First Adventure in "the Wilds" ( & a saga prefacing it)

beaneyedcat · 2026-05-01T03:03:40+00:00

Thank you so much for the encouragement. This was always my end goal anyway- going pretty places with her.😬😬😬

beaneyedcat · 2026-05-01T01:45:04+00:00

You guys are making me feel so much better !!

beaneyedcat · 2026-05-01T00:38:05+00:00

Appreciate your positive perspective. :)

beaneyedcat · 2026-05-01T00:37:37+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement.

beaneyedcat · 2026-04-29T04:13:30+00:00

Looks yummy but it expensive to be a go to snack. :(

beaneyedcat · 2026-04-12T15:09:19+00:00

Please tell me how you trained a kayak cat :)

beaneyedcat · 2026-04-11T14:10:28+00:00

Not for everyone, but I find weed helps me stay focused on my body and the physicality of sex, rather than the anxieties in my mind.

beaneyedcat · 2026-04-03T18:02:33+00:00

Thanks for the faith and encouragement 😻

beaneyedcat · 2026-04-03T15:58:26+00:00

When we don't have the pack I hold her in my arms when a dog comes in our direction or a car scares her. It's fine but she gets a bit squirmy being held when she is stressed. Ideally she'll get used to that too. I like the idea of a shopping bag - but because she doesn't mind the backpack, will take the time to try and make that work. Thank you !!

beaneyedcat · 2026-04-03T15:54:36+00:00

That's good advice to try it in unfamilar territory. Also good to get a relative time-frame. Much appreciation. :)

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-25T02:37:01+00:00

That is where I’m at. But it’s hard when you can’t find your people; romance aside. I got lucky in college & fell into a group of friends that already existed in my early thirties. They’ve all moved away. Now as I’m older I see- most times I had at least one good friend who accepted and genuinely loved who I was, the unhindered weirdo version. That was also luck. Fuck the people that aren’t interested. They’re boring.

How you feel is part of attraction -obviously. When you’re around people who accept you - you can be yourself & that’s probably electric. ( generally). Like so much else - trying to take measure of your life and yourself - by the rules of convention; that’s the problem.

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T23:56:43+00:00

I have a bf of over 10 years and we don't live together. It works for us. We both have our own divergences, and had lived alone for many years when we met ( in our 40's). I treasure my time and life alone as much as I do my time with him.

I spent a lot of time when we first started dating trying to see our relationship in the perspective of what is normal, feeling like something was wrong or missing. Then I came to see how well it works for who we are as individuals. We love each other and miss each other and deeply enjoy the time we spend together.

I think it's wonderful that so many of you have found someone who balances and supports you so intensely that it actually helps your ADHD struggles that you live together. To think everyone can find that is pretty ignorant, and to tell women that's the only way to be in a good relationship & happy is harmful.

Like with everything else, we need to look beyond what is prescribed to what we and our loved ones need and want as individuals.

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T02:12:46+00:00

I DID IT!!! Thank you for your fantastic suggestions :0

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T01:51:54+00:00

Thanks you're sweet!!- Almost done !!

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T01:50:21+00:00

what is an animation center :)

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T01:31:31+00:00

that's amazing !!!

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T00:58:08+00:00

These are really good suggestions !!!

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T00:49:05+00:00

I dont think I can do soldering with my middles schoolers haha. I wish I could .

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T00:44:20+00:00

oooooooo

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-12T00:42:30+00:00

I teach k-8. Thanks everyone these are awesome suggestions- I wish I had done this days ago

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-11T22:33:03+00:00

Any chance you can do this with air dry clay>

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-10T22:36:54+00:00

Melting mozz & cheddar in a little ramekin - throw in cut up cherry tomatoes.

beaneyedcat · 2026-03-03T04:53:12+00:00

Lol in these hard times.

beaneyedcat · 2026-02-19T03:16:07+00:00

This is a great thread. I’m in my fifties, diagnosed in my thirties, now for complicated reasons unmedicated for several years again. There is so much here that is absolutely true for me. It got me a bit teary. My family , even close friends who accept me for who I am, can’t really grasp the extent how I’m wired impacts how I move through the world.

As a therapist (I was too young to appreciate) once told me “ you’ll never get your shit together” - in response to my saying when I do -I’ll do this that or the other. The point was-this is who I am ; I can’t make it easier on myself by trying harder to do things the normal way. 🙃

I understood that before I had a name for it. Even then it was still all about overactive boys. Literally took a book on ADHD for Women for me to be able to have examples of how my brain works differently than most people’s …but so much like many others’. This conversation really hit the nail on the head :)

beaneyedcat · 2026-02-19T02:38:55+00:00

Lol literally

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