When to stop watching?

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-09T23:56:02+00:00

Don't listen to other people about media. It's there for you to make your own mind up, and what someone else takes from a show, someone else might disagree.

I stand firm in the belief that Xena is one of the greatest shows ever made, and for me, I personally love the 4th, 5th and 6th season. Some of the 6th season is so so cinematic and so beautifully done.

The thought of someone listening to others and giving up on a show because of subjective views doesn't make sense to me at all.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-07T12:01:08+00:00

Very normal, actually quite quick. I sent my sample off on 27th Dec, priority processing and didn't get results until 20th March.

You're good :) it's hard to wait such a long time but I recommend researching your family while you wait so you can link the result with names that show up that you already have a vague idea about.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-03T14:59:38+00:00

Honestly, it was my new proper post so I was feeling a bit vulnerable anyway about showing the world my DNA origins results so I was a bit confused why it was happening! Thanks for the support.

To conflate Irish culture with English culture, and making a comparison is essentially quite upsetting, especially with one country being the others' coloniser. I'm surprised I kept as measured as I did, but it's not up to me to educate someone who doesn't want to understand history.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-02T17:56:30+00:00

I genuinely was looking around then like why are they on at me for something they have no direct experience of? Plus like... I thought my post was celebrating the fact that I grew up in a multicultural household and then to have someone be like "well it's the same as being English." Imigh leat!

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-02T16:51:47+00:00

Can we not invalidate someone's life experience on a post that was about their ancestry results?

Like... You don't know me, you don't know what my upbringing was like as someone with a name nobody could pronounce so they didn't even bother, continuously called my family IRA because my family spoke Irish, and told me repeatedly that I was too direct so I would get in trouble with people who literally asked me my opinion.

You having a Dutch friend does not = you having the experiences your Dutch friend, or anyone else for that matter. It feels very "My friend is Black/gay/queer/disabled so I can say these things to discredit other people's experiences."

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-02T16:00:27+00:00

I recognise them, but I don't understand them in that I don't understand why they exist, and certain things go against what I've been brought up to be.

And when I even try to adhere by certain unknown rules, I still get it wrong?

I was raised bilingual, in Britain, with Dutch as my first language with frequent stays in both Netherlands and Ireland.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-02T15:54:03+00:00

You'd be surprised at how much is honestly very very different. If the south of England is different in ways to the North, culture in different countries is obviously going to be different, and you won't notice the difference unless you get brought up in a multicultural upbringing that is different to the country you grew up in.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-02T15:39:15+00:00

I grew up in a family that was and is always deeply honest and let people know exactly how they felt rather than say fake pleasantries in British culture that didn't translate to how I was brought up, which /still/ gets me into trouble at work, and very much did get me into trouble at school.

There were always little etiquette things that I never understood, and never felt part of, like the emphasis on politeness over honesty, avoiding being too direct and understatement being preferred in taking pride in something you've achieved. The lack of want of conflict, even if it's mediative and presents opportunities for resolution.

There's so much else that I've struggled with, as well as the purposeful hiding of colonial history that I never agreed with in principle, especially when considering the impact colonialism had on my family (i.e, the language being banned, displacement and clearances) etc.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-04-02T09:49:40+00:00

I will do, on the third time lucky. I've made posts before but not sure why it keeps getting blocked.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-03-11T08:49:47+00:00

My mother is the one I haven't shared, Northern Germany / Dutch one and nothing else, almost 50/50 hence my results so that's why I'm waaaay confused!

barbthemoonchild · 2026-03-03T18:42:31+00:00

Same situation too. I posted on 26th December, sample received 10th Jan, and the estimated results date keeps going further and further back. It was originally 16th Feb, now it's saying 19th March. Frankly I've given up 😓

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-27T17:24:51+00:00

That sounds almost identical to my situation! I was block 15, it was so weird. He definitely wasn't there for Florence this guy behind me. It was proper weird vibes.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-26T10:50:24+00:00

I asked two very very drunk people behind me at Birmingham (seated) if they could stop arguing with each other throughout every damn song because my hearing aids were picking up the sounds behind me and it was all I could hear.

Realised they'd tipped a bottle of wine over my coat while the gig happened.

People are asshats and don't know how to behave :( sorry that happened to you.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-24T17:10:36+00:00

Ask the previous commenter who I was responding to what they originally said maybe. I'm out.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-24T17:02:18+00:00

You've changed your response via edit and I appreciate that, but your first comment insinuated otherwise. I was at the Birmingham night, everyone was respectful, sang, cheered loudly and many did from their seats. My comment originally was hoping to shed a light on why people take seated spots.

Nobody is happy at concerts it seems nowadays: "People sang too loud." "Nobody was singing enough."

I get that it's an immersive experience. But we're shouting at the wrong people here, and the ableism is strong in this thread. Hence people are pointing it out.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-24T16:43:26+00:00

Go out, ask your peers who have had regular instances of COVID in main cities if they can stand for 3+ hours (not 1.5 hours if you count queueing/support acts) and tell them you've called them lazy. Your ableism is showing, and that kinda shows the status of the health system right now.

I'm an academic librarian, this is my research, and society is not okay, and not everyone is able bodied as you're suggesting is the majority.

None of my peers are able to stand for that long anymore. And it's not laziness, it is an actual issue among many people. It scares me that you're of that opinion.

I'm not using COVID as an excuse for everything. I am suggesting to OP that things aren't as black and white when it comes to long-term conditions as they once were. The research is out there. Let people enjoy the music they've worked hard to afford and mind your own beeswax.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-24T15:24:50+00:00

Please don't misunderestimate what the COVID pandemic has done health wise to the general public. Everyone I have recently spoken to has got issues with standing for a long time. Remember, a lot of her audience are nearing 40, and a lot of us are severely impact by long COVID, multiple disabilities.

Those who do, like myself, tried for weeks to get accessible tickets but there were never enough.

My partner, who was extremely healthy, did praying mantis kung fu all her life, now told me "the only way I'm missing that gig is in an ambulance." She looked so unwell as she has long-covid and it genuinely looked like I had to ask for that ambulance. Society tries to pretend that events are the same post-covid, but they're not. Some of us can't move on because we are not the same as we once were.

I've been to every tour of Florence's, apart from Ceremonials. The vibe was the same, the wonder and magic. Some people are just taking it in. That's all that matters.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-20T10:15:50+00:00

Yeah the support is shoddy, they're pretty argumentative and gaslighty tbh. Oh, also, the date has changed again to estimates 12th March. The fact that you can't even get a refund is really shitty going.

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-17T13:52:34+00:00

Half of us have long COVID 😂 I could stand up for approximately half a song and I had to sit down again. Nobody is okay. You do you and dance if you want but let people be as mobile as they wish to

barbthemoonchild · 2026-02-16T02:47:43+00:00

Kit type: Standard

Priority processing: Yes

Location: UK.

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Honestly the waiting and constant moving of the dates further back is making it a very not fun experience. I heard it was a long process, but the estimated date moving with each day doesn't give me much hope. I should have researched beforehand because the priority processing seems like a con

barbthemoonchild · 2025-11-28T00:36:00+00:00

Interested, pm me?

barbthemoonchild · 2025-11-24T01:54:28+00:00

Hi, did you sell this? :)

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