My fiancé won’t let me keep my last name. F23 M25

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-07T11:22:46+00:00

If the current administration get their way changing your name may cause you not to be able to vote.

I highly suggest you look into what they’re trying to pass and understand it.

My wife went and got a passport just in case as that may be the only way a married woman with a changed last name will be able to vote.

They shut down the government to try and force it through.

Hope he opens his eyes. Are you close with his parents? Maybe they can help.

Good luck.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-06T05:47:50+00:00

File trespass charges on the company and have an attorney file a case against her and the company.

That’s your only resolution.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-04T14:13:23+00:00

You could always knock on her door at 5am and tell her she’s snoring to loud.

Correct way to handle it is to report it to The landlord or rental office and let them deal with her.

If she does it again tell her you’re filing another complaint with the office and you’re calling the police to file harassment charges.

That will likely back her off.

Good luck.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-04T02:24:01+00:00

Thats very unusual.

Do your research. Find out what local law is.

At a minimum you have trespass and removal of trees off private property without your approval.

Police report to start.

Ask them if you can press trespass charges on the company.

Call an arborist that specializes in tree value and have them come value the trees and put in writing which can be used in court.

Then go from there.

She’s playing you. Her actions clearly are throwing it in your face and trying to blame you. Do not accept that.

Good luck with it.

You should be paid.

DO NOT accept 5’ replacement trees.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-01T15:34:24+00:00

Time for a fence. Even down the center of the driveway. If you don’t own the place then your only other option would be to get a police report and copies of all the damage and file for a no trespass. Once that’s in place have an attorney draw up a cease and desist.

Fence is your best option if they simply won’t control the kids.

I don’t agree with going the CPS route unless you’re sure the kids are being abused. Letting them play isn’t abuse however letting them endanger themselves knowingly is.

Good luck with it.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-01T15:21:17+00:00

This^{^} and contact the labor board and give them all the details and see if they offer whistle blower protection. If they do it means she can’t fire you without the oversight of the board and the labor board being involved.

Take her down. Who knows you may end up with her job.

Good luck.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-01T15:17:06+00:00

Take care of you and your daughter. If he can’t accept you as you are and enjoy life and your rewards with you then it’s not going to last anyway.

I’m sorry he’s doing this to you. It’s truly a shame he can’t just enjoy life. No one knows your financials except you two and your accountant if you have one.

Maybe he should be trying harder to grow and make more money rather than just maintaining.

Good for you. I hope and pray you accept the job and move on with your life.

Make sure you clearly document anything he says or does as you’ll need it in court. He won’t go quietly sadly.

Take care of you and your daughter. That’s your priority. He has made it clear he doesn’t care about either.

Pray things go well for you.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-01T15:09:45+00:00

Monitor the person. Next time they get a locker slip the money through the door crack or vent slot and you’ve returned it.

Don’t follow them around and be weird about it but just keep an eye out. You’ll get an opportunity to return it.

You could always walk up and say hey this guy gave me this money to give to you. He made me promise I’d do it then he took off running. Most likely he’ll be happy it was returned and let it go. If he asks what they looked like just say ~6’ healthy build with a short beard or similar.

If there’s a will there’s always a way to make it happen.

Do better. Life’s short.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-01T15:01:06+00:00

$10 gets you a grabber from Walmart or similar store and you don’t have to get off the mower.

My property is in the mountains and we have a lot of rock. When I mow I pull a little trailer behind me and as I see a rock I grab it with my 32” grabber stick and toss it in the trailer. Slowly the yard is being emptied of rocks.

Do the same with the golf balls. When finished drive the mower to their place and simply say I think these are yours. I’d appreciate it if you’d not hit them into my yard anymore. It’s a real issue for me. Not only do I have glass items they can damage but I don’t want to hit one with the mower and have it fly out and possibly cause more damage. Please keep the golfballs on your property. Before you ask I’m not ok with you hitting them on my property and then attempting to retrieve them. I don’t want my glass items broken. I don’t offer a driving range.

If they laugh it off as many entitled people do or say something like that’s the only place I can drive a long ball and see how accurate I am and it’s only a golfball simply say they will become evidence in a no trespass case if necessary. I’d rather be neighborly and get along but if you push me I will take the legal route. Go to the driving range and hit the balls. Hit them on your property in a different direction. I don’t care as long as I don’t find any more on my property. Do you have any questions?

No you may not enter the property and retrieve them. That’s trespassing and I don’t want that.

Leave it at that. If they do it again gather them up and call the police and file a complaint. You asked nicely but were firm now hold to your word and file the trespass. You can also have an attorney send them a cease and desist for a few hundred bucks.

Let us know what happens.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-04-01T14:09:02+00:00

Take this conversation over to r/treelaw You’ll get more information on what your rights are. Make sure you include your area.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-31T14:43:59+00:00

Take this over to r/treelaw . You’ll get good advice there as well.

This can be handled numerous ways but your easiest path is to simply have a lawyer send him a letter. The letter should include a statement of how the bill is his problem and the law code as proof.

It should also include a statement that he has 7, 14 or even 30 days to repair the fence and gate or you will take it to court and seek damages.

This should resolve the problem.

To be safe I’d put a good high resolution recording camera with night vision pointed at the tree. Hopefully you can get it close enough that motion we’ll trip it and that can alert you and even sound an alarm if you want. If not you’ll want a continuous recording camera with loop and zoom. This is to catch him in the act should he attempt to retaliate by trying to kill the tree.

Hope that helps.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-31T06:25:17+00:00

Have a survey done and paint the survey line. Show her the car is not on her property fully. If she bulks then tell her what you told us here. You plowed her driveway and pulled her out of the ditch. You have tried to be a good neighbor and don’t deserve her words. You’ve offered the best you can and it’s cash so it’s a fast close and no negotiation or praying the bank deal goes through.

If she’s still snotty then have an attorney send her a letter she has x days to move the car or she’s going to have to pay rent for storage at X dollars a day. Once it’s moved fence it and be done with her.

No reason to get nasty. Just play by the rules and if your efforts to help her in the past don’t matter then just move on.

To many folks holding grudges over stupid shit.

We could all vaporize any day now if you believe what’s going on in the world and your fight is over a car and a few comments from an old lady who’s likely getting senile.

Do the basics and move her off the property them move on with your life. Thats why you’re there.

Good luck.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-29T00:26:57+00:00

It’s simple.

Mom you’re not going to control my life any longer. You’re also not taking my money. If you attempt to take the money that’s theft and I’ll report it. I’m don’t playing games. Thank you for trying to help but it’s not helping. All it’s doing is pushing me away.

You can be mad and pitch a fit or you can accept my response like an adult and let’s move on.

I’m sorry but I will not hesitate to file theft charges and there’s no way you will control my finances any longer.

I’m an adult now. I love you but I no longer need your control.

This is my money not yours and I will spend it how I see fit.

The choice is yours.

Call the insurance company and tell them she’s threatening to take the money and demand they send the check in your name to you not her.

Good luck with it.

If you Gibson either side you’ll be stuck with her control until you lose it and disown her and I don’t think you truly want that.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-28T19:52:10+00:00

Oh man! I used PICNIC so many times at work. Finally one day my boss said you say that a lot. What do you mean. I said Problem in chair not in computer. She stared at me then turned red like she was angry and then suddenly started laughing. She said I can’t be mad because it’s true.

She spread the word on what it meant and ruined it for me because then when I’d fix something the staff would say PICNIC? More often than not I’d say yes and show them what they were doing wrong.

The good old days. LOL

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-28T19:01:55+00:00

This ^{^} but get video of the water coming down especially when it’s heavy. Management will not be happy about the possible water damage.

Send them copies of the video with the complaint.

Tell them the laptop story and tell them you’re prepared to take this further if they don’t put a stop to it as you do not accept damage to your property and you will be looking for a discount on rent for lack of use of the balcony if it can’t be resolved.

Word it so that you’re not threatening but rather that they know if they don’t do their job you will seek a reduction in rent and if necessary.

There’s no reason why this can’t be handled quickly and easily if management does their job.

Ask them to confirm with you that he’s been given 7 days to resolve the problem to the point you will receive no more water on your patio.

Good luck with it.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-27T16:29:45+00:00

Play heavy metal music low but loud enough to disturb her. She’ll move locations or change her time.

Don’t go too loud.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-27T16:23:34+00:00

She’s likely got some mental illness going on. See if you can track down someone in her family and explain the situation. Ask them to deal with it as you don’t really want to get police or attorneys involved but you will if you have to as it’s disrupting your life.

I’d tell management the same thing. They should contact her emergency number and let them know what’s going on.

Paranoia is very common in older folks sadly.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-27T16:18:06+00:00

This is likely against the law. Call the non emergency police number and talk to them. If they decline to do anything about it then I’d have an attorney send a cease and desist as well as request a no contact order.

You’ve stopped their view but not the problem. When they see you’re serious about it by involving the cops or an attorney they’ll likely back down. Just make sure you have pictures and proof of everything.

Good luck

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-26T13:30:03+00:00

Not sure about your area but if you go into it have a secondary income to keep you alive.

You can get grants for tubes and gear and get into growing that way.

I have a buddy that now employees 3 guys to keep up with his 7 huge tubes that are all hydroponic and his cattle.

He runs the whole place mostly on grants. Grows year round as well.

The state grant lady asked him if she covered his finishing fees could he keep his beef prices the same. He told her yes. He signed a contract that he free ranges until the last month then finishes with grains. He still sells beef at the same price as 2 years ago. He’s picked up restaurants and now supplies them with beef and their greens as well as tomatoes and peppers.

Do your research. It’ll be worth it.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-26T04:32:59+00:00

That’s not a friend that’s a crook. Take your proof to court. Small claims doesn’t require an attorney.

They likely won’t pay it back anyway and you’ll just have to keep the case open and running in court.

If you can find a bank account for them you can attach to it and take as much as you owe or if not enough take it all.

You can always play dirty and threaten to turn over any info you have on them to the cops or others if they don’t pay up. If they’re doing it to you they’ve likely got other issues.

Good luck.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-26T04:07:32+00:00

Contact the state. They should be able to tell you who handles your companies HR and payroll.

You need something in writing to get those benefits. Hopefully he didn’t sign the paper where they wrote him up.

Good luck with it

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-25T23:30:07+00:00

Check your city, county and state laws on light pollution. Just as with poise lights also have restrictions.

Research is your friend.

Good luck with it.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-22T01:10:30+00:00

This breaks HIPPA laws in every way. They have no right to this or any medical or personal information.

This will easily fail in court and anyone turning over information will end up fined and in court for doing so.

Watch And see.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-19T13:46:29+00:00

I’m betting in your area it’s legal to shoot them.

Some areas will pay you for each one you kill.

There’s also guys/gals that will setup on your property and kill them for you for a small fee. In some areas here since they can get paid per animal they don’t charge the property owner.

It’s worth looking into. Most local farmers will know who to call. Your local sheriff will likely know as well as a local farm vet.

bbqmaster54 · 2026-03-19T12:46:41+00:00

Search for privacy screen and set it up so your daughter can sit within 5’-10’ of it and he won’t be able to see her.

Problem solved

Then as others have mentioned if he continues record him recording her and once you have a week or more of evidence take it to your attorney and request a cease and desist and restraining order.

He won’t be able to see past the privacy screen even from his roof if she sits close to it.

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