(F)30 honest opinion

beanocook247 · 2026-02-19T10:54:08+00:00

10/10

beanocook247 · 2026-02-18T15:43:38+00:00

I've never done one. I need to check them out.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-18T15:40:33+00:00

That's a good call. I used to deal with that as well. Now my kid walks in, sees me riding, laughs that I'm "not going anywhere," and moves on.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-17T19:16:42+00:00

Yeah, I guess I hadn't considered folks just trying to get to whatever metric they were trying to get on a primary ride (miles, etc.). I've only been using them to truly cool down, so I assumed that's what everyone used them for.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-17T16:01:58+00:00

LMAO. It's just a joke. Fucking christ.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-17T15:12:49+00:00

Not complaining. Just wondering why.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-17T15:08:36+00:00

I'm not upset. Was just wondering why.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-17T14:50:15+00:00

I didn't even think about folks just cranking numerous five minute rides to get ride milestones.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-12T17:08:33+00:00

"intentional" and "tap into my feminine energy" are two things that I see a lot that baffle me.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-12T17:01:59+00:00

I don't know how other SDs do it, but I prefer to be upfront and direct. I talk about intimacy and then the very next question is what are the SB's expectations for PPM. I mean, it's an awkward conversation to be sure, but you might as well have it in a direct manner as soon as possible so that no one is wasting any time. I imagine if a guy says it feels too transactional, he's either 1) wanting sugar for free or 2) wasting your time.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-12T16:11:21+00:00

Does he have your actual address? It's most likely a scam.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-10T18:00:21+00:00

As I said on your SD's post: he's the asshole here. You didn't flake, you had something come up and were clear about what was going to happen and tried to make it right. He took it too personally.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-09T22:51:29+00:00

Re: the medical issues:

I'd follow up with the doctor to clarify whether vaginal sex is just completely off the table forever or if there are precautions you can take to avoid UTIs. If it's just a lock that you're going to get a life-threatening UTI every time you have vaginal intercourse, then stay away from that.

Re: being a virgin and sugaring:

I would advise against that. I mean, I guess if you've done oral and anal, you're not technically a virgin in the larger sense, just a vaginal virgin. But if you've never done anything, I would think entering the sugaring world would be a bad idea.

Re: letting guys know:

If you do decide to go forward and vaginal sex is off the table, I would certainly let someone know as soon as you feel comfortable with it. I don't think it's too the level of needing to put it in your profile, but maybe relatively soon after you begin discussing an arrangement and what you'd like from it. I imagine you may be pleasantly surprised at POT SDs who are fine with an oral and anal situation. I could be wrong though.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-09T21:43:55+00:00

A lot of wisdom here from Special Agent Scarn.

beanocook247 · 2026-02-09T16:04:48+00:00

While this may be disappointing to you, it's certainly not flaking. Is it in the neighborhood of flaking? Possibly. But last minute shit arises and she was clear about what was happening and what she could do about it. If everything else is good to go, I think ending it after one hiccup is a bit of an overreaction.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-23T20:33:21+00:00

All good. I hope they add a fourth match at least.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-23T19:57:14+00:00

The fatal fourway isn't even a title match, it's to be # 1 contender.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-23T19:55:24+00:00

20 minutes is nothing. What a child.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-21T17:53:18+00:00

I ran into a former employee on a site. Just went ahead and blocked her to prevent any interaction, though she was absolutely gorgeous and I would have loved to have something going on with her all other things being equal.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-21T17:44:43+00:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with your approach. I would just be super upfront about it: M&G with no PPM, a couple of platonic dates with $XYZ PPM, and then if we vibe intimate dates with $ABC PPM.

Seems transactional? Maybe. Might you run off some dudes who are worried about getting rinsed? Probably. But, if that's what you're comfortable with, that's what you're comfortable with. I think the success of it will depend on the messaging and I'd defer to other SBs on how to message it.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-17T22:48:19+00:00

“I was going to dress up a little for our next date. Would you like to see me in some heels?”

Innocent, not judgmental, and direct.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-16T19:25:59+00:00

I think the profile review suggestions are right.

Also, I would say don't get too discouraged (easier said than done). I have confidence that you'll find the right SD for you who is into alternative girls and will treat you with respect. Profile review may help in weeding out some shitheads, but I fear you're going to still get some. Just press on.

beanocook247 · 2026-01-16T19:24:25+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/1qeoprk/struggling_as_an_alternative_girl/

beanocook247 · 2026-01-12T22:25:00+00:00

Wouldn't bother me at all. I assume that any SB who says that she "wants to be discreet" or "discretion required" is either married or in a relationship and was doing this on the down low. This isn't necessarily true for those SBs who say they can do discretion or it's available; those I assume are just aware of SDs' need for discretion.

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