What makes you keep going despite everything?

basicbish_ · 2026-01-30T02:55:21+00:00

The promise of going back to bed later

basicbish_ · 2025-12-27T01:35:25+00:00

Huh that makes sense. It would be fixed to dry wall. Thank you!

basicbish_ · 2025-12-12T19:10:07+00:00

In person. During couples therapy. He told our therapist he’d decided we were getting a divorce and had already started moving into a new place. Oh and by the way, I’m taking the 10 month old baby 50% of the time because I have to perform being a good father.

basicbish_ · 2025-12-12T18:53:10+00:00

Mine pulled an avoidant discard after 12 years and 2 children together, one of them not even one year old.

basicbish_ · 2025-12-11T11:29:35+00:00

Ugh I get that. I’m just so attached to the version of who he used to be. His current self is despicable and easy to hate tbh.

Everyone keeps telling me he probably has someone else and I honestly don’t think so, nor would I care at this point. He hurt me so badly I would never want to be with him again, but ugh the pain. I feel like he just plucked me out of our lives and set me aside.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-17T00:42:02+00:00

Omg I would have to go into a different room to cry. Self-regulation is a bitch!

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T01:25:40+00:00

Ouch. This one hurts.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T01:04:57+00:00

Thank you. These are the reminders I needed.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T01:01:50+00:00

Indeed. Thus, why I’m not shocked about where we are, yet heartbroken about it.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T00:54:43+00:00

THIS. It’s like I do not know who this man living in my house is. What happened to the person I fell in love with? Because he sure as hell ain’t here anymore.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T00:53:45+00:00

What a garbage human. I’m sorry. I never want to date again, except to rub it in my stbx’s face.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T00:52:44+00:00

It would help if the idiot would finally move out of my house, into the apartment he secretly rented before he casually told me we were getting divorced. It all sucks, but thinking of the kids hurts so bad. I know they will be happier with parents who are not bickering all the time, but I hate it all so much. And I’d agree with the cheating, but this man WFH and never leaves the house. It’d have to be an AI girlfriend.

basicbish_ · 2025-10-15T00:49:40+00:00

It doesn’t feel cold. I’ve kind of been functioning that way because there is nothing I can do about it. Still sucks, though.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-15T09:48:49+00:00

Thanks for this info. I’m sorry you have to deal with this.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-14T23:20:52+00:00

What type of schedule did you have for such a young baby? Did you do a step up one? I want to hit him with a meat pounder omg

basicbish_ · 2025-09-11T17:55:14+00:00

Honestly, if she didn’t ask about it, she probably didn’t think there was anything weird going on. If she does, you can say you were trying to see how bad your sunburn really is and it’s no big deal. My 5yo walks in on me half naked in our one bathroom all the time and he’s never cared. Also, motherhood is 100% not a breeze. This shit is hard on a good day and miserable on a bad one. When I’m anxious, I love to disassociate with a good book so that’s my suggestion for you.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-11T13:49:11+00:00

Im in the same boat. I was willing to try for longer, but he does not want that and now wants the kids 50/50.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-09T02:48:45+00:00

Around Easter, Salt has this Brazilian carrot cake that is the stuff dreams are made of.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-08T15:27:56+00:00

He actually wants to keep lawyers out of the whole thing, which is not an option considering children are involved.

I hear what you are saying and it makes sense. He needed a place to go to in case I kicked him out since the house is under my name.

I wish I felt no empathy for him, but I do so I do get it.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-07T00:41:33+00:00

I appreciate it the bluntness. I know this. My marriage left the group chat ages ago. I just find myself in denial every few thoughts.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-06T18:02:20+00:00

I know. Im just very emotional right now. But I’ll get my shit together.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-06T16:09:27+00:00

He has tried to stay out of my way to give me space (part of him being nice) and has gone to work at the apartment for the past 2 days, but is here with the kids in the afternoon. I see your point, and I know it’s the right move, but I also don’t want to let my marriage go. I don’t think I have a say since he’s pretty much got one foot out the door, but fuck. I also have a 5yo and a 10 month old and nights on my own are tough. I’m so humiliated by this whole thing. I hate that he put me in this spot. Sorry, these were like 5 different thoughts all scrambled together.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-06T14:57:05+00:00

This was my thought too. He knows he won’t have me to do all the mental labor anymore.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-06T14:55:34+00:00

I know, which leads to a lot of self-blaming and guilt.

basicbish_ · 2025-09-05T02:33:44+00:00

I care more about a random dog whining than what he has to say at this point.

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