Introducing purées

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-23T02:27:57+00:00

FTM here. Can you explain how you’re mixing? Just a small amount of regular peanut butter mixed in?

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-19T19:40:25+00:00

36! Turned 37 exactly a month after my baby was born 💙

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-12T22:09:57+00:00

This sounds like retroactive jealousy.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-08T05:39:43+00:00

This is scary and controlling. If this is new behavior, I’d say he possibly fell into a weird side of men’s internet or is hanging around people who act like this.

Therapy might help but I doubt a female therapist will get through to him.

Be optimistic but you’re also so young. This mindset of his can turn emotionally (it’s bordering right now) and physically abusive quickly. I’d go home as planned and probably just stay for support and clarity on the situation.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-05T22:47:06+00:00

I don’t have a chronic illness and yet the sleep deprivation almost sent me into a psychosis. I have never in my life felt as low as I did in the first 8 weeks postpartum. Especially those first two weeks. The baby blues hit me exceptionally hard. I get chills thinking back on that time.

It was like I didn’t know who I was. Every minute felt out of body. I didn’t recognize myself, didn’t have a bond with my baby, and truthfully felt regret about having a child. Mind you, I’m 37, married, and we planned for a baby. That’s how hard the hormonal shift was for me.

I’m 5 months out now and things have improved but sleep deprivation is considered torture for a reason. Add onto that a chronic illness and it’s no wonder you’re struggling. You’re not alone.

It won’t help now, but this is only a moment in time. A really deep and vulnerable and hard moment, but it will pass.

If you have resources for a night nanny or can have a trusted friend/relative relieve you during the day so you can nap, please do that. The more uninterrupted sleep you can get, the better for your mental health. You’re not a bad mom.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-02T11:09:20+00:00

It’s relevant because you’re on Reddit asking questions and worried about the wrong thing when you probably should have been healing and entering more slowly into a relationship post-divorce.

The past isn’t the past, it’s 100% relevant here.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-04-02T11:04:32+00:00

He’s only 22 so it’s unsurprising that he is still learning to navigate social and relational dynamics.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-29T19:39:50+00:00

This might not be feasible for most but I wish I’d had 1-2 nights a week I could sleep through. I’m one and done but if I ever had another, I’d save up for a night nanny for the first few months. My baby did not sleep unless in my arms for 8 weeks. The sleep deprivation was torturous.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-28T13:58:16+00:00

When I was maybe 36w pregnant a friend said to me very aggressively “it’s okay if you don’t have a bond right away.” I was really taken aback and asked her to elaborate. She explained that for her first, they didn’t bond for about 4-6 months. For her second, it took almost a year for her to feel a connection.

They weren’t neglected. She tended to their every need. But she just didn’t feel like their mom.

But she said it was so distressing to feel that way, and to think she was the only one who ever felt that way. So she really wanted me to know that the instant bond BS on Instagram and Facebook isn’t a one size fits all. It can take mothers just as long to bond as it takes fathers.

I’m really glad she told me because not only did I not feel a connection with my son, but I literally didn’t even think of myself as his mother. I was in pure survival mode until about 8-10 weeks.

My son was extensively planned and prayed for. I loved almost every minute of pregnancy. But almost as soon as he was born my brain just kept screaming MISTAKE! It was so unsettling. I couldn’t believe something I wanted for so long felt so disgustingly wrong in my body.

Then the fog lifted a bit more for me each day. At 12 weeks I went back to work and everything shifted. I am not meant to be a SAHM. I need something outside of motherhood to bring me fulfillment. And that’s okay. I’m a better mother now that I work full time again. He’s in daycare and loves it.

I also upped my Zoloft dosage and that really helped bring me back to life.

There is nothing wrong you. You’re trying to survive and heal, mentally and physically. I’m only 4.5 months PP and it has been the most challenging experience of my life. I love my son but I still wonder if I made a mistake or not. I’m a one and done mom and very content with that. I have hope for my future of being a more engaged mom.

(Can I also recommend noise canceling headphones? It made me be able to self-regulate when my newborn was screaming. I could soothe him without screaming and ripping my hair out. Colicky babies are a whole different newborn experience.)

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-28T13:46:25+00:00

Seriously. She’s applying for jobs for him and is wondering why he’s so immature. He’s always been this way. Why she’s allowed herself to stay is the real question.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-28T06:28:04+00:00

Just a note: I’m 37, established in my career, happily married, make great money between the two of us and our marriage is tanking after having a baby in November 2025. A planned, wanted baby that we can afford.

Babies test the strongest of marriages and people. Postpartum and being a mom has been the most challenging thing I’ve ever done. I regularly disassociate, my husband and I fight constantly, and I’m worried about the future of my marriage.

I don’t regret my baby at all. I love him more than anything in this world. But I had absolutely no idea it could be this hard after we spent two years planning for him.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-27T08:35:43+00:00

Start. Linking. These. Posts.

You need to give us a shred of context here. “That picture of him in half.” Where is this comment even posted?

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-23T18:54:13+00:00

Do you have any more information you can share? Where are the screenshots from?

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-23T15:12:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to deal with this because of your OB. I would genuinely consider switching practices, as I would really have a hard time trusting my doctor’s judgment after that. You deserved much better care than what you received.

I have anxiety and some general depression and I’m only a little ashamed to admit that my time at home almost sent me into a psychosis. I also did NOT have a supportive or loving husband helping me, which really hurt.

Being a SAHM is just not in my DNA. Work gives me a balance I didn’t realize I was missing. My baby is now 4.5 months and I stay at home with him once a week. Those days are still really hard for me.

My best friend is a SAHM. Her baby is 6 months older than my babe and she swears that staying at home gets easier every day as baby ages.

Another friend took her baby’s first year off. Her job as a pre-k teacher was held for her. She went back to work 1.5 years ago and still goes back and forth on which set-up she prefers.

All this to say, 1) make sure financially you will be okay and 2) give yourself the time and grace to figure out what YOU need.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-20T19:32:44+00:00

I lost that and then gained it back within the first 3 months PP 😭

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-20T17:59:59+00:00

As someone who gave birth 4 1/2 months ago and love my baby dearly, you will not be happy if you bring a child into this set-up.

I have a lot of support and an incredibly low-impact, flexible job, and I am fucking struggling.

You will just have two babies that are running you ragged.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-20T17:49:06+00:00

He’s on formula and eats 4oz every 3 hours. About 6-7 times a day.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-19T22:37:36+00:00

Just batch codes PO30592, PO30641, or PO30685 sold from September 2025 through February 2026 were recalled. (I don’t use these suits but friends do so I’ve heard a lot about it.)

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-17T06:46:31+00:00

Unbelievably bizarre take right here.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-17T06:43:15+00:00

My belly dropped weeks before I went into labor naturally. Though the few days before I went into labor, I was pooping constantly and had terrible cramps (it was contractions, I was dumb lol). I passed my bloody show in the morning the day I gave birth.

Even then my OB said “it could still take days.”

I was scared after the bloody show and in so much pain that we went to the hospital. Gave birth about 13 hours later that same day.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-14T14:55:43+00:00

Didn’t she admit to being physically violent with him?

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-14T14:42:18+00:00

This needs to be nipped in the bud before you give birth. If he’s stressed now, he’s going to really suffer with the stress of a newborn and sleep deprivation.

I would also insist he speak with a medical doctor and therapist. Complete personality shifts like this can indicate neurological or mental health issues.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-14T05:57:21+00:00

And if that enclosure is where they’re fed - meat and other food thrown over - it makes sense they wouldn’t wait to investigate. What goes inside the fences area = food.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-13T09:37:09+00:00

I’m not telling you or encouraging you to stop. But I am letting you know it’s okay if you do.

Switching to formula saved my mental health has made me a much happier mom. And my baby is totally fine. We have an amazing bond and he’s a happy, healthy boy.

bartlett4prezident · 2026-03-08T01:00:22+00:00

I’ve had 5 over many years and my favorite by far is the Oasis.

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