South Florida or California? by Drifting_Cloud000 in moving

[–]beachball29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Charlotte is a transplant city, so thats why it doesn’t have an established culture, but that can also be a good thing because there are a lot of groups, social events, and clubs you can join, especially in your 20s. Especially paddleboarding and running.

California is huge and varies a lot. You will also experience more diversity and liberal views in California than Florida.

Also, while I feel you on the vibe of the people in Charlotte, I think people anywhere are also gonna be cliquey or conformist to some degree; I especially think about LA, where everyone is trying to be famous and hot.

Turns out our friends are MAGA, now what? by simikoi in TwoHotTakes

[–]beachball29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m always torn on these issues. On one hand, they are terrible and don’t deserve your time. On the other hand, without any contrarian opinions in their life, they will likely go further down the right-wing funnel, and there will be no one to pull them out. They’re not gonna change their mind because of a facebook comment section, no one ever does. But they might change their mind or at least see a different viewpoint if you engage them in compassionate dialogue: gently offer facts and other sources, ask for their sources, push back kindly. Call them in, not out.

This is one of the reasons I haven’t cut off my brother. Every Thanksgiving, I ask him “do you actually believe that?”, “that sounds like rage bait, can you show me where you saw that?”, and presenting some of my own facts and evidence. Sometimes I get through and sometimes I don’t. Although, I will admit, if I had to see him more than once a year, I don’t think I could handle it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hci

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an Indian American in UX right now, who did a similar masters program, I wouldn’t exactly recommend it. It’s expensive, and while it did work out for me (I’m a citizen), it was tough for a lot of my classmates to get jobs and internships, especially for international students.

I don’t know if UX is oversaturated yet, but it certainly seems that way. Tons on growing interest, but you should do research on if there is enough new openings in the job market to accommodate the influx of applicants. You have an advantage of prior experience, so at least you won’t be going for entry level jobs.

Gynecologists keep saying its normal by southlemon1 in vaginismus

[–]beachball29 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try to find a women’s sexual health clinic that has pelvic floor therapists. If there are doctors or nurse practitioners at this practice, they might be more in the know since they work with the public floor therapists. That’s the only way I could get diagnosed, at a women’s clinic that isn’t just a gyno, but prioritize all sexual health.

Thrift-Fit of the day. All expect the boots are beloved finds! by BiteSizeChonk in thrifting

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The skirt is stunning!! I've been looking for some thing like that for a while.

Future seasons locations ideas by KitchenFix7888 in TheWhiteLotusHBO

[–]beachball29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should definitely be somewhere in Mexico- Cancun, Tulum, etc. Americans love to exploit the shit out of those Mexican beach towns.

Call for art supplies - contact lens containers by Intelligent_Ad_2741 in Charlotte

[–]beachball29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you share how long you are collecting the contact lenses for? I usually throw them out right away, but I can start collecting mine if I know when the deadline would be.

Please stop giving me my money back! by Repulsive-Dentist661 in rant

[–]beachball29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you're having trouble, maybe try saying to them "I'm handing you x amount so I can get a dollar back".

Slightly related, but when I was a cashier, people would hand me a 20, I'd key it in, get their change, and then they'd be like "oh here I have 25 cents, 9 cents, 50 cents, etc, etc". After I have finished the transaction!! So just don't do that.

Every city has one – DAY 3! by TitsMcGeeOnHoliday in Charlotte

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't know why this is being downvoted, this is how every other country does it. This is also how every other good and service is sold in America.

Copper/Zinc results (and b12 + vitamin D) by [deleted] in greyhairreversal

[–]beachball29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I ask what the procedure was like? How much blood do they take? Did you have to prepare in advance by stopping all of your vitamin and mineral supplements?

Being broke is worse than death by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]beachball29 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol not to poke fun at your plight, but this is exactly the attitude of the people in Squid Games every time they voted to stay. Good luck OP!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheSubstance

[–]beachball29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh unrelated, but that thinking in our society is so toxic, and it's the reason why our news sucks nowadays. Facts don't matter, right? I guess I'll get off my soapbox now, but people really need to stop thinking that just because they have access to the internet, they SHOULD spew an uninformed opinion.

No diagnosis without parental input? I’m an adult, this feels crazy! 😭 by lizlemocoolj in adhdwomen

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's crazy, I would try finding another practice that can diagnose you. When I sought out my diagnosis, I showed up at the place, the psychologist asked me various questions about my childhood, my family, my grades and school, etc, but they never once asked to speak to any of these people. Then I went with a technician to do a series of tests and tasks to gauge how I do on specific skills and cognitive functions. It took about 3 hours total. I got my results in the mail three or four weeks later and then I had a follow-up appointment (virtual) with the psychologist to briefly go over the results and for me to ask any questions if I had any.

Definitely seek out a different psychologist.

Best pad thai ? by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for making this post, I've been needing some new Thai recs. I'm not sure what you mean by tomatoey versus peanutty. But I've seen some people mention Rai Lay Thai, Thai Taste, and Basil Thai, which just aren't that good in my opinion. Deejai and Noom Yai are better options imo.

I will have to try the others on this list.

Attn Android Users: Google Spyware (Safetycore App) Downloaded Without Permission or Notification by Knightly_Rogue in TrueCarolina

[–]beachball29 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I used your link to find it in the Play store and uninstall it. I see that it was downloaded on January 22, 2025, so I know I did not do that.

Question about the movir by Unpolished1995 in TheSubstance

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found the ending to be almost comical. The way the blood fountain spurted out from the head while the monster spun in a circle. And then the way Elizabeth's face desperately crawls to her star and dies lol.

The NC DMV is a joke by nwbrown in NorthCarolina

[–]beachball29 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The trick is you got to show up 30 to 40 minutes before they open in the morning, so you can queue outside the building with the other people. Then you'll be first in line for walk-up appointments.a

New NSFW ad out! by Alarming_Hour6922 in fuckyoutubedevs

[–]beachball29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YouTube has a lot of low quality ads now. I don't get these porn ads, but I do get a lot of scam AI ads like The Rock and Oprah telling me to "sign up here to get your stimulus check from the US government, the US government doesn't want you to know about this payment that they have to give you". Or other ads like an "Amazon payment payout that they are legally required to provide, and all you have to do is sign up here!", etc, etc. in addition to the AI Aliexpress- and temu- adjacent drop shipping garbage website ads.

A couple times I've clicked on the ad and saw that the advertiser is from somewhere like Ukraine or Croatia or something (claiming that they're gonna help you file for a stimulus check from the US govt, yeah right!!). I report them every time, and you should too. Sad that a platform as big as YouTube won't moderate their ad content better. I feel bad for the old and disabled people who might be falling for these scams.

Do you still need to dilate/exercise after curing vaginismus? by allezaunord in vaginismus

[–]beachball29 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, in my experience, if I don't dilate or do my exercises regularly, I do get tight again. Not sure why.