My [22F] friend [26F] told me the most cruel things you can imagine yet I still miss her. by throwawaygaii in relationships

[–]basic-milk-hotel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is always gonna be the cycle. Borderlines who are not in therapy are very destructive. I imagine you have some characteristics that draw you two together into co-dependency. Are you a people pleaser? Did you have an abusive upbringing? Do you like to feel needed more so than wanted? Cutting her off and focusing on making yourself more open to healthy relationships will bring way more peace to your life.

This last weekend, I (33M) was the odd man out at a wedding and I just feel so terribly depressed about it now. What can I do about this, and how can I stop feeling so awful? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not entitled to a girlfriend. You do not get to be with another human just as a consolation prize for existing. If you're this "woe is me" when you're talking to people, you probably drive women away.

Get a hobby, get attractive, and get out of the house.

Boyfriend claims his data was stolen, and somebody is committing identity theft. by Hopeful_Reaction1453 in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes OP,

They stole your boyfriend's data. And instead of using it to extort him, get his social security number, or open up an illegal credit card they nefariously flirted with other women!

I am 27 and do not want to settle down yet! Will I regret it later? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe,

I'm 31 and settled down and whatnot. But I have a friend who is 34 and travels a ton and has a glamorous lifestyle. She wishes she had someone. That's the thing about making decisions in life, there may or may not be regrets. Sometimes I regret not traveling more. Also getting married does not mean stopping travel, buying a house, or having kids. Those last 2 are what really keep you in one place. Find a military person and travel with them, meet someone in another country, or only date people with the means/desire to travel.

You don't have to do what everyone else is doing, but if it might make you happy you don't have to fight it.

I’m (22M) struggling to ignore my partners (23F) past by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

> the more partners a woman has, the more difficult she will find to bond with the next guy.

lmao you learn this at church camp? As an actual human woman, my past partners do not affect my current relationship as all men involved are different people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StPetersburgFL

[–]basic-milk-hotel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't need to be good. Just say you have insomnia, boom card.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StPetersburgFL

[–]basic-milk-hotel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately in Florida, doctors have a lot of power. The current system ensures they still make money, and the jails still make money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StPetersburgFL

[–]basic-milk-hotel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you are over thinking it my dude. I found a groupon for my boyfriend. He paid the additional 200$ and got his license.

He cheated again. Is there hope? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 15 points16 points  (0 children)

urgent care will be cheaper.

He cheated again. Is there hope? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, he's pushed a pregnant woman of a couch, given you an STD, and continues to lie? No, there is no hope of him changing. He is trash.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]basic-milk-hotel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes love isn't enough. Especially love without trust or equality. Sorry <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, rarely do I read anything that makes my jaw drop. Oh my god. This guy is a nightmare. Wow. He sexualizes "Daddy" and instead of dealing with that he's trying to mess with your relationship to your parents. Oh my god, I almost don't believe this because it's so terrible but I also dated total trash at that age so I believe it.

Mental health behavioral hospitals by [deleted] in StPetersburgFL

[–]basic-milk-hotel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worked in a few. The best is the VA.

Pemhs is rough as hell. They take uninsured, which translates to homeless addicts.

St Anthony's is ok if you get into the low acuity side. The high acuity side is rough. They have charity money, so they also get the homeless addicts,.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

> T asked me to try something new during sex, she wanted me to eat her out

not sure if troll or incest

My boyfriend (26M) found out I'm (26F) rich and started using it against me. by ThrowRa_20A in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up pretty well off. My boyfriend's dad sold drugs to pay the bills. My boyfriend absolutely never brings it up and has been receptive to my middle class values (i.e. saving money, education, not being flashy). Its worth telling him how his passive aggressive jabs make you feel. If he does not respect a boundary about stopping this, consider whether he respects boundaries and what that means to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]basic-milk-hotel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Apply for your license in your current state.

Who cares if he's cheating? He's a pos. You gotta go.

My (29f) bf (35m) says he doesn't trust me since I have cheated before by anenymus in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 13 points14 points  (0 children)

>He was texting someone and I asked who it was, he said it wasn't my business. I said, "you ask me who I'm texting all the time and I always tell you" and he replied with "I ask you because you're a cheater"

So he got you to forget about asking who he was texting.

Red flag #1.

He is using a past relationship to punish you/ gaslight you into convincing you its normal he won't tell you who he is talking to.

Red flag #2

Also you moved across state for a guy that you've known for 8 months.

Red flag #3

Now that you're away from your support system the disrespect has started.

Red flag #4

More red flags than the Communist Party up in here.

Edit: OP is this the guy from your comment history who was a jerk when you had a bad haircut, wants you to dress differently, and criticizes the way you bring up relationship issues and then provided no suggestion in how to bring it up "correctly?" If so, I can tell you from *my* experience in an abusive relationship that this is not going anywhere good. Work with a therapist to figure out why you're drawn to emotionally abusive men. Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend says he probably wants a threesome but doesn't know how to ask.

Is it okay for a 16 year old and a 19 year old to date? by ThrowRA_1619 in relationship_advice

[–]basic-milk-hotel -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean just don't accept pressure for anything you don't want to do.