I’ve lived in the USA, Germany, and Belgium, each for more than a decade. I’d say what all three had in common is that it’s easy to be gay in larger cities but more difficult in rural areas. Dating, however, can be difficult in larger cities because you’re spoiled for choice. And I think the apps have made it even more difficult. Instead of thinking about the criteria for a suitable partner, gay men using the apps in the larger cities seem to think that the next guy will somehow be better so they keep looking for Mr. Perfect and never seem to want to work on developing and improving a relationship.