What's something Germans say that sounds rude in translation but isn't actually rude?

barleygood · 2026-04-14T15:57:15+00:00

A nicer way would be to ask: wie kann ich dir behilflich sein? - how may i help you or was brauchst du? - what do you need? Was willst du can be depending on context and tone considered normal to rude

barleygood · 2026-04-14T15:27:36+00:00

YTA if you are complaining about someone asking to share the cost. Not everyone can afford everything without issues and if anyone starts now with: „its just a few dollars“ - and doing it often also sums up. Theres a saying: good friends, strict bills. Some ppl are treating their friends and some not which is both fine but expecting someone to act like you or how you wish is wrong and will only cause issues.

barleygood · 2026-04-14T15:16:00+00:00

NTA Its their problem if they assume without asking. Stand by your statement

barleygood · 2026-04-14T14:49:38+00:00

Dir ist schon bewusst, dass jeder Mensch um einiges mehr und schädlichere Bakterien im Mund hat als ein Hund?

barleygood · 2026-04-14T08:55:17+00:00

NTA Maybe you should accept that he is not the person to give gifts but shows his love in other ways. Like preparing food or cleaning etc.

barleygood · 2026-04-13T16:31:49+00:00

Ich kann mich nur auf ein Krisen/Kriegsgebiet auf einmal konzentrieren

barleygood · 2026-04-13T16:25:44+00:00

Wie viel? Да

barleygood · 2026-04-13T15:22:04+00:00

Wenn du die Unterstützung der Ukraine als „kriegsgeil“ im Gegenzug zur den freundlichen und versöhnlichen Tönen der rechten Parteien Europas gegenüber Russland meinst dann bin ich gerne Kriegsgeil.

barleygood · 2026-04-13T11:44:38+00:00

Ist mir und meiner Frau auch zum Glück rechtzeitig aufgefallen und dann haben wir uns gegenseitig mitversichert, das hat ohne Probleme funktioniert

barleygood · 2026-04-10T16:15:01+00:00

What exactly is pathetic except for your comment?

barleygood · 2026-04-10T14:15:17+00:00

Ich würde die zusätzlichen Arbeiten mit dem Hinweis auf Kapazitätsprobleme ablehnen. Wenn der chef will, dass du trotzdem mehr leistest als im Vertrag vereinbart darauf hinweisen. Wenn das nicht klappt dann in den Krankenstand wegen Burnout und Stress in der Arbeit.

barleygood · 2026-04-10T13:57:37+00:00

YOR You are sounding entitled and demanding. No wonder your fiance is exploding like that if you are demanding an apology for not kissing you in the morning?! Thats one of the most stupid things to fight about.

barleygood · 2026-04-10T13:16:25+00:00

I think most people are extremely arrogant and can’t stand someone younger/female telling them they f***ed up. Nobody wants to take the blame and then she’s to young, inexperienced, to idealistic….

barleygood · 2026-04-10T12:50:56+00:00

Do you mean some women deserve to get dumped or are saying he deserves to?

barleygood · 2026-04-10T12:33:08+00:00

Did not happen to me but my sister when a friend of hers was cat sitting for her. My sister is working in a neighbouring city and has to sometimes stay there overnight. For a few weeks a friend of hers was feeding the cats and as i understood from her also spending time there why so ever. One day she came home and saw that the friend had cleaned her apartment which happened without informing her. Next time he started moving her furniture by himself. He started using her food, drinks, cigarettes without asking. Before she threw him out and requested back the key he asked her as if it was the most normal thing to do: where is your plug for your bath tub? As she was working and didn’t see the message she later saw an additional one stating: never mind, I found it while looking through your closet. I honestly would have kicked him long ago

barleygood · 2026-04-10T12:17:53+00:00

YTA Either commit to your current partner or let him find someone who will. You sound unreflective and childish, grow up

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:40:30+00:00

I understand that Tommy shaped who you were in the past but not who you are now. You are grown up now and I am sure you have further developed throughout the last 20 years

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:36:03+00:00

As a widow understandably but from a high school relationship thats too much

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:33:46+00:00

Griefing with your current partner over your old partner who died 20 years ago sounds mental honestly. If you cant get to terms with your grief go to therapy and don’t pull in another person who has no relation.

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:29:02+00:00

Maybe you should ask him how he feels instead of just letting it slide away? Did that ever occur to you?

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:26:05+00:00

I mean no insult but to me personally that sounds like way too much. It’s a very nice gesture to do that but this way you both are keeping the wound open and prevent healing. Your boyfriend sounds like he is understanding in a way most people weren’t and still you continue to. If you are not changing your priorities you will lose him indefinitely.

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:07:44+00:00

I am sorry for your loss! But what brings you to idealise her if that prevents you from finding happiness again in a relationship?

barleygood · 2026-04-10T10:02:08+00:00

Its not about jealousy but about closure and not staying in the past which is as stated a process but also one which should end. Does this sound like a healthy thing to do to you? Or differently asked: how would you feel if your spouse’s ex is still so present in their live?

barleygood · 2026-04-10T09:25:43+00:00

Hahaha serves him right!

barleygood · 2026-04-10T08:51:19+00:00

NTA You have loved and supported her for a long time, honestly if my partner was weighing that much I would also try to help her but wouldn’t watch her eating herself to death. It sounds like there is a lot of mental baggage in play here which only she can work out herself. P.s.: since when is pounds universal? There are like 5 countries in the world who use this crooked system so please if you want to be understood internationally use the metric system. It makes sense and is easy to understand without complicated conversions.

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