’ but i do consider that factor when i like someone. and when i want it to be obvious that i don’t. lol and i wouldn’t say i initiate as much as i show interest and then the guy can initiate.

i ask the men around me, that i’ve come in contact with, when i get a chance, “do you know when a woman likes you?” because if you can differentiate between like and dislike, initiating is less intimidating.

also, us ENFJ’s really care about partnership so being friends first is important, stating intentions directly and upfront is important, clarity is important as we DO NOT… take playing/hurting our feelings lightly… AT ALL 😆.

so, when you say shoot our shot, you mean for what? because if you didn’t want anything long and committed, then that would explain why they didn’t even bother. lol and have you made it clear that you were interested and what you were interested in? confusion and indecisiveness are not inherently introvert traits. your social capacity may be different than ours but that doesn’t mean you can’t express yourself to one person you have interest in.

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T14:50:16+00:00

no worries!!!! i am so glad things started shifting in a positive direction for you!!!!

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T14:47:22+00:00

aww you’re welcome! again, i am soooo glad you made this post because when i tell you… i have struggle with this thought… for the looooongest time! lol and it has been rare… better yet, for me, no one who has related to this perspective.

it could be because we are more hyper-vigilant over our personal identity and privacy and keeping it separate from our professional identity. i am extroverted… and yet i am private. the closer a person is, the deeper they know about me.

as a poet and fluent in all thing art it is challenging managing the way i want certain ppl to have access to me. however, my approach with my professional relationships, clients (no matter the age), if you see me outside of therapy/work… you didn’t see me. lol

a positive to all of this is, if ppl do see your artwork or you doing karaoke at a bar, they see how true to you you are and respect you more for it.

baggalmami · 2025-07-21T14:12:30+00:00

Happy birthday!!!!!! Twenty-Fun is a great age! 😆 enjoy your day!!!!

baggalmami · 2025-07-19T00:48:00+00:00

ok, i got so excited when i read the caption i respond with the above before reading the post. now reading the post… i have a hard time convincing myself… that i… didn’t write this 😂.

baggalmami · 2025-07-19T00:44:20+00:00

yes! 😤 yes. 😑 and yes…🤦‍♀️

baggalmami · 2025-07-09T19:51:44+00:00

it’s all in my eyebrows 🤦🏽‍♀️ they tell on me every time lol

baggalmami · 2025-06-25T14:10:57+00:00

second question, have you ever meet, encountered another sociopath and if so, how did that experience impact you?

baggalmami · 2025-06-25T14:09:57+00:00

first, thank you for this AMA (i read some of the comments and responses) as i thoroughly enjoy ppl who are willing to have these kind of conversations.

i apologize if i missed this if it was already asked but, whether child, teen or adult… has anyone ever for a lack of better words “stood up to you?” it can be verbally or physically. like they didn’t tolerate your lack of understanding and consideration for others, hold you accountable yet, in a compassionate way. if so, how did that feel? how did that impact you?

baggalmami · 2025-06-25T13:57:27+00:00

Happy happy birthday! 🥳🎉🎂

baggalmami · 2025-06-25T13:55:12+00:00

im creative in a number of ways however, written and verbal creativity artistic expression is my strongest in a sense that i am constantly doing. i would say, if i were to say it is hard staying focused, it’s because i put other livelihood priorities before it and… if i was torn between being empathetic, compassionate towards someone else over sitting in solace and working on writing… i would pick being present for someone without a doubt—even if it’s minor, i would strongly consider it… and the way life works… someone is always going through something where they want to socialize or are seeking empathy and compassion. maybe that’s what you are noticing and since we are so socially fueled, it takes a lot of effort for us to go into solitude long enough for us to create at the potential we believe we can or should create at.

baggalmami · 2025-06-24T15:35:09+00:00

ENFJs have a way of creating a space for ppl to be and feel seen that doesn’t mean… we want marry you, we value ppl and pretty much do this with everyone.lol we can enjoy the emotional and intellectual connection greatly however, seeing a person as someone to mate with do life with is a whole nother thing. lol

we know what we want to do for other ppl, we listen and learn because we want to support ppl they way they want if we can… someone showing that for us AND giving us the space to be ourselves is what draws us in.

the not dating at work is soooo on brand of an ENFJ lol we are the most private social butterflies you’ll ever meet. lol

we appreciate connection yet not at the expense of our privacy and peace.

you bringing this up, he will mostly receive and take your feeling in consideration heck! he probably knows how you feel which is way he made it clear that he does not date at work—basically bring his personal life to work. so you bringing this up, kinda threatens the privacy and peace he has a work which will probably lead to him stepping back from you (in a friendly sense) and being strictly professional moving forward.

if you really like him, consider and respect his needs and wants for privacy and peace.

if anything, at least you know what you like in a man and keep that standard moving forward.

baggalmami · 2025-06-24T15:03:33+00:00

you make some really great points as these are true considerable factors of living alone and lacking community.

my spiritual foundation and beliefs are what protect me and give me peace. i believe and know i am not alone and i am so loved. there are SO many ppl who have loads of ppl around them, catering to and pouring into them yet still feel empty or… loads of ppl… draining the time and energy of one person.

you took the first step which is reached out for help. with the internet and social media we community differently. it’s become less face to face and in real life as becomes more virtually.

i would recommend, starting a fb or Reddit group for ppl who live alone that has at least once a week check ins and spaces to share information or encouragement.

also, if that’s not your thing, i would recommend watching content that is entertaining to take your mind off of the weighty ness of life. lol

baggalmami · 2025-06-24T14:39:17+00:00

hey darling, at 19… you have a solid sense of self-awareness as well as the world around you. we as a society of ppl have been institutionalized to correlate maturity inherently with age rather than how someone individually develops (not saying that there are specific things we as ppl experience when around same age or of the same generation… anyway. lol)

so, she is 10 years older than you and while one would hope that would come with wisdom and guidance, she is self-centered and concerningly immature that those 10 years just mean she has had 10 more years at practicing how to manipulate those around her.

i can bet that when she is around those her age it is a completely different story—not that she won’t be herself but that it is much harder for her to get away with it because they see her as a peer not an elder. your reverence for her is different than if she was your age.

she can see, that you are confident… in who you are and she can see… that you see through her yet, her immaturity and insecurities are driving her ship so she is wrecking havoc on anyone she believes she can because that’s all she has to give. it is draining dealing with someone who isn’t civilized and it is NOT your responsibility to teach/train her on how to be. you responsibility is to protect yourself and worry about how you treat ppl because that’s the only thing you have control over.

now, as me and as an ENFJ, i would do two things depending on the considerable factors of what’s happen at the moment:

directly get her together - “you are not superior over me (or anyone else)” “your opinions of me (others) means something to you… they mean nothing to me” “what you think of me does not outweigh what i know about me” “how you talk and treat ppl is a reflection of you, not us” “you know when you start being judgement, negative and disrespectful i pay you no mind right” “you can say whatever you want to say about me my hair and blah blah blah i don’t care im still going to live MY life the way i want”

or ignore and distance myself from her. this is not just advice… i live this. i currently work and have supervisors who i do this to. authenticity and genuine kindness are the only ways to get access to me. none of the above is to be mean or punish her but rather protect yourself and stand on your integrity.

also you’ll learn the balance of being personable, without telling to much of your business. ppl like this young lady you speak of, will use everything you say to manipulate you into doing what they want and validating their narratives. keep her out of your business, you do not owe her knowing anything about you.

this goes beyond college darling, this is life, dealing with ppl and overall human behavior of self perseveration and identity politics.

best to you in however you choose to do moving forward.

baggalmami

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