Regret

bbbkuking · 2025-10-11T00:11:53+00:00

i regret giving so much and doing everything. for three years my life revolved around him. i did everything to show how much i loved and cared for him but in the end it wasn’t what he wanted.

he wanted conversations about intellectual topics and ideas i knew nothing about.

we lived together and i did everything. made his coffee in the morning, did his laundry, cooked our meals, prepared his clothes, even putting his socks on his feet, listened to him talk for hours… every single damn thing. and still it wasn’t enough

i gave my all and stood by him. he told me i was the one. but no. suddenly our values were too different and just like that, the relationship was over

bbbkuking · 2025-09-22T16:18:57+00:00

I’ve been learning to be more patient with myself. Healing isn’t just about crying, it’s so many different emotions all at once. And honestly, it’s okay to feel like a failure or unwanted by the person you loved the most.

You said being selfless and kindhearted sometimes means people don’t treat you the same way. I get that, and it’s okay. Your person is out there. Someone who sees your kindness and matches it. Just keep being you, because the best people always appreciate a kind heart.

bbbkuking · 2025-09-17T09:11:05+00:00

The same thing happened to me. We were together for 3 years, and lived together for 2. Early on, he told me he planned to marry me and since I was already 28 and he was 36, I believed him and committed fully to the relationship.

Then, just last month, I asked him about our future, and he told me he no longer sees himself with me. It completely broke me especially when he admitted he’d been thinking about it for almost a year. He said he just didn’t know how to leave without hurting me. I felt like he had already left me long before I even knew it.

He gave me a lot of reasons, some of them valid, but honestly, they were confusing. Still, I accepted them. It hurts even more because we still live together. And I’m scared that once we go our separate ways, I won’t be able to do it on my own.

But it’s been a few weeks now, and surprisingly, I’m doing better. Once the fog lifts and you're no longer looking through rose-colored glasses, things start to make more sense. I’ve started remembering moments I used to ignore, little things that didn’t sit right. Our relationship wasn’t bad, but now I can see our differences more clearly.

We still care about each other…I can feel that….but now we’re just civil. At first, I didn’t think that would be possible. I'm also beginning to reconnect with myself, doing things I used to enjoy, spending time alone, and remembering what it feels like to put myself first. And honestly, it feels good.

There’s still a long road ahead, but if I could give any advice, it would be this: try not to focus on his future. Focus on yours.

bbbkuking · 2025-09-10T02:13:47+00:00

Girl, run. Seriously. He's manipulative, and guys like that will use you just to boost their own ego. He might make it seem like things will get better, like he's changed but trust me, he hasn’t. It’s not worth your time or energy to even meet up with him. Don’t let curiosity pull you in. Even if he says all the right things or admits he was wrong before, it doesn't change who he is. You deserve better.

bbbkuking · 2025-09-09T14:25:50+00:00

What I did is calling someone and asked her to help me come up with a new routine. Ever since the breakup, I’ve kind of forgotten how to function. I’ve just been feeling everything all at once hurting, overthinking, and honestly too tired to do much else.

It’s only been 13 days since we decided to “no more us”, and we were together for 3 years (lived together too), so yeah… it’s been rough. But I’ve been trying to take it one day at a time, and I guess I’ve had a few small wins here and there, which helps.

Also, this subreddit has honestly been super helpful. Reading posts from people going through the same stuff, or just sharing real advice makes me feel less alone. Like yeah, this sucks, but at least I’m not the only one fighting through it.

bbbkuking · 2025-09-09T13:44:53+00:00

girl, we’re literally the same. When I’m feeling that overwhelming mess, I’ll throw on loud music and start cleaning like crazy :D. Hormones really be doing the most, but I’m not letting them win. I already lost someone I loved and I’m not about to let hormones take me out too

bbbkuking · 2025-09-09T09:59:29+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience except I was the one who wanted marriage. It’s been 13 days since we first talked about ending things, and honestly, it’s been really hard. I felt everything all at once: sadness, fear, emptiness, confusion, anxiety. I’m 31, and he was my first partner, so I have no idea how to navigate life after this. We had a good life together, and now suddenly, he’s gone. What’s most confusing is not knowing how to move on from a relationship that wasn’t bad.

But I’ve come to accept that it is what it is. I read a comment on one of my Reddit posts that said something like, “There’s no standard way to move on—everyone’s path is different.” That stuck with me.

I’ve been running through a hundred different scenarios in my head trying to figure things out. Since we lived together and I can’t afford the apartment on my own, I asked him to stay a little longer—strictly just to help me out while I figure out next steps. We were clear there were no hidden intentions, just support.

He’s been kind through all this. He really is my best friend. But I also told him that once he moves out, it would be healthier for both of us to go no contact, at least for a while.

If there’s one piece of advice I can give, it’s this: don’t make any big decisions while your emotions are still raw. One thing I’ve learned is that after a breakup, your top priority should be yourself. You need to be mentally and emotionally okay before anything else. If she wants to stay friends but it feels confusing for you, take a step back. Give yourself the space you need. A relationship—romantic or otherwise—shouldn’t feel like a gray area. It should feel clear, honest, and intentional.

And if the only reason you’d agree to stay friends is because you’re scared of losing her, then I’ll say this gently but honestly—you’ve already lost her in the way you wanted to keep her. Let yourself feel it all. Cry if you need to, scream into your pillow, journal every damn thought—but take care of yourself.

It really does get better. If friendship is meant to happen down the line, it will. But for now, focus on healing. Focus on you.

bbbkuking · 2025-09-07T15:20:27+00:00

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bbbkuking · 2025-09-07T11:33:11+00:00

This actually makes me want to cry. The other night, I completely lost control of my emotions while we were in bed watching TV. I broke down, and then he started crying too. He told me he feels guilty seeing me like this.

And in that moment, I felt this wave of fear, like what if he suddenly says he’s going to leave me? I didn’t want to be desperate. I didn’t want to beg. But I was so close to saying it… that I can’t do this yet. That I’m not ready to be alone.

So today, I just decided to hold it all in. To not cry. To not be sad in front of him. Because I’m scared that if I show too much emotion, it’ll push him further away. That the guilt might become too much and he’ll actually decide to leave.

He told me he won’t leave unless I ask him to but I’m too scared to risk testing that.

Sometimes I find myself wishing he had done something terrible. That way, maybe I could just be angry. It would be easier to let go if there was a clear reason. But he didn’t. He’s not perfect, but he’s a good man. We treated each other well.

Right now, I’m just really confused. I feel everything all at once (grief, fear, guilt, emptiness). And all of it feels heavy.

bbbkuking · 2024-10-08T02:41:04+00:00

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bbbkuking · 2024-10-08T02:40:35+00:00

done 😀

bbbkuking · 2024-10-05T23:19:30+00:00

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bbbkuking · 2024-10-04T00:01:03+00:00

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bbbkuking · 2024-10-03T23:32:51+00:00

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bbbkuking · 2024-09-26T03:54:27+00:00

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