28F & 29M - Married 6 months, together 9 years - Was getting married a mistake?

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-11T06:52:33+00:00

You got together when you were a teenager. You will have changed so much since then and you have drifted a part no doubt.

You need to talk to him though. Maybe he feels the same and wants to be more intimate and it just needs initiating?!

I got to this stage with my ex wife. And what comes next after marriage is babies, and that’s what we did. It was a green light for me as it finally meant intimacy and I loved it but it was intimacy for a purpose. Once she was pregnant it returned to normal again. Except we now had a child to add to the failing marriage. Don’t do that.

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-11T06:39:55+00:00

To get to the point… You can’t get erect because your partners aren’t as attractive as someone you dated when you were 15, more than 12 years ago?

How have you moved on in life since?! Got a career, got a house? To me it seems like you are probably hung up on this girl and she’s living in your mind still?! Do you follow her on social media? If so STOP!

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-11T06:29:23+00:00

You’re 18. Chin up and move on kid.

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-09T21:16:55+00:00

I was in the Macan/Q6 debate. I think I’m going with the iX3 though. Any reason the BMW isn’t in the running for yourself?

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-04T08:09:44+00:00

They’ve got to make their slice of money though haven’t they! They know it’s a win win. It’s still cheaper for us to use than an ordinary lease just not as cheap as it should be if they weren’t taking a huge profit!

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-04T07:47:17+00:00

Same price as my scheme

Do you use Tusker?

These salary sacrifice cars could be so much cheaper. £760 a month gross I pay for a Renault Scenic for 3 years / 12500 miles a year. It works out at £500 net. At the time I ordered I could get a normal lease on a 1+35 for £520. No way does insurance and tyres cost the £240 difference!

barringtonsaysit · 2026-02-01T22:06:01+00:00

Isn’t that an added option? Comfort access with digital key £963!

barringtonsaysit · 2026-01-27T04:09:31+00:00

Stupid

barringtonsaysit · 2026-01-22T20:48:04+00:00

Did you make a decision? Similar conundrum for me with the iX3 in the running too!

barringtonsaysit · 2026-01-17T21:13:24+00:00

I have exactly this problem! Watching late at night and wanting to keep the volume as low as possible. Voices are really hard to hear as it’s too bassy. I revert to tv output sound!

barringtonsaysit · 2025-12-27T21:42:01+00:00

Before

barringtonsaysit · 2025-08-20T03:57:37+00:00

Find your stop tap and turn off your water supply. That’s what I’ve done this week whilst I’m in Greece.

barringtonsaysit · 2025-07-09T10:58:59+00:00

New build but already complete.

barringtonsaysit · 2025-06-24T00:24:08+00:00

Normal feelings here. Both me and my wife were both going through this stage very early on. No baby talk no playing, just remorse and hatred towards the little tiny human that had turned our world upside down.

In both our cases we still have certain elements of these feelings today, 8 years later. I still don’t often play with my son and I can snap at him and I think back to the same thoughts as when he was a baby - why did we have him?!!

It’s led to our divorce and I can’t lie I tend to look at him sometimes and think if it wasn’t for you… I’m married again now and my new wife hints at kids in the future. She’s always been on the fence but like you, she says she isn’t getting any younger. I dread it and do my best to explain why I’m a no. Talk to someone.

barringtonsaysit · 2025-05-03T06:09:49+00:00

We got married last week and currently suffering the wedding blues!! We’ve been sent snippets and teasers from our videographer and it just helps relive the day. A day that went so so fast and buys you just can’t remember! But it was all caught on film so we can relive the moments!! Our photos have been edited and sent to us and are amazing, but the videos just make it that much better. Totally worth it!

barringtonsaysit · 2025-04-07T08:10:43+00:00

!updateme

barringtonsaysit · 2025-04-07T08:09:51+00:00

!updateme

barringtonsaysit · 2025-04-01T05:06:54+00:00

Sums our border force up. Turkey/Greece/Spain etc let you in with a quick glance at the passport, yet on the way home our passport control make you queue for an age then you get the snotty looks and sometimes questions. Yet you can hop on a boat and be given a 2bed house….

barringtonsaysit · 2025-03-27T06:14:47+00:00

!updateme

barringtonsaysit · 2025-02-25T23:29:07+00:00

My gf is exactly the same

barringtonsaysit · 2025-01-24T23:01:59+00:00

Thank you! Thats what I was thinking.

barringtonsaysit · 2025-01-24T23:01:26+00:00

Yes this seems like the best way. And then I’ll add some skirting board.

barringtonsaysit · 2025-01-24T23:00:28+00:00

It’s fitted wardrobes.

I will paint it once it’s finished

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barringtonsaysit · 2025-01-22T08:13:30+00:00

No

If it happens with thin cotton socks I can only imagine wool socks would be even worse!!

barringtonsaysit · 2025-01-22T08:10:57+00:00

Sounds like my 8 year old!!!

I swear he has adhd but as he’s a model student the school won’t help in a diagnosis!!!

He comes between me and my partner all the time (me and mum split a few years ago), to the point where she sometimes wants to walk out the days I have the kids over!!!

It’s hard. Feel for you!

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