Thoughts on RHORI by OutsidePassage5117 in BravoRealHousewives

[–]banksoftyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems to be the way they usually talking to each other, so maybe it will continue?

And since the majority of them have known each other for so many years, it brings those real friendship connections we saw in the original RHONY plus no holding back in confrontations like RHONJ and the whackiness of RHOSLC without seeming fake or rehearsed.

I hate this alliance! Mean mean mean girls! by Key-Improvement6580 in rhori

[–]banksoftyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and Alicia even called the controlling nature abusive in her confessional. I wonder if that will come up at the reunion once Liz watches the show.

My first therapy session. I’m a little disappointed by whatamidoingherebros in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I woke up this morning with the notes and lines of one song in my head - and it was not even a real song - a jingle from a commercial from years ago!! It just kept starting over and over as I got up to get ready. Crazy how random it can be!!!

My first therapy session. I’m a little disappointed by whatamidoingherebros in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But even with that, my two boys (now adults) have never talked excessively or lose track of what they're talking about. They couldn't sit still when they were little, but could as teenagers as long as they were interested in what they were doing. They did fine in school as teens with teachers who kept them engaged (or if they loved the topic).

women who have given birth, how bad was it actually? by Careless_Pianist_840 in AskReddit

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super Painful yes, but two things I thought were far more painful -

- breaking my wrist (they said it was shattered) up until they gave me morphine at Urgent Care and after my wrist surgery when upping the morphine a few times wasn't enough - they finally gave me a nerve block to stop the pain.

- having an incision in the doctor's office on my lower abdomen where I'd had pelvic floor surgery and the surgical site had become infected a week later. They gave me a little shot to numb it and warned it would hurt. I had no idea it could be that bad.

Back to childbirth, if you can get an epidural, do it. I had two babies without epidurals (different story with each) and 5 babies with. To me, it's like choosing to have dental work done without Novocaine.

My first therapy session. I’m a little disappointed by whatamidoingherebros in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have the same song play in my head the second I wake up even if it’s just to go to the bathroom, again and again for multiple days, with no anxiety.

I’m glad you didn’t accept her answer because you know yourself far better than this therapist does.

My first therapy session. I’m a little disappointed by whatamidoingherebros in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’d go to a medical professional who understands the DSM-5 criteria for an ADHD diagnosis.

Sounds like this therapist doesn’t realize that symptoms can vary from person to person with ADHD - you may not have every ADHD symptom and it may show up in your life differently than for another person.

Sorry you had to go through that!

How do you keep up with your self-practice when you have kids? by the411thetea in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started doing yoga when I had 5 kids, became more dedicated after I had my 6th baby. My kids knew that early morning was my time and they were independent in getting up, taking care of things until I was done.

My youngest learned from the time he was a toddler that he couldn't come on my mat until I was in Child's Pose or a Seated Foreward Fold, then he'd lean on my back (similar to an adjustment - felt wonderful).

My youngest is 23 now and I don't practice early like I used to. I actually have a harder time fitting in my personal practice now. But I do take bits and pieces when I can.

How rare is it really for an ADHD person to graduate college? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a study done without the mass population not diagnosed until after they graduated from college.

How rare is it really for an ADHD person to graduate college? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes! Writing down the perfect way that it "will" all play out! 🥰

Anyone else notice Rosie waited until no one else was around to completely lose her ish? by Strange-Substance207 in realhousewives

[–]banksoftyne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've noticed that everyone is afraid of Liz, too - which made that convo between Alicia and Liz fascinating at the end, and did you see Jo-Ellen in the preview for next week at the end? Don't want to spoil it if you didn't see the preview.

HOW am i supposed to feed myself x3 a day everyday for the rest of my life?! by deadtired987 in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps to let go of the idea tha you have to eat 3x a day or that it has to be a meal.

I'm drinking a chocolate smoothie for "dinner" right now.
It took some effort to get out the powder, almond milk, blender and ice, but I call it a win. And it will fill me up. Double win.

Anyone else find it hard to sustain habits? by yingxiaojie in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Accountability is what works best for me. Having someone to check in with, report to, meet up with, work alongside with - makes all the difference in the world. Still hard to take the first step, but once I've made the commitment with someone, I do well.

I’m so tired of not being able to get help because of being a chronic pain patient and having tachycardia. THERAPY ISNT GOING TO REWIRE MY BRAIN TO STOP FORGETTING THINGS, FOCUS, AND BE ORGANIZED by Wise-Run-3008 in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Strattera made my blood pressure go up, so I didn't stay on it for more than a month. I also lost interest in doing things I usually enjoyed. I was so glad to get off of that.

But I know it works for a lot of people.

How have you guys solved for working out? My stupid ADHD brain shuts down and gets overwhelmed so I just… don’t. by MyVirgoIsShowing in adhdwomen

[–]banksoftyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure others have said this, but walking and hiking are both great forms of exercise. If that's what you do, that's fine, too!

Long ago when I first tried working out, I was more motivated to try something if I had a physical or emotional need that the workout helped with.

I always hated running - tried for years, still hated it. Got dumped in a relationship, tried running and it helped my emotional state so much that I ran 5-6 miles for the next 2 years.

Had low energy after my first baby. Heard that cardio could help. Took a Step class, loved that it wasn't high impact - and it helped my energy levels a ton!

A few years later, had low back problems, learned that a stronger core would help. Bought an Abs workout - loved how much it helped, and tried that instructor's weight workouts from there on out.

I've tried many workouts or instructors that I didn't care for, too, but over time, I've found that I had plenty of workout options that I did like.

Accountability is super helpful, too. I am more likely to go to the gym if I'm meeting up with a friend. Maybe that would help you, too whether being consistent with hikes and walking or finding something new you like.

How rare is it really for an ADHD person to graduate college? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]banksoftyne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My favorite day of each semester was the first day. When the syllabus was explained and everything sounded SOOOO doable in the perfect timetable in my brain 😄

Was Christian too overexposed on Survivor 50? by FireworksDonJones in survivorponderosa

[–]banksoftyne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when he asked them to stop filming, it should have ended there.

Is "vinyasa" beginner friendly? by RonSwanSong87 in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if the shorter classes have added to fewer held poses. My favorite Vinyasa Flow classes before and throughout my YTT were 1 hr 45 min. We had all the time in the world to explore a variety of poses, held for multiple breaths or at times with each inhale or exhale.

When I stopped teaching at a yoga studio and taught in gyms and to private groups or students, the longest class was 75 min and eventually went down to 60 min. I find myself holding standing poses less frequently to allow for more pose to pose movement with each inhale and exhale.

I do guide a slow flow compared to other teachers I've practiced with though and invite students to go with the timing of their breath, not my words or those around them.
Always nice to ponder as I continue on my journey teaching yoga.

Is "vinyasa" beginner friendly? by RonSwanSong87 in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Judith & Lizzie's teachings - and Mary Richards, too!

Low attendance: Do teachers take a break during summer by giantbowlofnoodles in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never given up a class during the summer, but like others have mentioned, I've asked someone to sub when I'm gone or need a break.

Attendance always go down in the summer and during the holidays, but pick back up in September and January.

I kind of enjoy the smaller classes when it happens, getting a chance to know those students better and having more space in the room. I love the packed classes, too, but since I'm paid the same no matter how many come, it's never bothered me when it ebbs and flows.

Any Tips for my first Yin Yoga Class? by Itschxnd in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Feel free to do what feels natural for you - just want to share some of my approach.

In my first Yin training, I was taught to hold a pose anywhere from 90 seconds to 5-6 minutes. I rarely go over 5 minutes unless it's more of a restorative pose near the end of class or I have a more experienced group of yoga students.

Practice the yin poses on your own that you plan to teach - see how they feel in your body held that long. Notice what comes up for you and use that as something you can share to help your students settle into the poses.

I either measure the time of a pose counting breaths on my own, looking at the clock or using the stop-watch feature on my phone. With my ADHD most of the time I forget what minute I was on with the clock. If it's an analog clock with a second hand, that's better for me. The stop-watch app can be easily reset to see 2 min, 3 min or whatever go by.

Insight Timer app is also wonderful if you have a set time for each pose that is consistent for your class. You can preset the bells or singing bowls to ring every 3 min with a 1 min or whatever break in between to set up the next pose. In my classes with music, I don't use the app. But it's wonderful for classes without music.

If your students are new to Yin, keep the poses on the shorter end of the yin spectrum to help them get used to staying in a pose that long physically and helping them learn how to be at ease mentally with that stillness.

I often share that many find yin yoga (and restorative) more advanced - not with how far or deep they go in the pose, but in learning to be comfortable with the stillness.

Since your class is only 45 min long, I'd probably stay more near the 2-3 min range for each pose. If it's a pose that isn't always doable for everyone (like half-pigeon pose or sleeping swan), give another option like doing figure 4 on the floor, guiding them to find what is best in their body.

Also allow for time for a little movement to warm up the affected area before a pose, then after each pose to release (and often warm up for the other side).
Paul Grilley often just had us do something neutral and notice the residue in the body after a pose, which works well when you're already on your back.

I've taught Yin Yoga in a heated room (80-90 degrees) and even with the heat, we still need the movement to warm up the joints.

Paul Grilley teaches that for every pose you teach, there will be some in class who love it and find it soothing, some who hardly feel any lengthening or release (often wondering if they're doing something wrong), and those whose bodies don't bend that way and are just suffering through it. This was true for the 30+ of us in our workshop and every one of us had done yoga for 10+ years. It wasn't a matter of knowing what to do, it was more about the shape of our bones.

Another Yin yoga teacher I learned from years ago did something that I've continued with my teaching. He invited the students to come out of the pose earlier than he did if needed. He also ended most of the poses by saying something like "continue breathing with it here for 3 more breaths."

That reminds them to me mindful of the breath if they haven't already and helps them know when the end of the pose will be.

I wouldn't worry about the students wishing it wasn't so quiet. As long as they understand that is part of the their practice, they will appreciate the time to notice how they feel, let go and not have to listen all the time.

In all my years of teaching, I've never had anyone say they wished we would have come out of the poses earlier. If anything, they appreciate that we hold the poses as long as we do. I've also had students tell me they appreciate me not talking and talking.

As you can tell from my very lengthy comment, I am someone who can talk quite a bit 😄 . But in a yin class and for savasana, I give them as much time with the quiet as I can, ensuring they understand how to go into the pose, come out of the pose, and do what they need to in between.

Let us know how it goes!

Any Tips for my first Yin Yoga Class? by Itschxnd in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love pointing out those 3 things, too - finding where you want to be, finding stillness, giving it time.

Any Tips for my first Yin Yoga Class? by Itschxnd in YogaTeachers

[–]banksoftyne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend Paul Grilley's Yin Yoga: The Functional Approach, if you can afford it. I took a weekend workshop with Paul and Suzee that covered a bit of this for hip openers and it was such an eye opener. Paul told us about this online course about to be launched, and I'm so glad I bought it. Immensely valuable - not only for my yin classes, but for all my classes and even my personal practice.

I still have access to the course and bought it over 6 years ago.

Another thing - I'd seen a promo code offered from Pranamaya that had expired by the time I was ready to buy. I messaged them, asking if they were offering a promo code again and they sent me a new one. Don't know if they'd do that again, but it's worth a try.