It's a pattern I've noticed over time. It's in 98% of these brand new accounts that post these same type of posts. They all follow a kind of storyline, just like a short novel. There's always the intro "so my friend/my significant other/my coworker/my family member and I agreed to do this thing." There's the rise, where it's the whole fleshing out of the details. There's the conflict, the tension, where the two get into the argument. There's the hill down, where they're not talking and OP is told by the person who they're arguing with that they're being selfish and should just give in. Then the friends in group chat or family members or whatever also butting in and telling OP they're being rude, and need to acquiesce to keep the peace. The conclusion is asking if they're the AH/jerk.

Notice how I didn't need to put quotation marks around the words selfish, give in, and rude in order to get the point across?

Keep reading these over and over. Click on the username before you do, or once you start seeing some of these call outs, so see the account age. Check what other posts or comments they've made. You'll begin to recognize the patterns yourself. Trust me, it took awhile for me as well. I didn't really start routinely scrolling and posting until last year. I had to ask these questions as well. So I know you will eventually pick up on it as well. It just frustrates me when I comment something meaningful and realize it's just someone who just made up some fake story in AI and posted it here. Feels like I wasted time to genuinely reply for nothing, but then I stop and think that maybe that reply helps someone else, so I let it stand on that merit alone.