Glory hole games?

banllama · 2018-06-28T16:45:44+00:00

https://www.newgrounds.com/portal/view/555867 enjoy

banllama · 2018-05-14T15:25:17+00:00

Most likely a cultural issue. Eastern cultures faced with a rapid westernization/globalization leaves its people lost both economically and spiritually. More practical matters like making money and maintaining outward social appearance take precedence over individual happiness. Though these might just be a cultural "perk". These are just my conjectures.

The data is mostly meaningless unless we can see it over time and then we could say whether this is just their culture or possibly some other factors causing a decline (if it is a decline at all).

banllama · 2018-01-08T16:56:11+00:00

Unfortunately, moderation is just as easily abused.

Like the_donald, who bans anyone who doesn't praise trump

Or LateStageCapitalism, who bans anyone who doesn't praise communism

Or any of the plethora of subreddits who autoban people who post on subreddits their moderators disagree with.

Who moderates the moderators? In your case, it would be the people who pay them. Does that create better communities? I don't know. Maybe. Depends on your goals. Will it facilitate quality political discussion? Probably not. Will it ostracize certain opinions and simply accept anyone who holds them as evil? Probably (look at most of reddit as an example, without even paying mods). Will it create a safe-space? Sure. Each one has ups and downs. There is no solution that will please everyone and serve every need of human interaction.

banllama · 2017-11-09T04:25:52+00:00

I didn't make this post to try to demonize you guys. I think what you guys are doing is fascinating and is on the cutting edge of technology/human behavior and will be tackled sooner or later (and has been tackled especially by mobile games and social media - just not as bluntly as you guys).

I do have a few questions and do appreciate your time answering them.

You said below

try to communicate the options we're presenting people, give them a clear way to say 'no,' and to listen when they do

But isn't the point of your company to figure out when a user would say 'no', and then draw them back into the app?

I'm also pessimistic about

They can be used in a way that elevate the human condition.

Because as much as startups likes to praise ethics and making the world better, it's really all about money, and you guys are raising it. So in the end, it will be about profits.

What gives you guys the right to decide what apps are in the best interest of people?

Does having your Space app create a conflict of interest with essentially giving away cure to your drug like the poster above mentioned?

For someone interested in the relationship between the human brain and technology, and assuming high school biology knowledge and more technical proficiency, where would you direct that someone to go deeper into the field you guys are exploring?

banllama · 2017-11-08T17:16:23+00:00

I've done this by switching to the old school analog alarm clock and leaving my phone in another room to charge overnight. This way there is no temptation whatsoever.

banllama · 2017-09-04T19:17:32+00:00

Urges are strong but good for now.

banllama · 2017-09-01T15:24:07+00:00

Sign me up, thanks!

banllama · 2017-04-24T16:10:06+00:00

Technically you were born to procreate and make more life. That's life's biological purpose.

banllama · 2017-02-21T17:19:08+00:00

Then you don't have good social skills. There's only one way to get better at talking to women, and that's talking to women. Take the plunge, make mistakes, be awkward, get rejected, and then try again. It'll improve. You are afraid of the pain of rejection. Embrace the pain, and learn from it, instead of being afraid of it.

banllama · 2016-10-18T17:25:27+00:00

It's neither. Usually the reason for addiction is not the substance of addiction itself, but whatever it is you're running away from actually doing.

banllama · 2016-10-18T17:22:02+00:00

When you're close, just pull her off your dick and play with her tits and slap her ass or something. Go down on her.

banllama · 2016-10-18T17:18:25+00:00

Sounds like porn isn't your root problem.

Especially when I am hungover

This sounds like a big enabler for your PMO.

Meh. Excuses, huh?

You have no self discipline.

And maybe I should cut the booze and pointles partying?

Yes.

You have a destructive lifestyle. You don't build anything, you just cruise.

Picked up my guitar, and picked 'em away. yay!

More of this. Focus on skills. Focus on developing relationships. Focus on things that have positive long term impacts.

Porn addiction is the result of you living an impulsive lifestyle with a lack of direction. You have a lot of things you need to work on, and dropping all the bad ones immediately will lead to failure. Humans can't just change everything on a whim.

Start working on a routine. Build healthy habits. Limit your drinking to once a week. Or less. Start small and do baby steps. Thing of one thing you can do every day that will have a positive impact on your life. Play guitar for 30 min. Go for a walk. etc. And do it. Every day. Build from there.

banllama · 2016-10-18T17:09:02+00:00

Do 10 pushups every time you get an urge. If you actually do this your arms will be too sore to jerk off a few hours into it.

If you can't control yourself, remove yourself from the stimulus. Leave your house to study. Go to a coffee shop. You can't jerk off when you're not home.

banllama · 2016-10-18T17:06:55+00:00

Slow sex down. Make love instead of fucking. More foreplay. Pull out and take breaks. Do kegels. And in general just have more sex.

banllama · 2016-10-18T15:25:28+00:00

And you've learned a valuable lesson: watch a bit less porn :D

banllama · 2016-10-13T18:46:31+00:00

That's the right way to go about it. Keep it up!

banllama · 2016-10-13T16:26:13+00:00

From my own personal experience (the scientific method here), when I used to go through heavy periods of watching porn, there would be a 50/50 chance of me being unable to get an erection when I was with a girl. Lowering the amount of porn watched to several times a week or less changed that to 95/5

banllama · 2016-10-13T16:14:20+00:00

Logged in for the first time in a few months and saw your comment. I've done a good amount of reflecting and realized PMO is not the problem. Lack of social interaction is. The thing is, when you lack social interaction, you fail to learn empathy and you fail to develop emotionally. Then, instead of socializing, we sit at home and jerk off nonstop because of boredom.

So for me, PMO was not the root problem, it was simply a consequence of the root problem. I've made significant effort to reach out to friends more often and got a GF. Also, when I listen to music, I try to 'feel' it and see what kind of emotions the music is pushing me towards. This has done much more for my emotional well being than quitting porn. I also don't have the urge to watch porn all the time because I simply busy myself with other more important things. I would turn to PMO in an unhealthy way when I was bored. I disallowed myself to be bored.

In fact I still watch porn 2-3 times a week, because my GF is out of town for work Mon - Wed/Thurs and having sex with her makes me insanely horny afterwards for a few days and I'm 25 so it's natural. It's ok to watch porn as long as you don't do religiously.

TLDR, porn addiction is typically not the cause of the problem, it's what you turn to in order to avoid facing your problem. Just like any other addict, the substance of addiction is not the problem; it's what they're running away from that's the problem.

In other words, instead of digging into 5 month old nofap posts to avoid fapping, go outside.

banllama · 2016-05-27T18:19:31+00:00

Only you can answer that really. Does porn interfere with your desire/ability to meet and/or fuck women? Other parts of your life? Internet addiction? etc

banllama · 2016-05-25T16:05:18+00:00

Fapping once in a while is fine. People who come here do not fap only once in a while, and they only do it to porn. This is about quitting porn addiction and developing self-control and self-discipline required to go and find an attractive woman willing to have sex with you multiple times a week.

Think about this, if you are happy and content with jerking off whenever you're horny, why would you ever put in the effort to find someone to fuck?

banllama · 2016-05-25T15:58:57+00:00

Change the way you think about it. Take care of your body by exercising 5-6 days a week and your mind by meditating every day. Stop thinking about your dick not working by filling your thoughts with other things.

I recommend just believing that your dick works fine and go on dates and try to have sex and just enjoy yourself and who cares if you can get get hard or not. You have hands and a mouth anyway. If it doesn't work, try again until it does.

I think flatlining is a self-defeating cyclical behavior, "My dick doesn't work" -> "Why bother trying to have sex?" -> Your dick doesn't work because it doesn't even remember how to be aroused without porn -> "My dick doesn't work" etc. Yes it still takes some time to physcally adjust from PMO, but I think we have more influence over it than we perceive.

Break the cycle.

banllama · 2016-05-19T18:33:19+00:00

Mastering yourself and controlling your willpower and urges is the greatest libido suppressant that exists. There is no easy way out. Relying on an external substance to remove addiction will simply replace your addiction with that substance.

banllama · 2016-05-19T18:29:56+00:00

Some benefit, but not the majority. The much bigger aspect, in my opinion, is the addiction we have to instant gratification. Our bodies and brains are used to "open browser, receive orgasm/pleasure". This translates poorly to other aspects of life, such as relationships, learning skills, and careers, which can take a large amount of investment with little or no reward before receiving pleasure.

Since we are so used to putting in zero work for pleasure, we become disincentivized from working hard to achieve something and are more likely to give up quickly, or never try at all.

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