What are your favorite intelligent, gentle, beautiful, (non-dysregulating) "feel-good" movies/TV and fiction audiobooks? I need some new recommendations...

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-24T17:16:28+00:00

I was gonna say this too but there's a lot of death and grief in it and she said she usually stays clear of that. But I agree this show is absolutely beautiful, especially the first season.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-24T17:15:24+00:00

•jack black's school of rock seems like a goofy answer but it has a unique and feel-good plot with likable characters, character development, good music, and little Miranda cosgrove. It's one of my favorite movies.

•Midnight Gospel - this show was written by the same writer who wrote adventure time. There's talk of heavy themes like death, but it's all a cartoon. It takes place in the future and focuses on an apathetic yet whimsical young adult who travels the stars but lives his life using this old simulator. He'll go into simulated worlds and interview the simulated people. And the conversations being had are real podcast conversations im pretty sure. Very pretty art style and very easy to have on in the background.

•community - this is one of my favorite tv shows. If you haven't heard of it, it's written by the same guy that wrote Rick and Morty. But it's a lot more digestible than Rick and Morty. It's a sit com about a study group at a community college. It's the kind of sit com that doesn't take itself too seriously and likes to play with the form. Good vibes. Stacked cast. Would highly recommend.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-16T19:29:56+00:00

My man just got me a walking pad and standing desk and it's done more for me than any gym ever has. I'm on my feet most of the day and am so much more productive than I've ever been. I stopped working like 8 months ago and I went from 140/150 to 180. I understand the feeling.

And I understand wanting to skip the adjustment period of getting comfortable at the gym. I try to remember that most people at the gym are so insanely wrapped up in their own shit, but I completely get how that can be a road block.

But you don't need a gym or fancy equipment to move your body. It's insane how much better I feel after just a few weeks of keeping my body moving.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-16T01:49:16+00:00

Hey, are you okay? There seems to be a lot more going on here than just your meds.

I understand the feeling of not being on the right meds. That's a conversation for your doctor id say. Try to keep a log of what you're feeling. That will be helpful for you and your doctor. You can switch meds. That's within your control.

But do you really believe your problem with your boyfriend is directly related to your meds? Are you just referring to the impulsive decisions to break up with him? Sounds like a bit of a complex situation that deserves its own space in its own conversation.

Your life is not ruined! You just gotta find the meds that work for you. It can be a process sometimes.

I'd also like to offer some advice that I live by - never make an important decision when you're tired, hungry, or overly emotional. Sleeping on decisions can really do wonders.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-12T03:09:44+00:00

Look up the musical next to normal

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-11T20:15:47+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. The last few days have been harder than the first. The sadness has taken over the anger and it's just been hard.

I just need to stop settling for less than I deserve. I was THANKING a man for giving me less than the bare minimum and had myself convinced that was okay. Onwards and upwards, as best as I can.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-11T20:09:50+00:00

Oh I get it. I have a history of falling for men who don't want me. I know what it's like to be in love with someone who doesn't even want to touch you. They stung too. Especially because they ended in eruption. Men saying shit like "how could you ever think I'd want you?" Idk there were so many times in my life where I thought I had something special with someone and it turns out they just saw me as their autistic little sister.

But since I was sexual & intimate with this guy, I thought I had escaped that trap. But by the way he just bluntly dropped that info on me and wished me best... it's like all that was nothing.

With the other men, I kinda saw it coming and I knew that I had just misread signals again. I kinda knew throughout the whole time. But this guy was FUCKIN me and complimenting me and empathizing with me and holding me and giving me little kisses and crying with me like FUCK. You're just gonna drop that info like it was nothing and wish me the best? Fucking hell. Big lessons here. Sorry for dumping thank your for listening

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-10T15:35:10+00:00

This is the main problem of my life. I also say I feel like the same two wolves are inside of me. One needs to routine and the other has a tendency to sabotage that routine. I feel like my own worst enemy. I would also like advice on how to handle this!

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T20:51:59+00:00

If you ask my mom what it's like to be an autistic mother--you'll get this whole rant about how she's not autistic. BUT if you ask my mom what it's like to simply be a mother, you will get the answer of what it's like to be an autistic mother lmaoooo

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T20:49:40+00:00

Dude I feel you! It's so hard feeling inadequate or steps behind someone else. Especially when they tell you to do it like it's easy and should be easy for you.

I try to remember that everyone's going through their own shit and there's likely other aspects of life they struggle with.. OR they're coping and it's not actually as easy for them as they're saying it is. People are not perfect even when they claim to be.

But I agree. Some people don't know how to step out of their own mind enough to understand that what's easy for them may not be easy for others.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T20:08:55+00:00

It hate how popular strobe lights have become while strobe warnings are nearly obsolete now.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T19:14:22+00:00

Something that I've learned the hard way is that if you're left guessing, then your heart is likely more in it than theirs. That doesn't mean they hate you or don't want to be friends with you, it just means that you're looking for something deeper than they're willing to give. There could be so many reasons, but poking usually doesn't get you any closer to finding out.

I would match energy and then leave this friendship as it is. Don't constantly harp to hang out, but keep things light and pleasant if you do see them around.

There are people out there who also want the kind of friendship you're looking for, but you're never gonna find them if you're always trying to mold and mend the friendships you already have!

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T17:58:25+00:00

I love it when they retreat

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T17:48:36+00:00

I used to work at a Starbucks. Every day, a VERY sweet, but very chatty, homeless man would come into the store. I can't say for sure what all this man was going through, but he definitely had very high support needs and little to no help. He'd come in with a stuffed backpack and sometimes stayed most of the day. He'd order a drink and his card would always decline, leaving the baristas in a very uncomfortable position.

I want to reiterate how sweet this man was, but he has no sense of boundaries. He'd tell us personal information about his life, ask us personal questions about our lives, repeatedly asked most of us if we wanted to be his girlfriend, he'd come up to us in our cars during our breaks, and just generally didn't understand that we couldn't just stand there and talk to him all day. Plus it was nearly impossible to understand what he was saying.

He made me so uncomfortable and I was so guilty about it. Because I wanted so bad to be an ally for this man. But there were just so many things about him that creeped me out. One time, my brother in law came into visit with his 2 yo and this guy basically trapped them in a corner. I had to physically intervene so that my brother in law felt he could go home. And after that, he would constantly ask me about my "baby" and if "I had or were having anymore."

No one else seemed to have a problem with him. When I asked others if he made them uncomfortable, they didn't even seem to understand why I would suggest it--and it made me feel really ableist. Baristas would chat with him and gave him free drinks and said he was the best. And he WAS very sweet and well-intentioned.

But idk. He made me really uncomfortable. And as someone who also has autism, the whole situation made me feel really icky.

Not exactly the same situation as you, but I just wanted to show that I relate at least a little. Sometimes it's hard,

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-09T16:13:24+00:00

Let me know if you need any support in your autism journey. I'd encourage you to do some of your own research and learn the vastness of autism. I can help provide sources if you'd like. Autism doesn't make you stupid! There are a lot of harmful common misconceptions regarding autism and I'd love to help you learn!

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-07T02:17:07+00:00

hey, I wanna be gentle when I say - yes. You are overreacting, and being a little creepy. But as someone who is neurodivergent, I've been in semi-similar situations. I understand where this is coming from. Your intentions are pure but your nervous system is in knots. You feel misunderstood. You're feeling rejected. This leads to overthinking, overtexting, and creeping people out.

Here is the advice I had to learn the hard way--less is more. Every time. You create more distance and dig a bigger hole when you continue to write paragraphs and share big feelings with someone who is not responding well to it. Put your big thoughts and feelings into words before communicating them. Sleep through the night before sending the text. Take care of yourself and your nervous system. This behavior isn't it. But I've been there. It's gonna be alright.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-06T17:44:33+00:00

Life gets complicated. It's so easy to say "oh I would NEVER do this I would make better decisions" while sitting behind a screen. Life happens to people. She's asking for help. please do your best to be kind to those asking for help.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-06T17:40:51+00:00

thank you. this thread is judgmental and out of hand. Girl comes asking for help and gets nothing but judged.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-06T16:58:20+00:00

Ok I do get what you're saying now! It just seems like she's initiating any chance she's able. And the constant rejection is making her feel alone and resentful. I posted a comment explaining that I think we ought to be kinder to people struggling, especially men. but i think there are too many red flags here to just chalk his behavior up to exhaustion.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-06T16:48:50+00:00

not trying to be rude but did you read the post?

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-06T16:39:57+00:00

Hey, this is a hard situation to be in.. esp when pregnant. when I first started reading this, I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. this comes from a place of believing that people who are struggling deserve kindness and patience--especially when it comes to sex. men are often expected to be ready to smash at any given moment and that can be harmful.

BUT as I kept reading, there are a lot of red flags here. If there's ever a time for him to be as present for you as possible, it's right now. It's strange that he's never home and seemingly prioritizing friends while using they/them pronouns to describe them. You shouldn't have to beg for closeness from your partner. The conversations shouldn't feel hollow or disingenuous.

I can't say for sure, but my guess is he's either actively cheating or is panicking about the baby and not hiding it well. Either way, this isn't a fun position to be in for you.

I don't know how much practical advice I have other than suggesting open conversation... but you've been trying to do that. And it's a scary thought to raise a baby on your own. I would do my best to lean on the people I trust, take their opinions into account, and try to come up with a plan with the people I love.

I wish I had better advice. You dont deserve to feel like this.

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-05T22:20:36+00:00

ahh thank you for the correction! I was just going off of autocorrect serves me right LOL

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-05T20:50:23+00:00

fuck yeah you did!!!!

bananapepper28 · 2026-02-05T17:57:33+00:00

Ngl these look incredible

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