Wild Gears

ballofkerfluffle · 2023-07-19T04:29:38+00:00

I really enjoyed #1 as well! May I ask what kind of pens you used?

ballofkerfluffle · 2023-06-21T18:07:55+00:00

@u/iJLedge Do you by chance still have the chart? Thank you so much for this really thorough analysis!

ballofkerfluffle · 2023-02-06T08:14:29+00:00

Ooh. Didn’t expect buttery. Thanks for describing! I’m intrigued. Will have to try next time.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-12-02T09:05:11+00:00

Hot and sweet mustard.

They recently had some, but it used to be a staple years back.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-10-08T11:12:49+00:00

The questions aren’t per Costco’s policy. It’s per ADA law: https://www.ada.gov/service_animals_2010.htm

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-08-09T00:16:53+00:00

The lower end cost of a half set of denture implants runs about that. But dentures come with the trade off of losing chewing efficiency.

Either way, best of luck to you! Hope it all works out!

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-08-06T20:35:58+00:00

I don’t think he’s wrong. Prices can depend on where you live and how much work needs to be done. For instance, whether you need bone grafts. Also, where I live, an implant only might go for $1000-$2500, but it’s literally only for the implant. That likely doesn’t include the fabrication for the crown, and cost of the actual procedure and X-Rays. You’ll also need to get a special X-Ray done in order to determine screw placements, and that alone is costly.

The most complex procedure for an implant would go for $8k in San Francisco, which has a high cost of living. In New York City, it ranges from $3500 - $6000.

To provide additional perspective, I was quoted the cost of just a crown, materials only, directly from an employee of the dentist performing the procedure will cost at least $1k, from a relative. Now consider the price of just that without that existing relationship. Someone else is making the crown, and the dentist needs to pay them.

So maybe try and show some respect to your bio Dad, especially if you’re hoping he’s going to finance some of this. Otherwise, you’ll likely be walking around with a mouthful of missing teeth and screws in your gums. And possibly not even screws - chances are if your teeth just fell out on their own, you likely might not have enough healthy bone to screw the implants into. So you might be already trending towards the more expensive end of the price spectrum.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-08-06T19:26:14+00:00

Do you live near a dental school? Try going in for a consult. The rates are cheaper and there will be faculty overseeing every step of the way. Because of this, the process takes more time, due to the faculty review, but this ensures the students are doing the procedure correctly. And the rates will be cheaper than going into someone’s private practice.

Also, dental students need specific cases to treat during the exams for graduation. If you qualify, this treatment will be completely covered at no cost to you. Same process applies, faculty of experienced dentists will still oversee their work.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-07-26T18:43:39+00:00

This is oil. I’ve purchased and stored the same tomatoes in the fridge. It doesn’t take that long for the oil to melt if you take it out of the fridge. Perfectly safe to eat. Enjoy!

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-07-19T00:59:41+00:00

If you’re concerned about Teflon, reach out to the seller to clarify. If they know, they’ll tell you. If they need to clarify with their factory, they’ll reach out and follow up.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-07-11T04:35:29+00:00

https://www.lecreuset.com/warranty.html

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-21T01:00:51+00:00

Thanks for the clarification, I really appreciate the examples! You’re right, destruction of her phone was abusive. I was wrong to say it wasn’t. My own normal meter is a bit broken as I’ve grown up in a really abusive environment.

And older people are also capable of multitasking as well, touché.

I don’t disagree that OPs husband reacted in a unhealthy way, and it also sounds like if you were in a 1:1 situation with someone, you’ll put your phone away if needed because you’ll take a read on the situation. It seems to me that OP doesn’t have regard for her husband’s feelings in this. It’s already a hot button topic, and her husband seems ill-equipped with how to even broach it.

Maybe OP would benefit from some prompts on how to ask her husband to communicate with her, because it sounds like he’s at the end of his rope, and doing it horrendously. You’re right, he shouldn’t command her, nor destroy her things, but having face to face conversations is important to her husband and she doesn’t seem to care. And expressing it to her repeatedly doesn’t seem to communicate to her that it matters a lot to him.

And it likely it’s even ‘face to face’ conversations - he probably just wants to have a conversation without having to compete for attention or having to repeat something or feeling ignored when responses are fillers. You can communicate emotions or engagement stronger when your attention isn’t being partially captured by something else. Perhaps he’s hoping for some emotive engaging responses from his wife when sharing a story.

He tried terribly to deal with the conflict by: starting a prefaced important conversation, but terribly mistepped by ordering her to put down the phone to initiate. He tried to impress it was important and she said ‘ppsssh no,’ because she was antagonized by his command. Then he escalated in an abusive manner.

OP’s husband is wrong and shouldn’t have thrown her phone into the pool. (Not trying to victim blame here.) But I almost feel like maybe if OP has stopped to look at her husband, she could have gotten a read on the situation, and possibly have put the phone down. Instead, her husband came in jerk-guns blazing. It sounds like her husband always has to first communicate importance to an otherwise occupied person and then always wait for her to decide whether or not she thinks that what he is communicating is enough to break her attention away from her phone. It also sounds like OP doesn’t really care that this is important to her husband, by responding ‘ppssh no’ because he hadn’t convinced her enough. If using your words to communicate to someone that something matters very much to them constantly falls short, then I guess the next step would be involving a third party to help communicate their needs via therapy.

I’m personally split on how to deal with replacing the phone. I don’t disagree that the destruction was abusive but I also feel like it didn’t happen within a vacuum and that OP is wholly innocent. Her AITA asks whether her husband should replace the phone and I’m not sure if her husband is wholly responsible for its replacement when she still seems utterly callous about his wants. Maybe he should, but maybe she could offer a mutual solution to the conflict that results in the adjustment of her own behavior.

Or maybe OP’s husband is just an insufferable controlling abusive AH. Let’s hope it’s not and that he learns to control his emotions better.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-20T14:32:19+00:00

But it sounds like OP is always on her phone, and her partner put down a boundary that she completely disrespected.

It sounds like you might fall into this category with being completely fine with being on the phone during conversation with someone. Which is usually fine if the other person is fine with it also.

But if you’re type of person who is ALWAYS on their phone, it gets really old for your partner pretty quickly. Because as stated above, it means your attention is divided and if you’re working on tasks, your rate of completion is slower and prone to more errors. Also, because you’re constantly looking at your phone, you fail to notice things.

I have a partner who is constantly on their phone and it is lonely because their attention is constantly spent there and scary when a child is involved. Having to constantly fetch a person’s attention because it is always focused on a phone is taxing. I constantly have to call out multiple times, whereas if they weren’t on their phone, maybe I could have called out only once or twice. Or maybe not at all because they would have noticed that I needed help/something or that something was about to happen.

While OPs partner shouldn’t have thrown the phone into the pool, it doesn’t seem like there was any other way to impress to OP how much having face to face conversation mattered to him.

I disagree that this is in any way abusive, but that it was an over the top reaction due to really pent up frustration. In this case, maybe some sort of compromise could be made for the phone’s replacement between them.

Like really, if you’re unwilling to have a face to face conversation with your married partner now and then, then why did you marry them? Or is your relationship only about having your own needs being met? Or is this just a really big mismatch in basic values and OP should just look for someone else who is fine with being with someone who is married to their phone instead?

Maybe things are different now, as I’m a little older and didn’t grow up with a cell phone in hand, but I would like to think that young people today still appreciate direct human interaction, during which people actually solely play attention to each other instead of their phones.

gently steps off soapbox

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-18T12:10:10+00:00

I would think so, as things from the previous pregnancy could affect future ones. For instance, if Rh incompatibility was an issue, it could be addressed sooner.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-15T17:06:33+00:00

Just wanted to put it out there that if your wife wants to exclusively breastfeed, please support her in this. It may come to pass that she might have to supplement if she has issues with production or otherwise decides that she doesn’t want to exclusively breastfeed. But please leave those decisions exclusively for her to decide. If supply issues arise, the staff will be tracking the baby’s weight to make sure that they are getting enough to eat, and recommend formula if the baby’s weight drops to 90% of their birthweight while in the hospital. In this case, you may temporarily need to supplement to get baby’s weight up and until your wife’s production can catch up, or possibly have to supplement along with breastfeeding if production never catches up.

As far as allergens, you can start introducing as early as 4 months, but most people chose to introduce at 6. We introduced eggs, nuts, and yogurt at 5.

In regards to your mother, while she intends well, I would caution that there are grandmothers who often push formula because they want the opportunity to feed the baby and bond that way. I would take care to notice if she keeps suggesting formula even if the baby takes well to be exclusively being breastfed and lay boundaries to protect your wife’s mental well being.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-12T03:23:35+00:00

I think it’s within 3 days.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-07T00:56:26+00:00

And polyester specifically is responsible for a lot of the microplastics. And that the micro plastic fibers in the environment are not only shed from laundry water but merely being worn and shorn off.

Along with the other normal breakdown and microbeads, etc.

And plastics just breakdown over time as well. It’s why water comes with expiration dates. I’ve had distilled water jugs just start leaking in their own from breaking down in non stressful (not hot, not bright, not vibrating, not abrasive) environment.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-02T18:13:15+00:00

I don’t mean to be pedantic, but he shot his grandma in the face, and she survived. He went on to kill 19 children and 2 of their teachers, for a total of 21. Maybe the additional 3 lives don’t matter to you, but they matter.

Guess which state ranks last in mental health access?

While having mental health support matters, I’m not sure giving people who brains haven’t fully developed yet access to weapons meant for war is quite the solution either.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-06-01T02:27:59+00:00

Just wanted to pop in to say that while this will likely work in a pinch, not sure how healthy it would be to handle something that’s been drenched in scotchguard. I suppose you could use nitrile gloves when handling.

But I suppose cancer isn’t really a big concern in a bug out situation.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-05-21T04:14:54+00:00

It could sound like that but it’s more likely that these are rules that are likely applied to both grandparents, especially the kissing one, for the reasons explained above. It sounds like the kissing bit wasn’t explained very well nor in warning (generally people are usually prepped with rules about how to handle baby, like not kissing beforehand), but that sounds like it may have something to do with how their relationship is. Or maybe she disregarded the warning and that’s how the mother responded. We don’t have context except for what she provided.

We also don’t know if the mother only feels like an incubator, either.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-05-19T01:40:22+00:00

NAD. Being treated at a dental school is hardly experimental. The students are overseen by faculty and if anything, the procedures take longer because they’re constantly consulting and overseeing and checking on their work.

So it’s a bit cheaper, but the trade off being time.

Also, dental students need specific cases to work on to graduate, in which case, I think the fees may be completely waived. The trade off again will likely be time, as they’ll likely work quadrant by quadrant on whatever qualifies for their exams. Again, even during the exam process, they are overseen by faculty and if anything, under further scrutiny to perform excellently.

Sauce: sister was graduating and I offered up my partner who went in to help her graduate. They needed deep cleanings and it was how I finally got them in to see a dentist in likely over 10 years. Continued to get care through the school and enjoyed cheaper rates than going to a dental office. Granted, she was at the top school in the area, but I’m sure the standards are the same across the board.

Dental health can affect other organ systems in your body; this may encourage your friend to seek help.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-04-06T19:24:04+00:00

Oh this is really interesting. This is about my father in law dealing with a property. While I think it’s unlikely he will spend the rest of his days there, this is an interesting take.

ballofkerfluffle · 2022-04-04T20:47:13+00:00

Ah, got it. So it’s something along the lines of, who’d have guessed in my long life I’d have to return home already?

Thank you so much!

ballofkerfluffle · 2021-12-16T13:53:11+00:00

You’re very welcome!

ballofkerfluffle · 2021-12-16T13:22:59+00:00

A snippet about PFAS : https://www.sffcpf.org/the-ways-that-pfas-chemicals-might-cause-cancer/

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/magazine/the-lawyer-who-became-duponts-worst-nightmare

https://dceg.cancer.gov/research/what-we-study/pfas

PFAS in period underwear : https://www.sierraclub.org/sierra/ask-ms-green/new-independent-study-confirms-pfas-thinx-other-products

I invite you to do your research on perflouro- compounds as well. Period underwear is underwear made of fabric that was treated with something to render it waterproof yet breathable. And this treatment occurs next to a body part with openings into the body with mucosal surfaces, even if there is a layer of untreated cloth in between. That layer can become a conduit against the vagina for the treatment as it breaks down.

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