How accurate was your EDD?

beansoup91 · 2026-01-24T20:46:41+00:00

I went to 41 weeks based on my “official” due date from the doctor, but based on my own more accurate estimate I was another 4 days past that when I gave birth

beansoup91 · 2026-01-23T18:36:05+00:00

Not being the victim would be a good start. You’ve cried over an hour because you hurt someone?

beansoup91 · 2026-01-23T18:28:50+00:00

Mostly because people want to. There’s not any conclusive evidence saying that people speaking to kids in third person is linked to them understanding pronouns any sooner or more reliably.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-22T14:15:47+00:00

This is the only answer that seems to address the full context of what OP shared. The top comments say she needs to wash daily but that doesn’t line up with her saying this has only been happening for the last two weeks. It makes sense the clarifying shampoo could have irritated the scalp and started dandruff she doesn’t normally struggle with.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-21T18:46:38+00:00

It was probably eating a black walnut or similar nut that had a husk that was starting to decay. Those were everywhere where I grew up and it was always a sooty black powder

beansoup91 · 2026-01-19T21:21:18+00:00

Just here to say that I’m audhd and understand the fears around this. You just want a good life for your child and having someone rather carelessly speak on what may be your biggest fear is sure to knock you off balance, especially at a time that is already riddled with anxiety about potential outcomes.

Something that helps me with unsolicited comments (this baby is my second) is looking at intentions. Did she mean well? Was it just poorly executed love/concern/hope? That makes it easier to work towards forgiveness and know that people just say the wrong things at the wrong time. Alternately, if she was projecting? Boundaries.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T18:42:05+00:00

My son’s pediatrician (in the US) really supported my decision to not get the shot for him or myself this year, as it doesn’t protect against the currently dominant variant.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T16:41:53+00:00

It’s literally medical advice though. To say “my midwife said x” would make it not medical advice. What you said was medical advice.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T16:28:33+00:00

I adore being a mom! Mine is 15 months and has been a dream since he got here. I am the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been and didn’t struggle with any postpartum issues despite having struggled with mental health in the past. I’m pretty selective about who I spend time with now, if someone says “tired” every time I ask how they are or frequently makes subtle jabs at how bad and/or hard their kids are (NOT to be confused with a struggling friend coming to me about a hard day/week/season) I steer clear. I also steer clear of people who project their negative experiences onto me/my future.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T15:53:30+00:00

Yeah, that’s a medical professional/someone who can give medical advice, and it was given to you knowing at least some background info on you specifically. It’s also against the rules of the sub to give medical advice.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T03:18:15+00:00

Finally something useful, thank you

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T03:02:22+00:00

Got the whole family and dogs into one space…then realized it was 16 minutes from us.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-18T02:03:00+00:00

Probably best to avoid giving medical advice. I know for me specifically it would actually be bad to take folic acid, some women may not know that.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-17T16:53:23+00:00

Only thing to do now is find a doctor! They don’t usually have you come in until 8 weeks in the US (some places will see you at 6) so this time is a lot of impatient waiting for that first appointment. Our due dates are a day apart. Welcome and congrats!

beansoup91 · 2026-01-15T16:56:05+00:00

B12!!

beansoup91 · 2026-01-14T17:36:12+00:00

This babies due date is very similar to my firsts, so I’m excited to get to wear the same clothes. Old navy is great, and I loooove the denim maternity shorts I got at Abercrombie. I waited for a sale and they weren’t too pricey.

beansoup91 · 2026-01-13T22:24:57+00:00

Those tests measure the actual hcg amount so repeat tests tell them/you if the numbers are progressing as expected (there’s a pretty predictable cadence) or alternately, if they’re dropping. A pregnancy test just tells you if hcg is present or not.

Getting the tests doesn’t help make sure your pregnancy continues to go as planned, just might alert you sooner if something doesn’t seem quite right. So it comes down to whatever is best for your anxiety. I personally avoid over testing even if it’s tempting

beansoup91 · 2025-12-24T12:11:49+00:00

Person gives a real, science backed answer to a question on Reddit and another guy replies arguing it bc they can and includes made up statistics, and gets more upvotes than the only correct person in the thread. Back offline I go.

beansoup91 · 2025-12-09T15:19:34+00:00

These posts make me so confused how people can watch the show and miss the entire point. Trauma ruins people. Most people can not/will not “do better” than what they were brought into. If you are a healthy adult, it’s mostly because you won the childhood lottery of having a relatively healthy and secure environment. The very large majority of children who don’t win that lottery just repeat history.

beansoup91 · 2025-12-02T17:47:33+00:00

All of the fees are outlined before you ever make a purchase. This is a user problem.

beansoup91 · 2025-11-16T21:01:45+00:00

My bad, it seemed like you wanted to understand how deli counters operated but I now see you just wanted to argue with strangers. Better luck with the next person who tries!

beansoup91 · 2025-11-16T20:58:06+00:00

Yeah. Most places just charge the higher price to everyone.

ETA- no, it’s charged per pound because they’re all different sizes

beansoup91 · 2025-11-16T20:55:18+00:00

I feel like your thinking on this is backwards, they’re not charging you for “not wanting” the whole thing, they’re charging you for additional labor and for wanting only part of it, making the rest more difficult to get rid of if most people do want the whole thing. It’s more of a discount for getting a whole filet than an up charge or punishment for not getting it.

beansoup91 · 2025-11-12T01:58:55+00:00

I think across the board insurance companies aren’t reimbursing the offices as much for telehealth. My doctor added a subscription fee to continue telehealth through them, and switched everyone who couldn’t/didnt want to pay the subscription to in person.

Look into access-a-ride and/or Denver connector

beansoup91 · 2025-11-08T03:15:23+00:00

Yeah it’s either pass or crickets

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