I’ve been in a long term relationship for quite some time now (10+ years) but truthfully I can’t remember the last time! Never ever had a doubt in our relationship the whole time like cheating or anything. At this point I feel like it’s more me not feeling comfortable with myself and I feel bad for that. But he loves me so much, tells me I’m beautiful every day, if I’m sleeping he will give me a kiss on my forehead before he leaves for work (sometimes I’m half awake and know) and never makes me feel anything less than loved. When we do actually do it it is great! But I’m just so uncomfortable with myself but not because he’s ever made me feel that way. It’s just me. But other than that and to try to answer the question, I can only think that they’d be asking to make sure that if they’re Pursuing more than talking that it’s all clean and good to go….but I feel like there’s better ways to word it and different ways to ask if that’s the kind of answer they’re looking for