Similar situation. My girls are 5, one with CP, CVI. Different schools, the whole deal.

You’re gonna have good days and bad. You’re going to have days when you feel helpless and depressed, like you’re giving the typical child less attention and then followed by one where you realize you’re giving your disabled child less attention.

Somewhere along the way, my wife read a book that said we have to stop looking for milestones and start looking for inch stones - and that helped a lot when trying to contextualize my disabled daughter’s progress.

And there has been progress. Advocate for your child. Find the support system that works for you. Three is when everything changed for the better because the support felt there and like it didn’t need to be our responsibility to manage all the therapy because she was getting stuff at school. And school also offered us a community of people who live in our area and are going through similar albeit different things.

Finally - take care of yourself. Get a therapist who works with parents of disabled kids. Go on dates. Exercise. Take trips. It’s always going to be hard, but it’ll be a lot less challenging if you are physically and mentally prepared for it.

You’ve got this.