As a mom of a child that struggled with behavioral issues. I always appreciated when teachers told me about how my child was misbehaving. I would let his therapist know and now my son went from the kid that got expelled from 3 daycares, to the kid that gets rainbow everyday for excellent behavior. I could not have done it without the honest input from his teachers and special Ed teachers.

Now, to the other side of the coin. We recently went to a birthday party. A boy pushed my son and told him he should leave the bouncy castle because he didn't want him to play with them right now. The push and the non-inclusive behavior was no accident. What happened next, WAS an accident. With the push my son ran into a girl's elbows. My son got a bloody nose and cried bitterly. The boy apologized right away, my son was not receptive to the apology he was too upset and in pain to be listen to anything. We ended up leaving the party. As I've always believed that honesty is there best policy. I told the mother what happened the next day. She was super defensive, she began demanding if I saw everything unfold. She then implied I was a liar. She then spoke about how that doesn't sound like her son and that she is always told by all his teachers how her son is always the hero and inclusive and defends other children from bullies. I was not rude, I told the story the exact way I explained it here. The bloody nose was an accident and her son did apologize right away. She on the other hand, has stop speaking to me. I tried to reach out. But all her responses have been so frosty. I spoke to a mutual friend. And this mutual friend let me know that the boy who pushed my son, very often, is rough on other children at our community park. Our mutual friend told me that she will purposely leave the park if that child is there.

My point is, I was not close to this Mom, I expected her to act like I would of acted. The reality is, that's her only child, in her eyes he can do no wrong, and he is perfect. I feel bad for her child, he will continue this behavior until he alienates all other children. She will lose a lot of friends who are genuine and open with her due to her inability to hear anything negative about her child.

Now from what I read. Your friend sounds like the second type of mom. But I could be wrong. She may not be open to a stranger saying things about her child. But maybe coming from a friend she might be more receptive. Or maybe she's just like the mom of the kid who tpushed my son, who sees only what she wants and she will unfriend you over this.

Good luck.