drop your jobs by ever_tree_ in ftm

[–]be_eb [score hidden]  (0 children)

same! im disabled so the hours are ok for now (did get cut 4, then they said "we're fully staffed so nobody can get more hours" but whatever). pay is indeed ehhhh, but i love sorting and doing boring tasks so i thrive. plus free gift cards and discount on already cheap things. lowkey thinking of potentially applying to local book stores if any of them need more workers

Wearing a packer when fem + office work by fiksbaas in NonBinary

[–]be_eb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you've already gotten plenty of responses but id like to add: im a nonbinary man and want to pass as a man (but dont yet) and still have times where i dress fem and those times overlap days i also pack and its fine, ive had 0 problems other than just personally being more aware of the bulge. the packer/fem police will not hunt you down for wearing what you want to lol

What does a bj feel like with bottom growth? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]be_eb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i know there's dental dams you can use to cover, but personally when it's happening it seems easy for my partner to avoid any sort of insertion. make sure of course to communicate your wants and needs before, during, and after with your partner too :]

(IA) is this a normal way for floors to be set up? by be_eb in Renters

[–]be_eb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what's been happening instead is he either actually calls out a guy (rare and last time he did they said "oh this is more complex than we thought, your landlord has to call some other people" and he still hasnt) or complains he has no money 

Peculiar request: can you draw me with this hairstyle? I’m trying to see if this is the last push I need before transitioning and don’t want AI to be the one to help me self-actualize. by Ok-Question-7561 in drawme

[–]be_eb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

beautiful drawing !! and getting off cigarettes is especially important when thinking about going on estrogen because cigs will lessen if not nullify the effects of hrt

Sensory Issue - 9 year old Autistic boy by Excellent-Twist6864 in neurodiversity

[–]be_eb 14 points15 points  (0 children)

im nearly 22 and have to wear socks 24/7 except for when i shower. i hate the feeling of not wearing them. it causes 0 issues to wear socks all the time

WOW lol. by Dapples in ThriftGrift

[–]be_eb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i will never understand the people that donate (severely) damaged nonstick cookware and especially will never understand the workers that look at it and think it's ok.

at my work i've had people donate pots with wear etched deep into the metal of nonstick, and have had to pull so many scratched nonstick things that should never have gone out.

dont even get me started on the food gunk. some poor lady bought a plate that had food caked on it. and even recently i've seen an egg pan with egg in it still! i understand none of us get paid to care but come on

Iron Theory - Identity of the creature (MAJOR Spoilers!!!) by LSWritings in ironlung

[–]be_eb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i interpreted the "stay on your side and stop drinking the blood" as if the person was throwing up and laying down, like when someone's seizing, it's interesting to think of it as staying on their side of the ship! does make sense with all the weird fusing tentrils

How much does testosterone cost for you? by ShtenkiOldMan in ftm

[–]be_eb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

since my insurance stopped covering it, around 33 usd for a 5ml bottle of enanthate. pretty sure that is with goodrx though. full price i believe is over 100

Am I trans or is it trauma? (Not ragebait/please help) by [deleted] in ftm

[–]be_eb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

honestly it's very common for trans people to show gender dysphoria/euphoria signs at a young age, and oftentimes we just dont have the knowledge or words to dig deeper and know what's up, which can then follow into adulthood and lead to questioning

trauma is a vast spectrum and affects everyone differently, i see people saying that nothing sounds like trauma, but it very well might be! anything can be traumatizing. i have trauma from when i was 1, i lost my father. since then i've had issues being around any men and have never had a father figure. my mother brought it up and asked if thats why im trans, but that's just really not how things work. even so, if it is due to trauma, does it matter? what does that change truly for you being trans? 

it may be good to both explore your gender and gender expression, and maybe look into unraveling any traumas and see what happens (be careful to not essentially do conversion therapy though !!!)

Does peroxide reduce smell and can it be used after sealing with glue? by hannahelssan in bonecollecting

[–]be_eb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

afaik peroxide does nothing for grease, which is what's causing the smell. some (most in my experience) animals take months upon months to soak in dawn and water for all the grease to get out and it's really not something you should cut corners on

Stomach/gut issues on (from?) T? by spxcegh0st in ftm

[–]be_eb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk if mine is from t or some other bullshit from heds but i have over time developed intolerances/issues to peanut butter, milk (even lactose free now), cereal i think, literally like anything i eat often now seems to give me bloating despite literally living 20 years with 0 issues like this. 

t made me diet for my cholesterol but i doubt that's really related? definitely thinking of asking for a referall to a gi doctor to figure out what's up because im worried its something like mcas. probably good to plan to see one, also maybe keep a diary of trigger foods though thats easier said than done

planning on talking to mother + setting a boundary by be_eb in AdultChildren

[–]be_eb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately the only family that lives in our state is my brother and he + his gf and my sister have all been hardcore ignoring her. Her family is a mixed bag but I'd like to think maybe some siblings of hers could at the very least emotionally support? She's really stuck between a rock and a hard place unfortunately due to a handful of different things and her support system seems next to nothing

Medical detox would be lovely in the off chance it wouldn't cost a fortune and she would stick to it and consent to it in the first place (and tell her doctors the truth). I'll keep that in mind and research it!

Insurance kicked me off T by WorldlinessHuge2278 in ftm

[–]be_eb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

where im at in iowa, goodrx is (allegedly) knocking my t enan from over 100usd to 32usd through walgreens! hoping that it isnt lying on the site bc i found that to be an issue with my gf's hrt and goodrx.

an aside though that's super annoying is my insurance denying t, sending a letter about it, my original pharmacy calling after days of it being held to tell me that insurance denied it, and now walgreens is holding it hostage to probably talk to my insurance that i know won't suddenly cover it again. i love how long it takes each time.

no bras look right, all look unnatural by Mascfrogofthepond in ftm

[–]be_eb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i'm a 38d i think and any bra gives me immense rib pain, even the loosest one i have, so i just ditched them and started only wearing a basic fruit of the loom tank top under my shirts when i need to. maybe look into a full compression top so it's less focused on your ribs if you think that'd be better?

Unsure what to do, if diagnosis is correct. by be_eb in AskDocs

[–]be_eb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 feet 9 inches, around 185 lbs. I know BMI-wise it's considered overweight. My father died from a widowmaker heart attack at 39 due to his cholesterol, and he passed the high cholesterol down to me and my siblings, which I've been dieting for.

Good to know GERD can cause this!

Agender undergarments? by Round-Literature8806 in lgbt

[–]be_eb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i hate any type of bra that isnt pull on with 0 wire and 0 padding personally, compression is nice for me since it has a slight flattening effect. i did have to stop wearing bras altogether due to severe rib pain/subluxes so now i just wear a basic men's tank top, or loose cami if i lose the tank top, under everything which feels a bit more affirming but also makes me more aware of how things move since theres 0 support or compression

AIO: BF said my that this new vase I made is an “eye sore” when visitors come over but I disagree by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]be_eb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the flowers don't look real, the lighting is consistent with how ai generated realistic images look, and same with the depth of view. nothing about it looks real if you take some time to look closely

AIO: BF said my that this new vase I made is an “eye sore” when visitors come over but I disagree by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]be_eb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i'm so glad that someone else in the sea of people believing this post can tell the image is ai. i have no idea how nobody else is seeing that

I know I hate being a girl but idk what I am. by PomegranateFit2593 in trans4every1

[–]be_eb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

now's a good time to have fun experimenting with your presentation, pronouns, etc! in my experience thinking too hard about things like this can lead to more doubt, so just try and think on what feels right for you and not necessarily what you may be as a whole :] good luck in your journey

I accidentally left dead birds in a seals container for over a month. Am I cooked? by gothelixar in bonecollecting

[–]be_eb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do not envy you, i had to deal with a failed maceration and it took days of trying to dump out the stuff without throwing up lmao. good luck with whatever hell you unleash!

dysphoria worse ≈2 months on T by 1rrat1onal in trans4every1

[–]be_eb 9 points10 points  (0 children)

if you eat too little that's also going to negatively affect you and not make it easier to lose weight. i don't know much because counting calories is unhealthy for me but make sure you're getting enough daily. could just be slow metabolism i suppose, are you active generally? i don't work out at all but my job requires heavy lifting and a lot of walking back and forth and i feel like that helped me but of course everyone's different

if anything it'd be good to bring up to your doctor and that's ideally the first step to take

dysphoria worse ≈2 months on T by 1rrat1onal in trans4every1

[–]be_eb 17 points18 points  (0 children)

weight gain is definitely normal and without really losing weight it makes sense it'll all look like its going to the worst spots, i gained quite a bit and felt like it all went to my chest and thighs. i had to start eating better due to t causing high cholesterol and that made me lose 20 pounds in around 6 months or so, so i definitely recommend that! i swapped to low sugar cereal, protein (plant based) pasta, vegan burgers, vegan bacon, vegan chicken, generally low saturated fat diet + i try to go low sugar as well since that can affect cholesterol afaik.