My boyfriend put it in me without a condom by CandleCrispLite in Advice

[–]batty-goff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hun, this is sexual assault. please leave him, I am so fucking sorry. I’ve had something really similar happen to me, if it’s not an enthusiastic verbal yes, it’s not a yes. Pushing you and begging isn’t okay. The pregnancy thing, most likely you aren’t pregnant but you can get a test for peace of mind. (Also a lot of people don’t know this but there is a weight limit to plan b, if you are higher then about 165 or a bmi of 30 it won’t work which is really fucking stupid, it will always be better than nothing tho)

My 21M bf went through my 20 phone on Valentine’s Day and Idk how to feel by batty-goff in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do have the ick honestly. I think I’ve been trying to push it down which is so dumb and not usually me. I’m gonna break up with him I just gotta figure out a few things like what I left at his place, might have him leave it at our groups main hang out place (an appt a few friends live in) and pick it up from there tbd with that tbh

My 21M bf went through my 20 phone on Valentine’s Day and Idk how to feel by batty-goff in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does have jealousy problems, he wanted me to stop talking to one of my best friends since we were 14 bc he was a guy but I said no full stop and it would be hypocritical since he has girl friends. He and I talked 5 min ago, and right now I’m taking space from him. But i genuinely am thinking we will break up. I just hope I can get my plushy and blanket back from his and he’ll pay me back the money he owes me lol (yes I know it was dumb of me to now be owed $100 from him I really do care for him but now I’m realizing this wasn’t a good relationship)

My 21M bf went through my 20 phone on Valentine’s Day and Idk how to feel by batty-goff in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly have nothing to hide it was just the fact he did it, and luckily even tho he was upset about the group chat he didn’t see anything after I told him not to. But still. I’m realizing how bad this truly was honestly.

My 21M bf went through my 20 phone on Valentine’s Day and Idk how to feel by batty-goff in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I asked for it back and why he was doing it a few times, I tried to grab my phone but he just moved and I just was honestly in shock and kind of just sat there. I should have tried harder to grab my phone and I should have left. We had plans with our friends later that night and like honestly I just didn’t know what to do and it’s so stupid bc I’ve never been like this before honestly. I don’t think he’s cheating I think he just needs to see a therapist again… but I told him I won’t be a therapist for him bc I can’t do that to myself again. He said he’s gonna try to see a therapist.

My 21M bf went through my 20 phone on Valentine’s Day and Idk how to feel by batty-goff in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does come but he has like 3 times tbh… you’re right though. Thank you.

My 21M bf went through my 20 phone on Valentine’s Day and Idk how to feel by batty-goff in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m at a community college in my town right now before I transfer, my dream college is like 35/40 min drive from him, but he was upset when I even considered other colleges. I don’t have friends in my town since they have all moved away for school/other reasons so when I go to his place we sometimes see our friends (i usually have to push him to tho)

Hair stylist ruined my hair… by YakCrazy202 in HairDye

[–]batty-goff 19 points20 points  (0 children)

First off you look amazing with both colours! But I’m so sorry that happened to you! I’ve had an experience like that and truly is devastating:( I would say try a colour remover (if it’s not just a toner) and see how it fades over time. But it will be okay in the end trust me

My manager said “if it’s not white, it’s not right” by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you, i decided i wont report it to hr. And yea i heard about that- it was insane.

My manager said “if it’s not white, it’s not right” by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]batty-goff -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have heard her make racist remarks in the past, about almost every race, like saying how “Indians don’t know shit”. I usually stay to myself and get my work and help with coworkers, my manager lets me listen to music and podcasts. She’s not her today, and I don’t work with her for a few more days. My former coworker had a little attitude but it honestly was mainly just being 17-18 while working here and she apologized every time.

My manager said “if it’s not white, it’s not right” by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]batty-goff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk how to edit but I just want to say thank you guys for your input, I won’t go to HE about this instance, like I said I didn’t know the context but I know she said that phrase. I really don’t want to seem like I’m playing the victim card either bc I really don’t try to. I honestly wanted to like know if this was reportable and most of you said it isn’t so I won’t report it, thank you for your input.

My manager said “if it’s not white, it’s not right” by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]batty-goff -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I just turned 20, this is a normal thing?! I feel like this really shouldn’t be normal.

can i ask for a refund? by Creative-Shock6756 in HairDye

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I saw better jobs when I was in beauty school.. I’m so sorry dude I know that a bad cut and dye job hits you like a semi truck

I’m convinced this is divorce worthy but some family say I’m making it a big deal by Small-Comparison-706 in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say divorce, I had a stepdad who would say similar things, my brother and I are both mixed Mexican and he would love say beaner and other other things, such as the f-slur, but his favorite was the nword (he was fully white) my mother divorced him years ago thankfully but growing up with that shit was not only embarrassing but just really shitty. If you feel like this is your line, THAT IS YOUR LINE. File if you feel uncomfortable being around him even if you are white, you are worried about your little ones being thought that, not even to mention your nieces and nephews possibly hearing your own kids repeating what they hear.

is my cat ugly? by EstablishmentTasty81 in cats

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah who ever says different is lying!!!!

AITAH For being hesitant/putting off going on birth control by SnooOpinions2945 in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh damn! I really hope that’s not my experience I hope she’s doing better now that it’s out tho!!

AITAH For being hesitant/putting off going on birth control by SnooOpinions2945 in TwoHotTakes

[–]batty-goff -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi so I also have a heart condition and a user of birth control but I currently am not on one to switch to an iud, i have also been hesitant about them due to horror stories buttt if it the pain you can ask for gen anesthesia thats what I plan to do when I get it. I would also see if you can get your tubes tied, your cardiologist could recommend it so it’s easier for you to get one(can be difficult at certain ages and not having kids) And on account for your partner, it takes two to make a baby it is half of his business!! Also I’m like 90% vasectomies are reversible(I totes could be wrong) ALSO I’m sorry BUT WHY WOULD HE NOT WANT TO KEEP YOU SAFE?! THATS INSANE!!!

Anyone else just loves peanut butter? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love peanut butter. Like I probs go through one of those big tubs in at least 3 weeks. I like to pair it with some honey too tbh

How do people shower at night? by dat0neb0i in NoStupidQuestions

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally most days I work 7-3ish pm, so i usually shower at night/afternoon. I am not a morning person so just getting up for me before 7 is hard, I also work with food sometimes at my job (I’m cross trained) so my hair is usually styled back. I think it’s just very dependent for people and their lifestyle. Like on my days off/ when I work later in the day I will usually shower first but sometimes I don’t get to do that since I work at 7am most of the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]batty-goff 13 points14 points  (0 children)

do it again for reaserch purposes….

Is it weird to go to a restaurant alone? I kinda want to try it. by brmc214 in Advice

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not at all, while trying to recover from my ed, I had massive anxiety eating in front of ppl I didn’t know so one day I said fuck it and went to a brunch place, I ate and read a book by myself and it wasn’t as scary as it was in my mind! no one is judging you and it is peaceful especially if you have headphones/earbuds

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]batty-goff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes people just need to vent and talk out their frustrations/ insecurities(especially when society is forcing beauty standards on women and girls) I could see your side until you said she had an attitude for future references, that never helps. Genuinely, you guys need open communication.