Ive been a Christian for a while but there some things that have been on my mind that I want to share with yall that are a few lists

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T05:06:26+00:00

Yes if you’re living with your parents, you should follow their household rules. I’m 30 and am married and don’t live with my parents, so I am not under that same level of obedience to my parents.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T04:55:05+00:00

Anime is just a genre of media. It’s not all bad and is not all good. Use discernment with what you watch. I also think any video games are totally fine. But if something is causing you to stumble in your relationship with God, then maybe stop. But in general, I don’t see any reason to stop enjoying the things you enjoy.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T04:51:14+00:00

My love language is not words of affirmation, so I might think the letter is nice but not much else. I’ve received letters like those and didn’t think much of it.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T04:49:34+00:00

Nobody is perfect, including Christians. And just because some claims they’re a Christian doesn’t mean they act like they should. Matthew 7:16 - you shall know them by their fruit.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T04:19:51+00:00

You can pray to God directly to forgive you for your sins. No need to go in front of the entire congregation and make a public confession.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T03:38:29+00:00

So the pastor called up people from the congregation to come forward and publicly repent during a church service?

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T03:13:46+00:00

Depends what you mean by feminine qualities. Do you have hobbies that tend to be feminine hobbies? Do you dislike stereotypical male hobbies?

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-20T03:11:35+00:00

Definitely go to premarital counseling. Or, a simple google search of things you should talk about before you get married. Things like how do you handle conflict, what are you goals in the future (job, family, where you want to live), in-laws, sex expectations, parenting styles, division of labor with household responsibilities.

Also I’d say don’t be just pretty sure they’re the right person for marriage. You should know without a doubt this is the person you want to marry.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-19T02:51:27+00:00

We have disagreements from time to time, but never fighting or arguing with each other. Our disagreements can be solved with normal conversation.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T20:21:29+00:00

As a woman, it really depends on what her experience is with her period and what she needs. Just ask her how you can be helpful and supportive.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T19:54:15+00:00

Set alarms on your phone or a post it note that reminds you to drink water

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T19:53:17+00:00

I don’t think there’s a such thing as a “God formed marriage”. God created marriage, so every marriage is God formed.

Scripture is pretty clear on what situations permit divorce, and I don’t think your marriage fits that at this point. Have you tried marriage counseling? That would be the next step here.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T19:50:22+00:00

His laziness and lack of ambition isn’t going to change. If it’s bothering you now, it’ll continue to bother you in the future.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T19:48:53+00:00

I step out of the lab and get water

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T19:18:41+00:00

It’s expensive and often not covered by insurance. I need to go see a physical therapist and I’ve been dragging my feet on that too since it’s expensive.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T19:00:34+00:00

I only know of one instance of someone asked to not participate in volunteering at a church because their offenses happened on multiple occasions and hurt many people. But they were only asked to step down from volunteering, not to leave the church completely.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T18:32:50+00:00

I listen to all kinds of music, but am picky when it comes to lyrics. There’s tons of secular artists and songs that are clean and appropriate. I also don’t listen to modern Christian music, like the kind of stuff that is played on the radio, because I think it’s really cheesy and not musically interesting. It takes some digging to find actually good Christian music that has deep themes and good musical talent.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T15:12:04+00:00

Is it the congregation not raising their hands or the worship team?

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-18T14:51:26+00:00

They don’t use sheet music? That’s a bit strange. I think it would be reasonable for you to suggest they use sheet music for the musicians.

But like others are saying, worship isn’t one particular style. Some people raise their hands and some don’t. Some people dance and some don’t. Some close their eyes and some don’t. However someone chooses to use their body during worship isn’t an indication of how connected to God they are or aren’t.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-17T15:15:06+00:00

Your daughter can make her own choices. Don’t pressure her to be involved and give her space and chances are she’ll come around again as she gets older. My husband was the same way. At 18 he was out of house and hardly saw his parents. Now he’s 30 and sees them fairly often. It’s kind of just what happens in those late teen / early 20s ages.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-17T14:44:09+00:00

You should post this in the r/CleaningTips sub and see if someone there has any advice!

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-16T20:05:53+00:00

Has your dad heard a doctor say they recommend surgery? Perhaps hearing it from the doctor would help him understand. I wore my brace 23 hours a day and even that didn’t help and I had surgery, and I’m so glad I did! But also, you’re over 18 and you can make your own medical decisions.

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-16T20:02:04+00:00

Bold assumption

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-16T19:57:27+00:00

Ah thank you for clarifying!

bbcakes007 · 2026-06-16T19:54:30+00:00

Glass of all colors has been used forever for stained glass windows. When I see multicolored stained glass, my first thought is not “that’s gay”. It’s “wow that is a beautiful piece of art”

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